My neighbor is always spanking her kid because that seems to be the only thing that the kid will respond to. When talking and punishing seems to not work with child disipline is spanking an acceptable alternative?
2006-07-16 08:41:40 · 20 answers · asked by Joe K 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Hell yes!
2006-07-16 12:28:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
MODERATION!!! I talk to my kids a lot and i really don't spank them much but when we do it seems to do the trick. Just a spank thou not a beating, We just spank them one time.
My neighbor has only one 4 year old boy and she spanks him so much that spanking does nothing for him. One time she was so mad at him she spanked him hard over and over and over and all that spanking was not doing anything but making him talk back more and more so she finally hit him on his back with a hair-brush and broke it, the little boy just turned around and told her he hated her, and walked away. Sometimes spanking is not the answer, in this case this little boy needs someone to talk to him and give him time-outs, it is really sad that his mom doesn't realize that. I felt like getting a brush of my own and breaking it on her back, but i have 3 kids of my own and didn't want to go to jail. Anyway to answer you question spanking could be an acceptable alternative if done in moderation, but once you have tried talking to your child and punishing him. Don't forget that once you have punished you child leave him alone for a couple of minutes then go back and talk to him let him know why he is been punished, it is important that they know why he is been punished. Hope this helps:)
2006-07-17 01:00:23 · answer #2 · answered by ange!s26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, As long as the child is not getting really really hurt by it. I mean I was spanked as a child and I learned that if I did something I was told not to do and I did it again I would get spanked agian so for some kids that is all the will respond too.
2006-07-16 15:47:12 · answer #3 · answered by Kathryn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can honestly say my son is 15 and he has onlty been spanked 2 times in his entire life. And those two times were for destructive behavior where he could have been hurt or possibly even killed! I dont believe in spanking your child every single time he doesnt listen- or mis behaves. That is only teaching them that hitting and violence is ok. The reason she is probably not responding is she has totally gotten use to being yelled at and spanked so now she thinks its all NORMAL! I have found out taking their favorite things away from them works so much better
2006-07-16 16:02:51 · answer #4 · answered by cstinkerbell6969 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it just teaches the child that the way to deal with an issue is with violence. Would your neighbor respond favorably to you if you smacked her if she did something you did not like? There are so many positive, confidence building ways to disipline a child, I think spanking is a gross, weak thing to do.
2006-07-16 19:45:47 · answer #5 · answered by newstart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I belive spanking a child is ok. If it is done in moderation and not to the point where it leaves a bruise. Sometimes alternatives work though such as taking away priveleges or putting them in the corner. But all in all it is up to the parent to make that choice, most parents know what works with their kids and what doesn't.
2006-07-16 16:47:18 · answer #6 · answered by tatooedcowgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AS long as it is on the child's bottom and doesnt leave a mark. If she pulls down the childs pants and spanks his bare bottom then that is WRONG
2006-07-16 16:08:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from personal experience, yeah - i believe its OK. Coz i knew if i messed up, I'm gonna get my *** whipped. But there's a thin line between spanking and abuse. So keep a watch full eye!
2006-07-16 15:48:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beatings. That's the only thing that some kids will respond too. The opposite being doing nothing. In that case, I will beat your kids for you, free of charge. If you people don't discipline your children, I will.
2006-07-16 15:47:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
spanking is a way to go. if they get spanked for doing something bad then they wont do it again cause they no if they do they will get spanked
2006-07-16 15:45:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anthony J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spankings are fine, as long as it is not out of control.
2006-07-16 17:10:01 · answer #11 · answered by babygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋