My girlfriend and me are both 16, and she is 8 months pregnant with my child. If my mother consents (i dont have a dad) and her parents consent should we get married??? I sort of feel the duty to, but shes not really my girlfriend, its just cos we spend so much time together as shes pregnant. She doesnt mind me sleeping with other girls, and i would miss casual sex if we got married. What should i do?
2006-07-16 10:43:52 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't get married! I was pregnant at 16 (i'm 25 now) and i'm SO glad that I didn't marry the dad. You can still be involved in the mother and childs life without getting married. I know people will disagree with this but it isn't necessary to get married! I'm so much happier now and so glad I never made the mistake. You are still so young and you can both be good parents without legally being together! Believe me, it's not going to make anything easier just getting married...and may cause even more stress than you will already have. Just focus on being a great dad even if you don't live with or aren't married to your child's mother!
2006-07-16 10:49:08 · answer #1 · answered by meeso12002 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Uhhhh, that's a hard question. A neighbor of mine is 14 and has a kid, and the father is also 14... wayyy too young. I think it would definately be a good idea to marry the girl, but I don't know if it would be so hot to marry her now rather than waiting a couple years 'til you both are more mature, ready to make major life decisions like marriage, bringing up kids, etc. And I think that any girl who's in love with a guy and says that she doesn't mind the guy having sex with other girls is just saying that cus the guy wants her to. If you do get married, sleeping with other people will destroy your marriage.
2006-07-16 10:52:15 · answer #2 · answered by thecrazyperson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are ready...? You say you still want to have casual sex with others...? She actually doesn't care...? I think you both are not ready hun. You are so young. You need to make a decision on whether you are going to be a responsible father to your child. I am asuming you want that, thats why alot of people rush into marriage. Although, it can make things worse on the child to rush into marriage for that reason.
I think you should do your part in helping with the child. You both need to give yourself time to ajust to the life of being parents. If things come together later on, than get married. But give yourselfs some time. Good luck.
2006-07-16 10:57:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are way too young to get married and so is your presumed girlfriend. BUT EVEN MORE you are WAY TOO YOUNG to be having sex!! So put that thing back in your pants and lock it up until you are responsible enough to provide for a wife and family which will be many years in the future. You could start checking into adoption for the child whether within or outside the extended families. Put the child's welfare first and allow it to be wanted and raised in a loving family.
2006-07-16 10:50:04 · answer #4 · answered by suesur1960 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not get married, be a great father and agree to have a good relationship with the mother. You are both too young and it would only end in divorce. Two wrongs don't make a right. Just don't forget your child.
2006-07-16 11:50:44 · answer #5 · answered by Brooke 32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give the baby up for adoption. It is the only thing that is fair to the kid, since odds are EXTREMELY high that you and it's mom will end up divorced. Also, next time, don't be such a careless a**hole, to bring a kid into the world without a prayer to stay with both the natural mom and dad. You know now how pregnancies happen (I am sure you knew before too), so don't let it happen again.
2006-07-16 10:49:30 · answer #6 · answered by 1,1,2,3,3,4, 5,5,6,6,6, 8,8,8,10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that.
I don't think you are ready to get married. Especially if you don't love her, and your education is still very important. Sure she's pregnant, and you feel guity...but that was her choice to have unprotected sex with you. If you marry her she will not be happy with your "casual sex" so both of you will end up in a divorce anyways. Why bother?
She will be better off without you, trust me.
2006-07-16 10:50:40 · answer #7 · answered by desperatehousewife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, if you dont love her then it will just end in divorce later on with you and her both getting your lives ruined. just b/c you got her pregnant does not mean you have to marry, yeah your still responsible for the child but dont make the mistake of marrying for "duty"
2006-07-16 10:48:48 · answer #8 · answered by DarkJester 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you went from friends with privileges to friends with responsibilities. Marriage is not the answer if you don't love her.
But it's not all about you and her anymore. For now, support her and your child mentally and finiancially the best you can, and hopefully the friendship will grow into more of a relationship that will be best for all three of you.
2006-07-16 10:51:04 · answer #9 · answered by socalmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELL NO!
You two are in no way ready for a marriage commitment. It's better for a baby to be born to married parents but sometimes marriage isn't the best option. I think you two are better off working something else out.
2006-07-16 10:47:59 · answer #10 · answered by Sara 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋