i need to get my sister help but i need some advice. she needs help badly.
2006-07-16 09:15:31 · 14 answers · asked by Lyndsy P 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
I know everybody told you already that you can't help her get off the drugs, and you can't. What you can do, however, that will help you both in the long run, is to tell her you can not condone her drug use and will have to step out of her life until she is serious about quitting. The hard part is, you will have to mean it. You will have to stop taking her calls, seeing her..etc. Until and unless she is ready to quit. This helps her to see how truly bad her behavior is. And it helps you to not be co-dependent. You may also want to go to alanon meetings to help yourself through all this. I hope this helps you. I am sincerely sorry for what you are going through. Please remember that you did not cause this nor are you responsible for her actions. Email me if you need someone to talk to. Take care!
2006-07-16 18:12:21 · answer #1 · answered by Nikki Tesla 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
As a former meth addict I know first hand that if an addict does not want help then there's nothing you can do except lay the facts out on the table and hope they make the right decision. Extend your hand to her and wait for her to take it. The only thing that got me straight was my husband leaving me and taking our two children with him. Only then did I realize the monster I had become and I knew it was time to break free from the grip meth had on me. I cleaned up and reconciled with my husband and we are doing better than ever. If your sister is under age you may be able to have a court order her into rehab, but if she's an adult, the choice is hers. I'm so sorry for what you are going through. I know how painful it is to watch someone you love become victim to such a terrible addiction. I hope everything works out for you and your family.
2006-07-16 09:26:24 · answer #2 · answered by Shelby67grl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A drug addict sometimes has to hit rock bottom before they realize they are in need of help. You can only suggest they seek help and hope they don't have your message fall on deaf ears. Show them you care about them but don't condone their drug use in your presence. Suggest that they go do things with you that don't have drugs involved, this may be encouragement they need to see there is something else out there besides using drugs.
2006-07-16 09:24:26 · answer #3 · answered by Allen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first step in change is for it to begin in one person's self. And like what a lot of people are saying, she has to be the one that exerts the most effort in this, not you, or anyone else. Just let her know that you're there for her, let her know that she is still loved and accepted, because shunning her and scolding her will only distance her from you and all the more will she not trust you. All in due time, she will realize what drugs are doing to her, hope fully, before its too late.
Only when she is ready, can the change really begin. And I know it might be painful to see her waste away, but theres really nothing you can do.
2006-07-16 09:22:52 · answer #4 · answered by Mujareh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your sister doesnt want to get help then there is not much you can do. Sorry but its the truth. You could try to get her to go to a NA or CA meeting with you. Or you might want to get in the phonebook or online and call a drug rehab place for advice. Good luck!!!!!
2006-07-16 09:21:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she doesnt want to help herself then she will never stop doing it just because you say to. She sill continue on until something happens to her and may still keep on doing it. There really is nothing you can do but to be there for her when she needs you the most.
2006-07-16 09:20:27 · answer #6 · answered by star_bright083 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can turn her in to the cops, or have her involuntarily admitted for 72 hours if you can prove that she is a threat to herself or others to your local sheriff's department. They will usually send her to a behavioral health center for detox, where she will have to stay for 72 hours, but then she is free to go unless she's been arrested and is remaining there in lieu of correctional custody. Good luck and God bless! :)
2006-07-16 09:19:34 · answer #7 · answered by Jonathon L. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
useful. previous sturdy chum from college - i'm getting worried whilst he gets somewhat skinny, because of the fact then i understand the cocaine element could desire to be undesirable. he's a musician, and he's doing ok now i assume, yet I wish he'd stay remote from the cocaine.
2016-11-02 04:20:59 · answer #8 · answered by shuey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they will not help themselves
It is hard to help them
Some states, do allow family members to get the "admitted" for help.
and
It works until they get back out
2006-07-16 09:22:20 · answer #9 · answered by G. M. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until your sister wants help there is nothing you can do except be there for her when she does want help.
It is very hard to stand by and watch but until she wants to get clean there is really nothing you can do.
She is going to have to be ready to do it for herself.
It is hard very very hard but possible.
Good luck.
2006-07-16 09:21:29 · answer #10 · answered by tlctreecare 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋