i feel pretty bitter?

Question

hi a girl said to me the other day when i was talking about my problems, her answer was, and although it was helpfull and kind i felt really bitter, because although i already no this she said, "it sounds like you have gone through some bad suffering needlessly" and it brought it home to me that i have suffered for an incredible amount of time since i was 15 im 29 now, and i feel really bitter and resentfull that i have suffered and gone through the mill with my mental health problems. i feel alone in my suffering like its just me thats suffered to this extent, when other people in life dont suffer at all, and have fresh fulfilling lifes and get their needs met. and they look fresh and baby faced like i once was. and the more i feel low and angry about it, the more it is you seem to see people happy laughing and giggling. and im struggling on feeling isolated and alone

grrrrr arrrrrrrrgh!!! im sorry i had to let it out. lord please bring me happiness soon.

Answer 1

Hi Happy,

First of all, I would like to ask you to ignore the folks who would tell you to pray your illness away instead of seeking sound medical treatment. That is irresponsible of them to do. This is not the 18th century when mental illness was blamed on demonic possession. Just as none of these people telling you to turn to God would depend on prayer to cure their illnesses, you do not depend on it to cure any mental illness you may have, especially not the Schizophrenia's. Prayer is used in conjunction with medical treatment not in place of it!

I have looked over your profile Q&A's. You have many questions asking about some very significant mental health issues. You indicate repeatedly that you believe you have some form of Schizophrenia and that your symptoms include delusions, disorganized thinking, paranoia, etc. This is not an illness you can diagnose or treat on your own. You must seek out treatment from a physician. I realize that you are not in the United States, so I am including information from the World Health Organization website:

http://www3.who.int/icd/currentversion/fr-icd.htm

http://www.who.int/topics/mental_health/en/

Answer 2

Welcome to the club! First of all. remember that while you feel isolated and exposed to unique pain, you'd be shocked at how much company you have. I hope that you're receiving professional help and are on supervised meds. You need the support from those sources and peer groups, if you're comfortable sharing. I think that such an experience would give you a new perspective AND a new life - but a real life that includes both happiness and pain. Don't believe for a minute that all those people leading "fresh, fulfilling lives don't struggle at times just like you. What's past is past. What's done is done. Rework your attitude - drop feelings of bitterness and resentment. That's just your own mind working so work to change it. You can look forward to a rewarding and happy life if you go for it. You're 29. Hell, I'm 70. Good luck.

Answer 3

First thing is to stop feeling sorry for yourself. You cannot change the past, but you can influence your future.

Self-pity is okay, sometimes.. sort of like a Cheeseburger... but if you have too much of it, it'll damage your system.

I have no idea what's at the root of your problem, but you have to change your attitude if you want things to improve. Yes, life's not fair and there are many people who live privileged lives and some of them probably don't deserve the privileges that they have, but there's nothing you or I can do about it... so why obsess over something that cannot be changed?

Focus on what you CAN change to make yourself happy, or rather content !. Start by not comparing yourself to others. There will always be someone there who either has it better or worse. If you think there is nobody out there who has it worse, then you haven't seen much of the world. To stop feeling isolated and alone, you have to associate with other people. Be realistic in your expectations of others. Some people will like you, some will not. Best way to start is by joining a club or an association that does something that you're really interested in. Join them in activities (whether that's sports or events or outings) and get out of the house!! Do something proactive... and don't put it off.. start looking for things on the web tomorrow!

Answer 4

Hello. I think it is totally reasonable that you feel this way. I have felt that way for awhile as well. And it truly will get the best of you if you let it. You need to be able to feel happy for those people. Would you really want anyone to feel the way you feel on a daily basis? I really had to think about it and than when I see people laughing and having fun I could honestly say, wow that is good for them because I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy how I felt every day. I try to be around happy people and people that can joke around and make you laugh because you need to laugh. It really helps heal the soul. If you sit around being bitter about everyone else being happy it is going to destroy you. For the longest time I didn't want anything to do with anyone and just now I am coming out of my shell and getting out of the house and being more social. No matter what or how big the problems are you need to fight it, because if you keep letting these problems become you, you will hurt even more. It would be no surprise if you said that you get so bitter that you begin to feel guilty. You are not the only one suffering pain and you need to remember that there are people that can help you feel better and want to see people happy and laughing, because what if everyone was sad and crying all the time, that would be really depressing to live around. I really think you should talk to a specialist and get all of your problems out in the open because you can't carry them around by yourself forever. Heres a quote by Helen Keller " The world is filled with pain and suffering, but it is also filled with the overcoming of it" Keep that in mind because some day you will be at peace and you will be the one laughing and happy. Try to take the control back in your life. Good luck to you. You will be in my prayers. if you would like to email me to talk sometime feel free. [e-mail].

Answer 5

Were you depressed at one point? Let me tell you, when you are going through something hard that you didn't place upon yourself, it's only natural to ask why you're suffering and going through tough times and you feel like everyone else doesn't have the problems you have and they're all happy and you're the only one in the world that is having problems. YOU'RE WRONG. The only difference is these people choos to have a positive outlook on life and their problems, maybe this is what the girl was trying to tell you. You're wasting so much energy in being bitter. Start looking up instead of down and put a smile on your face. Whatever you went through is done and it has made you the person you are today. Happiness only comes from within, my dear.

Answer 6

Focusing your mind on your past suffering only makes you suffer some more.

If you want to have a better future, then focus on the possible good things that can happen in your life now. And do your best to make them happen.

Change for the better usually comes from doing your best to make your life better.

Sitting around and crying about your past is not going to make your present life any better.

Answer 7

Sorry to hear you feel this way. And it is my humble opinion if you sit and wait for 'the lord' to bring you happiness, you could be waiting for a long time.

There were times in my past I felt the say way you do now. I'm much older now, but I'm more content than I think I've ever been. I'm not bragging; what I'm trying to say, is that change 'will' come...Don't expect it to stay like this forever. In fact, our whole life seems to be one change after another...or at least to me. Good luck.

Answer 8

i can sympathise with you on this...but let me say just 1 thing...look around you....and i mean really look....dont just scan...the eyes have a way of seeing what they think are relevant to the situ in time...and glossing over things they dont.....if you look hard enuf you will see what appears to you as people being happy are in actual fact completely the opposite....the person that you saw laughing and giggling will, if you look properly, be an hysterical or embarrassed laugh or giggle.....loneliness is an awful situ to be in...as the more lonely you are the harder it is to get out of it....it sounds cliched but join a club....go to a library....start getting out and meeting people.....the more you talk to people and allow them into your life the more you will start to combat the loneliness you are feeling.....have you got a therapist....if not think about getting one....even if you just use them to sound off at.....the way you are feeling can be overcome but you have to work at it.....and stop beating yourself up about feeling sorry for yourself.....a certain amount of self pity is a good thing provided you dont let it rule you....good luck and i hope this helped.

Answer 9

You could really benefit from some professional mental health counseling. Please talk to your doctor about this. You are NOT alone in your suffering -- millions of people in the world have experienced what you are experiencing (depression, e.g.). There IS HELP. See your doctor ASAP.

Answer 10

well done my friend the lord is your tag team partner in life Christ will release you of your prison of bitterness and regret right now as you prayed that he is at work right now. I will pray for you as well.keep it up talk to JESUS daily and you will start to feel better read the word of God, goto church,sing to God he will love you and bless you for it you will feel free from your pain.focus on JESUS and not your past or what ppl say.