well i have been datin this guy almost 10 months... and i love him to death he means everything to me!! and when he is around his friend jr he is such an *** hole! it is like he is a totally different person! i dont no what to say to him?? or what to do? i dont want to get him mad at me! i just want to tell him how i feel
2006-07-16 08:21:55 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you should confront him on it.. but in a nice way.. ask him why? there is a good chance he does not relise he is being this way.. and ask him to make an effort to treat you like number 1, all the time..
2006-07-16 08:25:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, well, I've been in this sort of situation many times before. Just take your boyfriend on the sidelines, and tell him, that you really like/love him. And that it hurts your feelings when he acts like this. Ask him how he really feels about you, and if you like the answer he gave you, keep going out with him, but if you don't like the answer, or you know he's lying, I say dump that bastard, and move on. Their are plenty more fish in the sea, and someday soon, you'll find someone who loves you for you, and won't start being a jerk around his friends.
2006-07-16 15:29:08 · answer #2 · answered by sexxii_chica69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your relationship is really love, or anything even resembling love, you can certainly tell him how you feel without fear of him being mad or leaving you, thats what relationships are. If you can't tell him something like that, what kind of relationship is this? One that is ok as long as you follow him around and keep your mouth shut? Thats ridiculous and sounds more like having a master than a boyfriend! When you start letting fear of 'him being mad' control what you do you are compromising yourself to be with him and you will eventually lose yourself completely and be miserable.
2006-07-16 15:26:46 · answer #3 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First i would talk to him, you guys have been together for awhile so it seems like you don't want this to end over his best bud. Tell him that you don't like how he treat you or others when he and his boys are together, tell him to try and check the attitude or stop hanging out with the both of you. Make it a friendly conversation don't accuse. GOOD LUCK. (I hate it when guys show off for their friends but its a pretty fixable prob) Peace. Love. Hope.
2006-07-16 15:26:34 · answer #4 · answered by aqurious_chic06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a plan with one of your friends to do the same thing he does to his friends. Pretend to treat your friend like dirt and see how he reacts. If that doesn't work, you should videotape or secretly record a conversation with him and his friend and then tell your bf you wanna see a movie with him at your house or something. Then, act surprised and say you accidently recorded him once when you meant to record something else.
Or you can just talk to him. What's the worst that can happen ?
2006-07-16 15:28:14 · answer #5 · answered by desigal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel about this. He is obviously more concerned about what his friend thinks than he is for your feelings. Guys are show offs, and he's tryiong to impress his friend. You've got to let him know that you are not okay with this. If he keeps it up, refuse to go anywhere where the two of them will be together.
2006-07-16 15:25:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to him and explain this. If he is still an *** then he's probably young and immature. Most younger guys are. If he still persist, then just flirt with his friend. He's not going to like that. Also, you guys shouldn't be together because if he treats you this way, then he probably just uses you for...well you know.
2006-07-16 15:26:53 · answer #7 · answered by dr. misako 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him privately whenever u get a chance or nothing will change and/or maybe get worce OR just dont go around him when he's with that kid, he sounds like a jerk
2006-07-16 15:25:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will probably hate my answer but i have two ta give you
1. just let him act like a jerk and make him feel bad later and let him make it up to you
2 tell him in FRONT of his friend that he doesn't need to talk that way because he is around his friends or that he is being disrespectful to you and tell him you don't have to take it Turn your back and be strong walk away and don't look back
2006-07-16 15:27:19 · answer #9 · answered by shebunkin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
**** that ****, if he is going to be a gentleman to you then he should be one ALL the time, he shouldnt just flip just because his friend or ANYBODY for that matter comes around because thats ****** up. I say you dump the bastard, not only that but dump him in front of his beloved friend.
2006-07-16 15:25:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋