Why is it okay to rip families apart just because one of the parents came here illegally?

Question

My husband is in the process of being deported. He was ripped away from my 11 month old daughter and I have been left to support her on my own. He has always supported us before now. I agree that people should come here legally but maybe they would if they didn't have to pay money that they don't have, and didn't have to wait for years! I don't for one minute regret meeting and falling in love with my husband, an illegal immigrant, because if I hadn't, I wouldn't have this beautiful little girl. What makes me sick is that most people think it's okay to rip them away from thier families and drop them off across the border with no means of survival, and it doesn't matter who they leave behind, or who has to suffer! This country claims to always put children first...well, where are they when my daughter is crying for her daddy? I guess it's just all the nonsense people here on tv and radio that they seem to believe is true!

And to you who say it's the law, it was also the law in the old Soviet Union that people couldn't read bibles and if they did they were ripped out of thier homes and away from thier families, does that make it right? Shouldn't we look at the higher law of humanitarism and the law of God? Thank God people in the past didn't always follow the law of the land, or we wouldn't have the freedoms we have today!

and I AM LEGAL!!!

NOT EVERY ILLEGAL IS A DRUG DEALER!!!! And, no, getting married changes nothing anymore. We have tried!!

HOW MANY TIMES DO I NEED TO REPEAT...I AM LEGAL!!! I WAS BORN HERE AND AM A US CITIZEN!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

It is not a good idea at all. And I am very surprised the Government takes such thoughtless actions.
Why people are screaming about immigrants is that Americans feel very vulnerable and are just blaming everything and anybody just as long as it makes them feel better.
Be strong. There is information you need to know. This is a good start, but keep searching. Ask more questions about the what you can do to help yourself in this situation, but ask specific question like, "how do I find assistance with childcare in my situation".
(And, don't let others get you down, because they just have nothing better to do with their lives.)

Answer 2

I feel for you, I really do, but there is always the option to move to Mexico with him. Not to mention that if he is still in the process of being deported you can bail him out for $7000 and he can ask a judge to leave voluntarilly, that way he will not have to wait 10 years to come legally. You could start the immigration process and only live in Mexico about a year and a half. Then he will have all the opportunities that he didnt as an illegal immigrant! My friend is in the situation, she is doing the same thing, but she is not married to him and it makes it harder. Since you are already married, if you started the process already, then you can ask a judge to let him wait it out here in the US. Get a lawyer. If it is too late, and he has already been deported, then either you will have to go and stay in Mexico (in order to be together) or he can come back illegally, if he does and gets caught, he cannot get papers! It does suck to tear families apart, but there are ways to fix it. I wish you the best of luck. My husband is now a permanent resident, it is such a load of my mind!

Answer 3

all countries around the whold have laws, those laws help to maintain a healthy society. Everyone has to live by the same laws, just like driving if everyone drives following the same laws then driving is a safe practice. Immigration laws are no different if your husband would have followed the law then your daughter and you would not be suffering. he caused the pain. America has the most open immigration laws in the world. It is easy to follow the law and become an American citizen. He choose to do it his way now you and your daughter pay the price and he get exported for 10 years. Thats right if someone come into the country illegally and get exported they can not come back to this country for 10 years.

Answer 4

Who paid for your prenatal care? Who paid for the delivery
and is still paying child care? I can only guess.
He broke the law, and you abetted him.
You probably thought that if you had a baby together, they
wouldn't deport him because of the baby's legal status as
a citizen of the United States. Well, you were wrong.
The 13th amendment to the United States constitution was
specifically for the plight of the African slaves. They had no
rights as human beings and they were here thru no choice
of their own.
Take heart in knowing that you are not the only one it is
happening to.
Every year, there are thousands of new immigrants who be-
come United States citizens. They value and cherish their citizenship because of the long struggle and hard work it
took for them to achive their dream.
There are thousands working thru the system as I am
answering your question, knowing full well that if they go
thru the legal process their hard earned citizenship can
never ever be taken from them.That their right to freedom
and their persiut of happiness will never be infringed upon.
What about them?? Do you really think that they like the
idea that people like your husband got to the head of the
line illigally, just because he married a United States citizen
and went ahead and fathered an other United States citizen?
I know you are looking for answers that are sympathetic to
your cause, but try as I may, I just don't have one of those.
All is not lost though. When your husband gets to his country
of origin, you both can start the legal prosses of getting him
back to the United States. You'll be his sponser. If his employer
is willing to sponser him as well, his case will be put on the
fast track and you won't have to wait as long to be toghether
again. My sincere empathy goes out to you and your family.
I hope you fare well in your quest to reunite your it. Please
follow the legal prosses, OK? Good luck.

Answer 5

I thought if a citizen married an illegal that action made them legal. If you have an 11 month child, lets see hubby must have been here for about 2 years already, why hasn't he applied for citizenship? Maybe it is the both of you knowing that your hubby is here illegally and choosing to bring a child into the relationship, is where the fault lies. Don't blame our government sister, your hubby broke the law. And dont tell me these illegals have no money, what are they paying their mules with, drugs?

Answer 6

BOO HOO Listen if you and your husband had followed the rules he wouldn't be heading back to Mexico. Yea I'm sure it hurts but don't expect the rest of America to lose any sleep over your little plight. If any thing you are hurting your cause merely by saying that we should feel bad for you what's next. oh feel sorry for the drug dealer off to prison because he has kids, or the rapist, or the child molester, hey what about the Enron people who went to jail I'm sure that they had families and they still went hell Martha Stewart went. You want to know where America needs to put their sympathy.... how about the families who go years with out seeing sons, daughters, mothers, fathers, husbands etc who leave and deploy to live in conditions that would make a Mexican slum lord cringe that's who you need to feel for. I hope you have read this now take a second and calm down...............Good now go get you man a green card a get him his citizenship

Answer 7

I think you just have to except the fact this is not a perfect world and what you choose to do you have to take the responsibility and feel the responsibility for your actions. This also happens in Mexico and they are not as nice as the U.S. You may not like the policy but this is a nation of laws. America does more for children then any other nation on earth. If your problem is that hard pressed why not go be with hubby instead of complaining about America enforcing their laws.. You have to do your part as well!!

Answer 8

I regret that you have had to under go this adverse experience. I do not know how you feel, but I could begin to guess. However, you are a rare case to a national law. Coming to this country in the way that you did, for whatever reason, was illegal. With that said, risks were taken. The outcome of that risk is the situation that you are going thru now. If you really want to have your daughter reunited with him, then follow him back. Then apply for admittance according to US law. I'm regretful for what you are enduring.

Answer 9

Your husband broke the law! Just like someone elses husband who robbed a bank or someones husband who rapped someone else!! Why is he being deported? Illegal immigrants usually have to brake the law in order to be caught. Police don't just walk up to people and make sure they are here legally. He must have been doing something else illegal to be caught being here illegal. If he loved you and his daughter so much, he sould have done things the legal way.

Answer 10

While I understand your point and sympathize with your situation, please consider that this is true of ANY criminal. Any person who breaks the law and is arrested is ripped away from his or her family. Children have seen their fathers or mothers handcuffed, put into police cars and taken away without any real explanation or understanding of what is going on. Does having a spouse and child exempt people from paying for their crimes? Should criminals of any nationality and citizenship status be allowed to do whatever they want to do when they want to do with no regard to the laws that govern the land in which they live? If so, then what is the point of having laws and law makers?

Answer 11

You are in the process of experiencing what happens when you try to build a future on a lie...it will ALWAYS crumble....Don't try to tell me that you didn't know that someday this would happen...you don't have to have your family "ripped apart" you can become the illegal yourself by following him to his country. If anything I have sympathy for the little girl who apparently did nothing...it is you and your husband that caused the grief in this little girls life and now you are pointing fingers at America for doing the right thing.