Is it OK the ask your guests at you wedding to wear all the same color?

Question

I would like all of my guests to wear: black, white or gray.......it doesn't matter if they mix or match......What do you think?

Wow....Some of you can get mean with your answers...My wedding colors are white, black and red (roses). very romantic, not a funeral. I'm sorry, I should have mentioned that... The reason why I thought it would be nice to have the guests all wear the same color, is because the pictures would be amazing. Most people go shopping for a new outfit for a wedding neways....and who doesn't have black pants and a white shirt in their closet?

Answer 1

Absolutely not. That is the most ridiculous thing I ever heard of. It's not only rude, it's inconsiderate and self-centered. You sound like a Bridezilla to me -- that it's more important how people look than that you provide them with an enjoyable event where they feel welcome and comfortable.

You seem to have forgotten the meaning of the wedding -- to share your vows with those closest to you -- and the reception -- to provide your guests with food and drink and to thank them for witnessing the "happy" occasion. It is not a stage where you get to dictate the wardrobe of the players. If I ever got an invitation telling me what color to wear, I'd decline the "honor" and pity the poor groom.

Answer 2

If you know them all well enough that may be OK. If not, I would not expect them to do that. That is a little much don't you think? If you want to though, one idea is to request that if you want b/c it is like a wedding theme and think it would look nice in the pictures. I always heard though that you should be the only one wearing all white on your big day, but to me I did not care if my guest wore that. I did not care what they wore. I was just thankful that they took the time to be a part of my special day. Personally I think those colors are a little to neutral and dark. I think that some people want to dress colorful and wear their own style and choice of color. But do whatever you feel comfortable with. I would ask your close friends and family to get their opinion b/f doing it.

Answer 3

I'd have to say this seems a bit much to ask of your friends and family. You're giving them the honor of asking them to participate in your special day--a celebration of love. But with that comes the burden of getting dressed up, picking out a wedding gift(from your registry), wrapping it, getting a babysitter, sitting through that whole "love is" reading for the 100th time. Asking them to wear a certain color may be more than some can bear, and you may lose some guests this way. They are, after all, guests and not members of your wedding party. Most tactful guests usually refrain from wearing especially bright colors anyways, so as not to detract from the bride. I'd say no, it's not okay.

Answer 4

I have heard of "white dress parties", or "black", but I have never heard where the bride requests that her guests wear specific colors. Is there a reason? Usually the bridal party is the only one in specific clothing/colors. I think it would be a little much to ask someone to wear specific colors, but if you want to go for it - hey! Let them know at the bottom of the invitation what you'd like, and hope for the best. (I'll bet you any money - there will be some 'sho nuff' conversation about it.)

Answer 5

One wedding I went to they asked their guests to wear shades of purple...Why not!! In your invitation packet, on the reception card put your information about where your reception is and the time and then put a note in there that somehow words that the Bride and Groom would like to request that our guests choose black, white or gray attire.

Word it in a way that is fun, makes it sound like a suggestion and not a demand or that you would be ticked if someone didn't wear black, Make it fun and people will love it! Something like.."We would like to suggest black, white or gray attire to further add to the magnificance of our day"

I dont know! Something like that !! :)

make sure your photographer gets an all over group shot of all your guests so formally attired.

Answer 6

Actually, technically, it is not okay.
Other than indicating formality, you should not require guests to dress a certain way.

However, it is your wedding. Once in a lifetime event. And black, white or gray is not that difficult.

You can communicate your request. Perhaps, "We are having a black, white, gray themed wedding. We encourage guests to join us in our color theme if they would enjoy doing so." (You can probably word it better.)

For better advice, or at least advice from fellow-brides, try www.theknot.com. Go to talk, but ask for advice from wedding ideas, reception ideas, or your local board. Some boards are more helpful, and less negative than others.

Bottom line is that it may be okay to encourage, but is not okay to require.

Hope this helps.

Answer 7

sounds like this is a funeral not a wedding.A wedding is a colorful and beautiful thing not drab and dull.I have heard folks asking people not to wear the color of the bride's dress mostly
white but you are going to far with that suggestion. (yikes!). any way it is your wedding and they will be your guests.

Answer 8

i think i wouldn't bother attending your wedding. don't you think thats a bit control freaky and over the top? not to mention it will look much more like a funeral than a wedding, what kind of 'colors' are black, gray and white, they are the non-colors of color!

Answer 9

It's a little odd, but it's your wedding. If they care about you, they will honor your request. Besides which, it's not like you're asking them to come in some kind of outlandish outfits....black, white, and gray are as normal as it gets.

Answer 10

It's your wedding, but be forewarned- you'll likely have a guest or two who won't comply, and you'll likely be able to read all about your wedding on ettiquethell.com. In other words, it's kind of tacky to ask the guests to do something specific in order to be able to come.