I imagined a equal part, where one washes the dishes as the other puts them away, sitting to watch eastenders together, not the other on the pc taking odd glimpses now and again, one gets the kids into bed ready, whilst the other starts to read the bedtime story.
2006-07-16 10:22:21 · 20 answers · asked by lonely as a cloud 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This is not about woman and the kitchen sink is it?, in a world of independence of both sexes, the best you can hope for is. great friends, your own space, some romance and good sex, any thing else is a bonus.
2006-07-16 10:29:03 · answer #1 · answered by glen w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no correct answer tto this. Each day-to-day relationship has to be worked out between the people involved. I think my guideline to work to would be - a situation where both participants in the relationship have time to themselves, time for each, time for the family and time for the 'odd' jobs. Both people MUST be happy with the guidlelines decided between them. For example - traditionally if the man went to work - the women was meant to do everything else, washing , cooking, cleaning, ironing, children, shopping - the list is endless and the man sat on his behind when he got home - That is fine - IF the man and the women believe it to be fair between them. (and I know couple where it is). On the other hand if the womand believes that even if he works the man should do his share around the house then she will be unhappy so the situation has to be addressed.
Sounds like you feel put upon so talk and sort it out. This could build to the sort of resentment which could ruin your relationship
2006-07-24 01:26:39 · answer #2 · answered by geegee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's suppose to be like how you want it. Not happy?? get out
Man works all day and brings home the food - wife cooks and serves the food. Husband thanks wife for nice meal, wife thanks husband for supplying the meal. Wife cooks all week, husband sometimes cooks at weekends (breakfast, lunch and dinner), wife chills. Husband helps out wife, wife helps out husband, nothing is equal only the love you share. If you resent what you are doing change it or move on.
men work in a different way - they are more practical than women - if you don't explain your feelings to them they think everything is ok. You need to talk. Being together in the same room whilst one watches TV and the other is on the computer is not a problem - ( how would you feel if he was out). It doesn't matter who does what, give and take is the word. No-ones relationship is the same, we all expect different things, the only thing we all want is honesty and loyalty - if you have that be thankful
2006-07-16 10:50:33 · answer #3 · answered by Curious39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a sense this is impossible to answer. Two humans together grow and change day-by-day, which can and should be be fun. The joy of a good relationship is learning from each other, building trust and so on. Over time, though, boredom - be it routine or sexual - settles in. And this, sad as it seems, is normal. But, look at all the thousands films and books about this; if we didn't have this happen to us can you imagine how boring life would be? We really don't need a regular day-to-day routine in our emotions and relationships because it would kill us with boredom and tedium within months. Keep it fun and keep it fresh, talk to each other, eat with each other and you could be together for years...and years. And yes, share the tasks but don't make it a 100% routine, as in never nail your partner into a daily grind. There should, then, in theory NEVER be a daily routine. Both partners should do their best to make everyday different....
2006-07-16 10:43:01 · answer #4 · answered by Michael G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this would be an ideal world! but realisticaly, u are living the day-day life of a relationship! one on computer the other watching the tele, one looks after the children while the other plays football! it helps if u become tolerant of actions of one another, and then make compramises as u go along, have a day where u do stuff as a family and another day, as a couple. make time for urselves to. this way when u do spend time together u will feel closer and have much more to talk about.
2006-07-24 06:06:33 · answer #5 · answered by storm.minx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't think a relationship is going to be equal cos there is no such thing, one always does more than the other.
Life is boring & the 24/7 love & romance you seem to think is normal is anything but.
A good relationship is where each of you has their own space, friends & hobbies.
You have an idealised view of what a relationship should be like it will never happen
2006-07-16 10:32:33 · answer #6 · answered by madamspud169 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like this question is quite personal to you, are you not happy in your relationship?
Anyway, I think that a relationship should be equal in every case. The responsibilites of the children should be taken on by both parents.
2006-07-27 01:13:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you want a Walt Disney relationship. If you expect it to be like that, it will never happen. Be thankful that you have a sound relationship as it is, and just enjoy the times you have more intimacy and shared tasks- if there is postential for it to happen, it will. It is possible your partner doesn't want to be forced in to your idea of a perfect fairytale family.
2006-07-23 00:50:18 · answer #8 · answered by syelark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my experience the woman decides, what, when and how to do things. Don't take this equality thing as meaning that you are both the same. Give each other space and tolerance.
2006-07-26 23:09:48 · answer #9 · answered by Veritas 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An every day to day relationship is nothing like you would imagine every day is different, and it is something that needs to be worked on by equal halves not just one sided.
2006-07-26 21:34:05 · answer #10 · answered by twisted 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋