they arent living together so I am taking care of the kids and other responsibilities because they cant afford a babysitter etc.I feel as all of it has fell on me...the kids,money and no life of my own...what do you suggest?I have to help so tell me what else I can do other then not help
2006-07-16 09:09:04 · 4 answers · asked by dlbonhomme 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell her it is time to pack up and get out on her own. Or she can pay you to babysit. Its time you stopped paying her bills.
2006-07-16 09:13:24 · answer #1 · answered by InnerCircle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, alot of what you are doing is mother instinct in helping out your daughter, but sooner or later, your daughter may need a mother daughter talk on your current situation. Just tell her you dont mind helping her out, but her marital problems are beginning to take their toll on you too, as you need a life outside the family thing. She needs to figure out what her next best thing to do is, and just do it. She is old enough to understand that she just cant take advantage of your kindness just because you are related, but most of all she must take responsibilty for her children whether it be emotionally of financially, etc. If divorce is the answer, then she needs to get on with and sue her husband for child support to afford a babysitter or whatever and take alot of the burden off of you. Kind of falls under tough love but unless you are willing to continue the way things are, and not speak up, nothing will change except for your sanity. good luck
2006-07-16 16:31:14 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your grandchildren are just that .. your grandchildren not your children. It sounds like your daughter and soon in law are just totally irresponsible. Its up to you to put your foot down and say to one or both of them either come and get yoru children and take care of them or call social services adn have them placed in foster care.
We as a society have to stop letting our adult children behave like irresponsible children and make them do what is right. YOu may not agreee with me but you have a life of your own and need to live it. Its a hard decision to make, but you have to think about you
2006-07-16 16:14:53 · answer #3 · answered by sjmcalpine2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember that it is not your job to fix your daughters
problems. care for the children because you want the
children cared for. ask the parents to help you with
money as much as they can, and with other things
such as chores even if they cannot help you financially.
remind them that they have responsibilities. good luck
and bless you for being there.
2006-07-16 16:16:26 · answer #4 · answered by agedlioness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋