I have been suffereing from cancer for the last six years and it has affected my life style a great deal. I feed through a peg tube in my stomach and breathe thru a tracheostomy in my throat. I have also been told by my doctor, that my life span was limited. I have no regrets about dying and in fact when I had a brush earlier, Irequested my wife to take me home from the hopsital so that I could pass away in my comfy bed.
Even today, as I know how much time I have left, I have made all the required provisions for my wife, my teenaged sons and my aged mother - so that they will never be any financial difficulties. I have also made it clear that I am in way to be given any further treatment and let life just take its course.
I have lived a fantastic life, a life that most would not live in all their reincarnations ( if you believe in the same)- I have travelled the world, have modled for the best of designers, have studied abroad - all in all its been a complete life. No regrets.
2006-07-16 08:08:49 · 27 answers · asked by livingonthinice 3 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
I guess the question should have been should one be scared of death? The clock cannot be reversed and in case you do not want to believe it - thats not my problem - ask Oprah - I am the only Indian for who she came to India to do an interview. You can read my story at www.rdoc.org.uk - click on Ananth's Story. A bit outdated but will give you an idea why I think so.
2006-07-16 08:18:23 · update #1
Thank you all - your answers have really been touching. I honestly could not pen down all the things I have done in my life to make it complete - but as I said I have led a complete, happy life complete with what life can offer king size. I am leaving behind a legacy in the form of my two sons, who I hope will grow into fine young men and make me proud where I am.
As the song goes... I will be your angel up in heaven seeing you through all the rough and bad times.....
2006-07-16 08:29:32 · update #2
God Bless you.... you have suffered a great deal... and have made your peace with this illness.... you have been a living example to your wife and children of a brave soul..and your memory will keep them strong in the future...I know you have gone through the various stages to arrive at this acceptance... and I know it has not been easy... but you appreciate the time you have had here , you have been able to arrange security for your family which I'm sure has given you a great deal of peace! and when you go you are leaving a legacy of love and strength behind... but my friend... this is not the end for you... what waits beyond this life is more glorious than anything possible here on earth.. you will be with family and friends that wait for you there.... and before you know it, your family will join you... what seems like years here is only a blink of time in heaven... eventually we will all return to heaven..and to arrive there with no regrets ! how wonderful! ...here on earth.... we all have our specified time to be here... and goals to accomplish while we are here, I applaud you for accomplishing yours! you have nothing to fear ! I do believe in reincarnation and karma , and you have obviously served your lifetime well ! God bless you, I will say a prayer for you not to suffer, and for your family to heal, and if we should meet in heaven, I would like to shake your hand!
2006-07-16 08:24:24 · answer #1 · answered by Ms Fortune 7 · 6⤊ 1⤋
My conclusion... you have obviously provided very well for your family during your lifetime and have planned for their future after your death as well. I must commend you for being so very unselfish in that area of your life. Now that the end is near, I hope you are spending time talking with your family so that they will feel a sense knowing you and you knowing them completely.
Talk with your wife about what your wishes are for her and talk with your children about the same. Although this is a very difficult thing to do, it will leave them all with a feeling of warmth when they accomplish the things you wanted for them, and they will remember the talks they had with you while they are fulfilling their dreams and goals.
If you wish for your wife to re-marry, tell her so, if not say nothing. Talk to your children and let them know that when they marry, you will be with them in spirit and you look forward to them having a happy life full of love and laughter.
I know how difficult all this is, because I lost my mother to lung cancer 9 years ago. What we discussed before she passed is still with me today and I think about her often. Try to relax and enjoy what time you have left.
I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers and wish you an easy passing from this life to the next. We'll all see you later.
God Bless you.
2006-07-16 10:38:50 · answer #2 · answered by Healthnut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must remember the time your heart stopped beating and you felt such a peace that you did not want to return. This is what you will feel as you slip from this life into the next.
There will be a light and just go towards it. I am a cancer nurse and have been with many who have made this passage. And you already know the peace that awaits you.
God awaits you in the light and His peace is what you felt before. Now you will have it for eternity.
2006-07-16 08:45:28 · answer #3 · answered by Need an answer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure what your question is ... my mother also has a peg, right now she is still able to breath on her own, except at night, but tracheostomy would be next, in this last stage of her life this time is the most precious to me.
2006-07-16 08:15:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are truly a gifted person. You've been spared here on earth, as somewhat of an anomaly, because your mission is not yet complete.
I have read your story and am convinced that you are one of God's angels here to spread the news that life is worth living.
You are an inspiration. Blessings to you and your family.
2006-07-16 17:57:21 · answer #5 · answered by Patricia D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have done what you wanted in this life enjoy the time at home and you have taken care of the family so spend the time doing what you want to do if you want to sit by the window do it enjoy the time and you have done more than some people have done in a life time. one last point write a final letter to your family of how you and you feel for once your gone they will have it.
i am so sorry about this for you and your family i hope you don't suffer any more. god bless you and keep you. and your family.
2006-07-16 08:22:06 · answer #6 · answered by LENORE P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a wonderful human, your son, wife, and mother were lucky to have shared life with you . Thank you for touching my heart. I hope that in a future life we will know each other.
2006-07-16 10:18:09 · answer #7 · answered by chi chi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is wonderful to know that you tried your best, and that for you (with your cards) it WAS ENOUGH!
Thanks for sharing this with me. I think about my future a lto...
Take advantage of the time you have, enjoy your family and allow them to enjoy you.
though it doesn't seem like you would, make sure you have nothing to regret.
In a way, you are luckier than most. You've lived life! and realize the value of it... most of us, just waste day after day thinking... no, believing that we will always have tomorrow.
Be blessed!
2006-07-16 08:16:12 · answer #8 · answered by qt2sh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is how you are awaiting the end God Bless you. If you are to be reincarnated I hope it will be as someone I will know!! Your family is truly blessed to have such a person in their lives. Not all of us can say that. Please please keep up the great attitude and if you read something here that is not very intelligent I know you will know what to do. They are ignorant and cannot be blamed for that. I love you!!!
2006-07-16 08:16:24 · answer #9 · answered by Deb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I GIVE YOU ALOT OF CREDIT TO BE ABLE TO SAY ALL THIS TO THE PEOPLE OUT HERE THAT WILL READ THIS I HOPE....IT SOUNDS TO ME THAT YOU HAVE EVERYTHING TAKEN CARE OF FOR THE ONES YOU WILL LEAVE BEHIND...NOW I HAVE A QUESTION FOR YOU? AND I'M SURE THE ANSWER WILL BE YES FROM YOU...BUT HAVE YOU MADE PEACE WITH YOURSELF AND YOU ARE REALLY READY TO TRAVEL THAT NEXT ROAD? THAT IS A VERY HARD QUESTION BUT IT IS ONE THAT I THINK ABOUT.....I KNOW WHEN I AM READY ...I WILL BE READY...I HAVE ALREADY MADE PEACE WITHIN MYSELF AS I ALMOST LOST MY LIFE SEVERAL TIMES....AND I HAD SPOKEN TO EVERYONE AND MY WISH IS LIKE YOURS IF AT ALL POSSIBLE IS TO BE ABLE TO COME HOME AND GO WITH SOME DIGNITY......I'M SORRY TO HERE ABOUT YOU BUT I KNOW THAT YOU HAVE COMPLETED YOUR TASK HERE AND IT'S ALMOST TIME FOR YOU TO GO HOME.......MAY GOD BLESS YOU ON YOUR JOURNEY...........
2006-07-16 08:21:04 · answer #10 · answered by whitewolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋