My parents think i have a drug problem, but my real problem is buimia and eating disorders. How do i tell them

Question

WHen i was in 8th grade i started smoking weed and drinking. I went through a bad time because of a personal family secret that i found out about. Eventually i got clean and healthy and active. In high school i became friends with the most popular girl and she got me started on cocaine. I realized the drug could make you thin fast and so i used it. I eventually stoped because of trouble i got into. THen i realized i gained weight back without the drug and i developed a very serious eating disorder. It is ruining my life so i started cocaine again and sometimes i use ecstacy. My parents found out about the drugs and they know i have an eating disorder but they are less concerned about htat because they now think i am a drug addict. I know inside that the real problem is my eating disorders because it is all i ever think about. If i had a drug problem then drugs would be all i ever thought about. My parents are making me go to different schools, and attend intense drug consoling

Answer 1

Get off the drugs!
Think about your parents and stop thinking so much about your self for a change.

Answer 2

These are serious issues and I agree with the folks who posted before me that you might like to print this thing and show it to your parents or your counselor. Maybe the counselor can give it to your parents. Key is honesty and openness.

I'd like to share something with you that'll hopefully help you understand what's going on... sort of the big picture in simple terms. I worked for many years as a business consultant. Sometimes, I wrote strategies for businesses to show them how they can market their products better so that they can make more money. Although I never got involved with marketing to young people and kids, you need to understand that a part of what you're experiencing is pressure to conform to a standard that you can never achieve.

The girls in the mags don't look like that in real life. The jewelry they wear, the skimpy clothes and jeans that they show to be the new fashion is cheap crap. If a marketer can convince you that cheaply produced stuff looks great on you, or that ABC shampoo will repair your hair, then the more money they make because they buy it cheap and sell it to at a high price. Young women are a market worth billions of dollars each year. Moreover, If a marketer can convince you that you're "hot" by being skinny and by wearing certain name brands, then they have you on the hook, knowing that you'll go to any length to buy diet food (no cal drinks, for example), try a variety of diet pills (that never work), that you buy gym memberships, etc.

Being skinny and wearing the latest fashion doesn't actually make you "hot", it makes you a conformist... someone who doesn't have a mind of their own. I totally understand your dilemma because you can't not be hot when everyone else buys into this sort of thing, but the reality is that you need to be smarter than the rest of the people.

Being skinny isn't all it's cracked up to be. Young women and adult women starve themselves to be skinny.. and for what? So that a guy on the street says: ooohweee.. that's hot? Believe me, that is not what life is all about. I'm not sure whether you understand what I just wrote, but it's one part of the puzzle. Doing drugs as a means to an end (i.e. doing coke to stay thin) is only going to result in you getting sick, looking like death warmed over and eventually it's going to kill you before you've even had a chance at discovering what the world has to offer. Take a look at a junkie sometime... they're thin, but they look like hell.

As you grow older and get a bit more experienced in life, you will discover that there are things out there that are far more important than how you look. You don't know me from Adam, so it makes little sense to say "trust me". I hope you will find it in yourself to tell your counselor or your parents the truth about how you feel and what's really going on inside your head. Hopefully a new school and a new environment will give you an opportunity to not try to be a cling-on to the school hottie, but to discover something in your studies that will put you on the path to becoming a happy and fulfilled person, regardless of what you look like.
All the best :-)

Answer 3

Just come out and say it. They are concerned about you otherwise they would not ask all the time about the drugs. It sounds like you have a long history of problems and need the help. By asking this question, I think you are ready to get help...so tell the 2 people in your life you know will be there for you regardless. Good luck!

Answer 4

My Ex-wife had an E.D. you are going to have to find yourself before you do anything. The clinic she went to and after care, all the same crap, does not matter what they tell you, it starts with you. What ever demons you have in your past you have to come to grips with them or you will never get better. The drugs don't mean a thing deal with the real issue, you know what I mean. It hurts and is hard but you have to. Because you are thinking it I helped her all I could put her through school, and did all I could we both realized we were co-depended and better off without each other. Good luck and be true to yourself.

Answer 5

It sounds like you need a complete evaluation and treatment. The common thread in these behaviors is that they are all self destructive. The question is why are you hurting yourself? You might need to do this with the help of a skilled therapist. Sometimes a person is self destructive for reasons unknown to them. You mention a personal family secret. Is it an ongoing thing or has it resolved? In any event...I hope you are able to get away from the pain you are going through. Best wishes to you.

Answer 6

You should tell them, or write it down and show them, just like you did here. I understand it, so they should be able to also. Drugs are bad because they mess with a person's mind and affects your personality, sometimes forever. Coke and ecstasy makes you a different person, a stranger, to yourself and those who love you. You have a clear head, enough to see where the real problem lies. If emotions get in the way of discussing this, then write them a letter. They will have time to think and so will you. Good luck to you. I wish you the best.

Answer 7

I suggest you tell them just the same way you told us here. Maybe even print this whole thing off once you get all the answers, and then have your parents get you to a doctor quickly. You know you have a problem, and that is the first step to recovery. Good luck. And remember, parents can sometimes surprise you and be very understanding and helpful. (This is coming from a mother of 4 grown sons)

Answer 8

They love you. Show them this message and say, "That's me." Then the'll get you the help that you need. You might be bulimic and doing drugs because there is something missing from your life. when you figure it out, with professional help, you won't want drugs and your eating will be normal. Talk to the guidance counselor at school for where to get help.

Answer 9

Tell your drug councilor what is going on. They will get you they help you need. You may have a eating disorder but I hate to tell you that you do have a drug problem also.

Answer 10

I think you need to go elsewhere for professional help than here for our pithy comments. You have a real pattern of destruction and need both psychiatric and medical help. Ask for help and soon. Good luck with recovery.