Hi my name is Alaina, and I've been remaining pure, and living for God, doing everything he wants me to do. I've never had sex, done nething sexual, I dont drink, smoke, go to parties, or nething bad. I havnt met a good man that i pray for, but The man i pray for will God send me him one day?
If i keep on doing what i am doing, living for him?
I just cry sometimes at night, praying to God for healing, and help send that man.
And would some of you all pray for me...Thank I love u all very much!
2006-07-16 12:41:23 · 29 answers · asked by inthisskin22x 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I agree you shouldnt give into sexual temptation unless you have found that right man....But have you ever thought that maybe God wants you to be alone...i mean maybe even for the rest of your life...and you just have to accept that. Sometimes we don't always get things we want...especially if we pray for things like a man. You should stop dwelling on the things you don't have and focus on what you do have. Maybe thats the way god really wants it for you.
2006-07-16 12:46:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
First stop praying and start doing.
No, I'm not saying praying is bad or anything. All I'm saying is that praying is not going to make a good guy just happen to come to your house saying, "I'm a good guy, Will you marry me?" It doesn't work that way. You actually have to look for him and work to get him.
Now I answer this for alot of people. "How do I find that good guy or girl?"
It's easier then you think.
Most of the good people are right out in the open, but we can not see them. This is mostly because the bad ones are very visable.
To actually find them you can go anywhere; a mall, a bar, library, ect. ect. Stop looking at the people that comes unto you and start looking for a person who sits in a corner or seems like they are trying to hide.
The truth is a good guy is ussually depressed. They actually believe the motto, "Good guys finish last". In most cases they are right. Yes, those people that you have ignored your whole life is the good guys. There depression can be turned around ussually just by a smile. In other words you have noticed them.
the other benefit to these guys is ussually you can mold them into something great. For example some of these guys will not be motivated even though they can do much more then an average man. In other words some of them are what people call geeks (not to be confused with nerds). They are highly intellegent without motavation.
These guy will never treat you badly, mostly because they worship the ground you walk on.
2006-07-16 13:06:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can pray all you want, but it's you walking around in the outside world that will get you the man you want. God can't sent the man you pray for to your door--because the poor guy would get locked away for stalking.
How do you know God doesn't want you to date? Surely there are stories in the Bible of approved courting rituals, and what is dating but modernized courting?
Get out there and enjoy your life. Keep your virginity until you find what you believe is the right guy--but the odds you'll be able to tell without dating experience are slim. Go to parties. Have fun--don't drink. Join clubs. Participate in your church's youth group. Be a summer camp counselor. Hang out at the mall, at car shows, at concerts. And don't be worried if the first guy you meet and fall in love with isn't the right one.
If you are out and about, love will find you--maybe while you're least expecting it.
Good luck to you.
2006-07-16 12:50:17 · answer #3 · answered by bracken46 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure that is what you really want?? We could pray that God sends you a good man, but what if you were meant to serve the lord in some other capacity? What if all that you have abstained from was just the first steps to you becoming a nun? Think about it and then ask this question again.
2006-07-16 12:47:22 · answer #4 · answered by Just me.... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll pray for you for sure.
If God doesn't seem to be answering a prayer at the moment, he's doing something you can't quite understand yet. But when he reveals it to you, it is AMAZING. Have faith, and find strength in your suffering.
He's always with you. Remember Abraham wanted a son? He had to wait flippin' 100 years for God. But what a man God turned him into during his trial.
God's sweet just trust him. He loves you and I promise He's got more than any man. So rejoice that you can share a relationship with HIM.
God bless, Alaina.
2006-07-16 12:47:53 · answer #5 · answered by JimmieHendrix05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Alaina, From what Ive read in your question, You sound like a wonderful person. Keep on praying and following the Lord. Im sure one day soon a christian man who loves God as much as you do will meet you. He will be blessed to have you as his wife. keep the faith, and God bless you!
2006-07-16 12:56:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went to a wedding last May. The bride was 23 and the groom was 24. The bride never dated anyone until she met the groom. She took a vow not to date until she saw the man she would marry. She ask God to keep her pure. Her first kiss was at her wedding. God answered her prayers. She is happy.
2006-07-16 12:49:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kinda envy you. Neither my wife nor I stayed pure. We came into our marriage with a distorted, and unbiblical idea of what sex is supposed to be. This has caused a lot of heartache for both of us. I hope you are familiar with Joshua Harris. If not read his books. He basically says that our focus should be on serving God. I you do this then the man you find will be one who also loves to serve the Lord. The better he serves the Lord, the better he will be for you and the better you serve the Lord the better you will be for him.
God Bless You
You are in many prayers.
2006-07-16 13:04:09 · answer #8 · answered by unicorn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Alaina,
Its too late for me, I didn't wait and stay pure for God. But if I'd met you before I strayed. I would love to be in love with you, for the rest of my life, with God in the center of our relationship, and therefore married with you. You are the most wonderful loving, and God fearing person I've ever met in my whole life. I love you deeply. God is now, in the center of my life. I do enjoy knowing that, you are my sister in Christ, and love you. You are a blessing for me. I LOVE YOU VERY MUCH AND ALWAYS WILL, MY SWEETHEART. I agree with most of the responses, especial Danny who is 31, he is giving you beautiful witness and advice. Sweetheart, God loves you and will honor you. Keep believing. I love you and am a changed man because of you. Thank you!!! with love and respect.
Forever yours,
Ted
2006-07-17 00:04:32 · answer #9 · answered by Knucklehead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God bless you and bless you and bless you. I know your struggle because I'm going through it too. Everything you have done I've done too - cried, prayed, yearned, pleaded, begged, lol. But know this: God knows that you are keeping yourself pure and He knows your heart. He knows all of your wants and desires, and He wants to give them to you. But, being the good Father that He is, He will not give them to you until He knows that you are ready for them. Sometimes the pain and loneliness can get so bad, and sometimes you may even feel that you ARE ready, but rest assured that God is taking care of you.
I, myself am waiting for that one special woman. I'm 31 years old, and am saving myself for marriage also (trust me, I've had more opportunities that I can count to do otherwise :)). I know your pain lol.
Keep strong and focus on setting goals for yourself, and then get to work to accomplish those goals. Nothing is worse for you than boredom and not having anything to do (it drives me nuts when I have nothing to do). I don't know how old you are, but keep strong with God, and get busy with your life.
God has him picked out for you already, but He's waiting until the two of you are ready for each other at the same time.
God bless,
Danny
2006-07-16 13:01:14 · answer #10 · answered by Danny H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋