am i paranoid?

Question

well basically me n this guy dated thn we got together for 5 months but i broke up with him because we were having parental issues (long story), he didn't give up on me n we ended up together again, basically me n him have been on and off because of his parents (we r 17 so parents are hard to deal with). Anyway me n him started gettin closer again when we ended up not talkin because of a lie he told me because he didnt want to hurt me that happened before me n him got together. Anyway we havent spoken for a month or sumthing and he phoned me three days ago and i was shoked but he just asked how i was and what i was up to and also wanted to know about this other guy who likes me to see whether we were together etc. the same night he txtd me gdnite n he apologised again for everything he has done and he wants me to forgive him. Do you thnk he realli likes me? and also because i havent heard from him since thurs i keep thinkin he may nt like me nemore..am i paranoid? what do u think? thnx

Answer 1

Hey

I completly understand where you are coming from because I to have been in the same position, and am actually right now, so much that when I read this I could of actually typed it myself!!

I find that guys tend to be indirect about what they feel when they see it as more then a friendship, but don't want it to look like they are hassling for s*x... personally I think you should sit him down and just try and get him to open up about things to you and let him tell u what he really feels...

As with the time thing, his probably just taken the time to sort out what he does feel and if he thinks that there is another guy that could be on the scene, his gonna bk away, I took time out bcoz I couldn't actually face that I had fallen for this guy as well as thinking about how I had been there twice before and neither of us have told our parents about nethin more then friends coz it just doesn't seem right telling them, not that they would disapprove, but the longer it has been left, the longer it takes to actually tell them and it gets harder there onwards!!

People generally lie 2 protect people from what they don't want to hear, and the number of times that has happened to me, well thats a different story, but when u love some one u just tend to work through it, I don't think your paranoid, just worried about if you are doing the right thing, if its gonna change things and if he feels the same. trust me I have been there before!!

I hope this all works out for you and if you need to talk some more I will happily add u on msn...Good luck!!

Answer 2

You are lucky to be young and full of life. Take it easy. You seem to be seeking an assurance of his truthfulness and seeking to be together as a comitted young couple. That's a good start. Since he has disappointed you, you need to ask yourself whether you feel he can be honest to you in future and whether he is willing to tell you the truth about his past. It should be a good sign if he makes an effort to contact you and be with you. Next time he calls, ask him for a date to sit and talk about what happened. Let him explain to you why he didn't tell you before and tell him how the incident made you feel. Tell him your fears and your desires about your friendship. When you are young and in love two days silence can seem like a lifetime - if he isn't calling, you call him and ask to see him.

As for your parental issues, its your age more than anything that probably caused that. I am sure your parents feel you are still young, and are worried about things all parents worry about like drugs, alcohol, early pregnancies or sexually transmitted diseases. I hope you are smart enough to keep yourself safe and out of trouble. The best way to find out is for you and the young man to talk. Stay wise and stay alive. Say no to drugs, and unprotected sex.

Answer 3

The way you wrote this is obviously a result of paranoia. Relax right now! Then call up this dude and ask him right then and there to be straightforward. It sounds like it just can't work out, so you may want to give up on this guy. If it can work out, then make sure he realizes that he needs to send clearer messages, and you of course will do likewise.

Answer 4

He likes you! Trying to get a guy to apologise and ask about you as a person is like trying to get blood out of a stone! He's probably waiting for you to make the next move so as not to come across overly keen. Go for it!

Answer 5

It sounds like you are wasting your time and being used by the guy now and then when he does not have anything better to do. Besides, you are looking at the beggining stages of a mental abuser so be very careful.

Answer 6

You are only 17 -
Relationship has already been on and off -
Parents seem to have a problem with both or either of you -
He lied -
You think you're paranoid -

HONESTLY? - You should let it go and move on -
Concentrate on learning more about yourself first.... and your education.....Make lots of friends and go out and have FUN....this is already sounding like too much hassle!!...Don't you think?

Answer 7

If your parents are hard to deal with, it makes me think they do not approve of this guy. If so, maybe you ought to take a second look at him.

Answer 8

he has heard rumours that you are with someone else.. he maybe doesnt want you, and doesnt want anyone else to have you.. forget about him.. go out and have some fun.. you are only 17.. worry about having a good time.. you have 70+years to worry about stupid boys...

Answer 9

tell him to stop messing around dump him, grow up , get a life and then find a decent man

Answer 10

what you wrote was TOO long to read on these blogs... so yes you are paranoid