Like... Not to sound conceited but I KNOW im good looking.. But guys NEVER try to strike up conversations with me. My ex-Boyfriend cheated on me sooo many times... Maybe im losing confidence and its showign through?
2006-07-16 10:03:30 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe you send out the wrong signals... but that usually doesnt stop guys... really beats me, and dont lose confidence in men, were not all what you would call assholes, though many are
2006-07-16 10:11:08 · answer #1 · answered by SpankmasterFlex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's easy! It isn't YOU! I mean, I don't have a picture of you or anything (feel free to send one to me, though :) ) but if you are physically attractive, then it is men's insecurity that is preventing them from approaching you. Wait...I have a question for you. Is it men in general aren't approaching you, or is it the men YOU want aren't approaching you? Have you been really hard or cruel to the "other" guys who have worked up the courage (or the alcohol buzz...see: liquid courage) to talk to you? Maybe then you've developed a bad rep? Assuming you would give any man an honest chance when they've come up to you...then it is more them than you. All there is too it. Men have esteem problems just like women. It's really easy to believe that your negative points outweigh your good points and that an attractive female such as yourself would never give up enough of their precious time to see those good qualities anyway. What can you do? Well first, smile and laugh a lot. Really! It will put out a vibe that you are approachable. When a guy does approach you, treat him with the respect that you feel you deserve! Be gracious, I mean...he was smart enough to pick you, right?! Those guys will go back to their buds and say: "Hey, you know...she was really nice. Even though it just didn't happen for me, I'll probably talk to her again next time, just to see if we can make something happen." Honest, then the other guys will start to approach you and tell their "low self esteem" buds to talk to you too. Eventually, Mr. Right will finally be there and hopefully you'll be aware enough to see him. Hope that helps, Matt.
2006-07-16 17:20:53 · answer #2 · answered by adtmatt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you walk with your head down...? Or don't make much eye contact with men..? Then men will be intimidated. Also you may just be a really pretty girl, and men are afraid of being rejected...?
Make sure that you smile at these men, and maybe say hi. Walk with your head up, and show you have confidence. Look at people in the eyes when you see them. It shows that you are open to conversation. It make others more comfortable when approaching you.
If you come off as shy or weak, it can also make the wrong type come along. The jerks like the shy weak ones, it's easier for them to tear you down later on. So work on your confidence, and you will be more likely to attract the good guys! Good luck hun...
2006-07-16 17:17:04 · answer #3 · answered by Emily :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW guys are such idiots. We give the dumbest and lamest answers ever. SO FAKE!!
Here, take this for an answer from a guy. You probably aren't as hot as you think. You may have been hot at one point but probably let yourself go thinking that your looks and body will stay firm forever. News Flash, age and drinking catches up with you.
And it probably has with you. Really assess yourself and think, am i really as hot as i once was. Then, think why your ex cheated on you. Maybe because you gave yourself more attention than him since you think your so hot.
If you knew your ex cheated on you sooo many times what the hell were you doing sticking around? Maybe because you were afraid of being alone so you stuck to familiarity. If you aren't confident, guys see it just like ladies see desperation in guys.
2006-07-16 17:17:12 · answer #4 · answered by Swift Ninja 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to say without knowing you, but men don't tend to approach women if they think they are going to be blown out... perhaps you look a bit unfriendly? OK, men can be intimidated by good looks, but catching someones eye and giving them a smile and a friendly look is usually enough to bring them running...!
Your ex was an ***.... not all men are like that so don't let him have power over you now. Now you know what you won't put up with eh?
2006-07-16 17:08:36 · answer #5 · answered by charleymac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol to be honest... maybe youare so good looking guys get intimidated. The dont wanna get rejected from you so they just avoid talking. Maybe if u live in hawaii and i see you, ill strike up a conversation with you... Most guys have confidence problems... and they guys who talk to good looking women are concieted who thing they are all that... have you had one of those? lol... well, just be friendly, smile and strike convos up yourself. IF they wont do it, who will if you wont? never know untill you try...
2006-07-18 06:03:22 · answer #6 · answered by Shin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are just frightened of good looks sometimes. They will stereotype you as either bitchy or taken. You need to do some of the work and flirt with him. He'll catch on.
2006-07-16 17:12:14 · answer #7 · answered by KM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going too the wrong places, Try not to show how beautiful you are and see what happens, what kind of buzzers you attract. do it like an experiment.
2006-07-16 17:11:14 · answer #8 · answered by class4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. I'll strike up a conversation with you.
2006-07-16 17:07:36 · answer #9 · answered by TheDoctor 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't feel bad i know i get signals that girls want to talk to me but i guess i'm just not picking up on it. i'm sure i would talk to you. you deserve better than a cheating boyfriend. i know how to treat a woman right.
2006-07-16 17:10:40 · answer #10 · answered by lifeouttacontrol 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋