O.k. so im only12 years old but this kid that I really like is 14. About 2 days ago he asked meto go to the movies with him and I did. We held hands. When we were in the middle of the movie called click he asked me out. I still haven't answered him. He's a really nice guy and we both like each other but i don't know what I should say. He has beautiful blue eyes he's in shape and he's older than me by 2 years. He's almost perfect for me but I don't know what to say. He even gave me his phone #. HELP!!!
2006-07-16 11:25:52 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, you're too young. I know you don't like hearing that, though. Your parents shouldn't bet letting you do one-on-one dating at your age. They should be a little more protective of you. It would be okay if you went on a group outing with a bunch of friends, though.
2006-07-16 11:29:20 · answer #1 · answered by Bad Kitty! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are amazingly eloquent for a 12 year old.
If you were 80 and he was 82, would you be asking this
question? (Would you be asking any question on a Yahoo list?)
The issue here is one of maturity - how mature is he and
how immature are you? When you are 80 (or 82), your
maturity has less to do with your physical age and more to do
with what you have experienced.
At your age, however, actual years are a pretty good
(though not perfect) indication of what you have experienced
and therefore your maturity.
At that age, your bodies are both changing and flooding your
brain with hormones - which can cause really unfortunate
things to happen. It can also make apparently
inconsequential things (he held my hand) be far more
powerful and exciting.
All that being said, as long as you don't expose yourself
to undue risk (going some place non-public), I don't see
why it should be a problem.
Why not meet him some place, have your date and then
leave on your own? No risk, plenty of fun.
For my first date, we met at the library to look up the
definition of a chemical (which I still can't spell) and then
walked across the street for icecream. Romantic? Well, no,
but it was fun (and fattening).
In any case, we both got there and left by our own means
(parents, etc) so there was no oppurtunity for anything other
than innocent fun (and chemistry...)
I would caution you, however, that "experience" is still king.
If he is 2 grades ahead of you, he potentially has a lot of
destructive peer pressure on him to make him do inappropriate
things. He is already getting pressure to sleep with someone
just to show his macho-ness.
As with anyone at any age, you need to decide if you can
or cannot trust him. If you don't know ... then you can't.
If you are feeling too young, you probably are. However,
you are getting older, very fast.
Keep it light and do fun (and public) things with him.
I envy you.
2006-07-16 18:42:16 · answer #2 · answered by Elana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so even thou ur young (12 is young to be dating) but anyhow u went to the movies with him n u do like him so give it a shot n see how it goes on a date, call him up n chat with him somewhat so u can get to know him some more, now remember that boys his age are all horny so just be careful. dont do anything u dont want to and at ur age u r too young to think about sex. but if it comes up protect urself bc at any age u can get pregnant even on the first time and their is no safe sex without protection.
2006-07-16 18:30:21 · answer #3 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if your parents are okay with this, you'll be Chaparoned (sp), and your parents have met his parents and the young man well then all you need to ask yourself is if you want to see him again. You did say that you like him so as long as he treats you right, doesn't pressure to do anything other than hold hands... why not go have fun.
2006-07-16 18:29:24 · answer #4 · answered by kitkool 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok yeah i would consider you youg to be dating but if the feelings are mutual with the both of you I can't see why you two can't be good buddies. But in a serious relationship at that age is just some headcase drama it all leads that way.
2006-07-16 18:30:19 · answer #5 · answered by Frankie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go out with him on friendly dates, but dont get too attached to everything if it things did worked out between you two. you guys are still too young for this but i'm not telling you to turn him down and ignore him... watch the movies with him, go out in the malls and do all those fun stuffs and see if how far things will go. this is a really normal stuff, even for so age so go for it!
2006-07-16 18:35:52 · answer #6 · answered by DruNkStripPeR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say yes, but don't let an older boy pressure you into doing things you don't feel comfortable with like SEX- think befor u let it go
2006-07-16 18:28:06 · answer #7 · answered by sydni_will07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it probably sounds inviting, but i would suggest waiting till youre a little older for any type of commitment at all. maybe you could just focus on having lots of good and close friends for now. have fun
2006-07-16 18:29:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask your PARENTS what they would like your twelve-year-old butt to do. KID. don't let some horn-balled 14yr old knock you up. or i will personally poop in my hand and throw it at you. you'll have plenty of time to ruin your life later... when you are an adult.
2006-07-16 18:27:48 · answer #9 · answered by Friendly Neighbor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, please don't do anything yet
I know you must like him but take things slow. You're not even a teenager yet, you have plenty of time.
Be his friend and wait
You must also consider you're family and it might scare them that you have a boyfriend at your age.
2006-07-16 18:29:04 · answer #10 · answered by Karce 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋