My boyfriend and i have been together for almost 2 years. I never lie to him, in fact, he has lied many times. I just can't handle it. He don't trust me ever. If I miss his phone call, he leaves angry mesasges screaming "what are you doing". When he don't trust me, it drives me nuts, I am not doing anything wrong. All I do is sit at home and chill. He always knows what I am doing. I tell him if I ever leave to go to the store. I know he is insecure and this contributes, but how can I fix this? Serious answer only please.
2006-07-16 09:03:07 · 7 answers · asked by Tracy L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know this isn't the answer you're looking for, but here goes: your boyfriend's behaviour shows that he is insecure. It may not be your fault, but he is "blaming" you anyway.
If you want to help him through this, I'm sure there are tactful ways to talk to him about it - and I'm sure that other posters can think of appropriate ways to approach the subject.
2006-07-16 09:11:38 · answer #1 · answered by Song2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like either he is hiding something or he has a serous complex issue and that is spelling trouble and u need to set him down and talk to him and tell him if this keeps up well I will have to go that's what I would do he has no right to scream at u for not answering the phone on a split second. Good Luck.
2006-07-16 09:12:52 · answer #2 · answered by jerryhmusic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is treating you in a way that you do not deserve, it means he was hurt in the past. This is called baggage. If you care about him enough, you will set boundaries on his behavior. Do not allow him to abuse you while he figures out his problems.
If he cannot "tone down" his behavior, he needs to know the depth of your committment to yourself. It sounds like you might also be somewhat insecure to stay with a guy who will abuse you this way. Yes, it is abuse.
Care about yourself. Move on if necessary. There are too many guys out there with less baggage that will love you for who you are. You don't have to put up with one who has fatal flaws.
You also stated that he has lied many times. This should have been the end of your question. If there is not "actual" trust in a relationship, it will eventually fail. My personal advice to you is to get out before there are any children involved. (voice of experience)
2006-07-16 09:17:17 · answer #3 · answered by Kelli C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Often trust is built. Sometimes old relationships can cause problems with the new ones, especially if trust was involved. He might have had a bad experience. He may have severe fear of losing you. Give him lots of love and attention. It will help. Good luck!
2006-07-16 09:14:32 · answer #4 · answered by flower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you say "control freak"? And the reason he thinks you are lying is because he lies, like you said. He figures you are doing the same thing he is. WHY would even want to fix this??You can never change another person....EVER. You can only change yourself. MOVE ON or it will only get worse. I've been there, done that!
2006-07-16 09:13:49 · answer #5 · answered by Jennylee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not a healthy relationship without trust and if you know he has lied you should be the one not trusting. sound like you need to seriously think about if you should be having a relationship with this guy
2006-07-16 09:10:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You simply CANNOT MAKE someone trust you. That person has to have the instinct to trust you all on his own. If you have lied or cheated on him, of course he has his own reasons not to trust you. You can only earn trust, not have it demanded. You have to show him that you can be trusted.
2006-07-16 09:10:51 · answer #7 · answered by Common_Sense2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋