I am an 18 year old who has recently graduated from high school and I was wondering how I am suppose to find myself while I still living with my parents for 2 more years? They will not let me be an individual adult. How do I deal with this?
2006-07-16 10:22:10 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you want to leave your parents who will take care of your parents???????
2006-07-16 10:25:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest, it's a good thing they're making you live @ home still. i mean you should talk to them and tell them, okay i'm living here-- but i'm an adult and i'd like for you too treat me as one.
honestly though-- i think being 18 is COMPELTELY overrated here in the US and there's STILL sooo many limits you have to face. you can't live on your own so quickly either. you have to find a job and be able to maintain it AND your paycheck. only after a couple years will you really know how you can care for yourself and such. it's not NEARLY as easy as ppl say it is to just "get a job and move out. buy a car and get an apt." believe me i thought it was a piece of cake too-- but its really far from it. i wish i waited a couple years too like my parents said. they're your parents- and true they may not ALWAYS know what's best for you, but in this situation, they're pretty smart. don't rush it, really-- just take your time, because you might end up making choices you regret. if you've lived with them this long, two more years won't kill you. plus, when you're finally out-- you'll appreciate the "freedom" a lot more. lol. i hope this helped! good luck sweetie!
2006-07-16 17:26:02 · answer #2 · answered by jetters007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work and save enough money until your ready to move out on your own, but be careful of what you ask for being on your on is great, but maintaing All the variables can be difficult, try getting a roommate, it's not cheap out here you know, Rent, utilities, car note, or car insurance (or) both, and you have to have emergency money for when your car needs repairs or if you become unemployed, just be smart about it, and DON'T burn any bridges with your parent's, because you never know when you may need them to be there for you. Remember your parents are just that parents and just want to try and protect you from the evils of the world out there, I'm sure they mean well and just want the best for you...
2006-07-16 17:35:23 · answer #3 · answered by Marixza M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of being an adult is to be self-sufficient. You are not there, yet.
This is the 2nd question I've seen like this, where whiny 18-20 yrs olds are crying that their parents have rules for them to live by while living at their parent's home.
The solution: move out.
2006-07-16 17:30:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember the golden rule. he who has the gold makes the rules. while you live under you parents roof you live their rules.
Short, show adult responcibility, ie; pay your share of house bills, such as cable, electric, water, sewer, garbage, phone, your use of the house(rent), and then you could expect respect. Your choice though.
Kid or adult. being a kid is easy, so quit whinning about 'finding yourself'.
Oh who is going to pay for you to find yourself??????? i bet you were not going to have it be you, huh?
You had plenty of time to find yourself to this point. It is now time for you to grow up (which you should have already done).
Heck i think that your parents should give you a time frame for you to have your self on your own two feet. and your parents should not 'give' you anything anymore. after all, they have shelterd you, fed you, generally provided for you thus far, now they have a whinny baby that wants to be and adult with out the adult responsibilities. GROW UP, GET A JOB, KEEP A JOB, MOVE OUT!!!!!
2006-07-16 17:32:21 · answer #5 · answered by mhp_wizo_93_418 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try applying to out-of-state colleges so you can live in a dorm. As others have suggested, you may have to look for a job where you can become financially independent. You'll probably have to share an apartment or rent a room. In order to be independent, you have to accept the responsibilities that come with it.
2006-07-16 17:27:54 · answer #6 · answered by Miss U 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are supporting you financially then you must follow their house rules. If you don't want to do that you will have to find a way to support yourself, which traditionally means being employed, move out and then you can live by your own rules. In most cases, your parents do want to protect you though, out of love. Yes, you have to make your own mistakes and learn from them, but they want to spare you even worse pain, if at all possible.
2006-07-16 17:27:46 · answer #7 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out. You're 18, you can. Either get a roomate or a boyfriend. But be careful; you may find that the roomate/boyfriend is even more irritating than your parents were.
2006-07-16 17:25:30 · answer #8 · answered by I Know Nuttin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a full-time job.. and just maintain it or
if you decide to go to college(which is probably better so you'll be better prepared), you can try to get enough financial aid to move out on your own.
In case you become unemployed for any reason, you will need to keep hustling to find another job to meet paying your bills.
2006-07-16 17:28:35 · answer #9 · answered by Soficetica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself a job, a car, an apartment. Then move out of your parent's house. Long as you live with them, you have to follow their rules, no matter how immoral they are.
2006-07-16 17:26:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a job, move out, and become a taxpayer. 6 months later you'll be asking to move back with your parents under your previous arrangement.
2006-07-16 17:29:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋