My twin girls are almost two and are definitely a couple of angels with a devilish side. When they get mad ( and it could be over anything) or if they're just in the mood to do it, the slap me, each other, and my fiancee in the face. Bite, throw things, (over and over a again.) One has a temper so bad that I'll stop her from doing something she isn't supposed to and she'll turn around and hit ,slap her sister up and push her to the ground. When I keep her from doing that, she'll start in on me something terrible, trying everthing in her power to hurt me. She anger in her face that scares me. She grabs around my leg and bites several times. Hits, and throws things from tables and toy chests at me If I'm on her level, she'll grab fistfulls of my face and tear away while I'm getting her sis out of the way. The only thing I've found slightly successful is time outs. Beyond that, I don't what to do to curb this sort of behavior. It makes me feels as though I'm doing something wrong..
2006-07-16 06:16:45 · 10 answers · asked by joliminet23 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You know, These answers qould be nice if these kids were three, but they are a year and a half. The only h\thing they will see is that I'm hitting them. how do you solve hitting with hitting?? I've spoken with my pediatrician and they said to separate them, which is something that I was already doing. When they go to time out, they stay in time out, I have a special pen for them to stay in and cool off. One year olds have no impulse control however, so the next time a toy gets taken, it happens again. They try to hit me beacause I DO set boundries. If I let them do whatever, they wouldn't have any reason to hit me. Regardless, All that have answered obviously did not either correctly read or understand what I said. I pointed out several times that this happens when I intervene. When I don't let them have their way. For all you who are thinking that I'm someone whose letting my kids run over me, reread my question. I need ideas on how to curb the tantrums. not protect myself.
2006-07-16 09:36:02 · update #1
Ohhh... And N2jesus. Mabey you left such a spiteful remark because you happen not to be able to breed. My children a the light and love of my life. Not people that I merely have to...who was it? "Live with"
2006-07-16 09:45:20 · update #2
You ARE doing something wrong. Slap them on the butt. You need to take control so your kids will amount to something. They need some serious discipline. Throw the books away and slap them on the butt until they cry.
They don’t respect you and I certainly don’t respect you by letting any child treat you that way. I’m certain that you don’t respect yourself and they will grow up with the same attitude lacking respect for you and themselves.
I have twins (girls) that are now grown. Now is the time and you have the choice. My kids knew growing up that if I had to I would even track them down and give them a good spanking on the spot if they needed it. Guess how many spanking I gave?
Three. Three spanking in their entire life. Two for one and one for the other.
If you want to be a prison guard, stand guard so they won’t get out of their “time-out.”
If you want to be a mom then swat their butt. Since you waited until this got out of control you need to do it much more than you would otherwise until they get the point that you are in control, their mom, and not going to stand for unacceptable behavior that reflects on you or your family.
While sounding like an expert, I will tell you something that I could never overcome… the two fighting amongst themselves. In that event, let them have their knock-down-drag-outs and as long as there isn’t blood, stay out of the way. Twins are a lot different and are a lot closer than any brother or sister. Even if you do stop it, I can guarantee they will get the fight resolved in private… sometimes worse.
2006-07-16 06:38:57 · answer #1 · answered by Raylene G. 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Popping them on the butt will get their attention.
As SOOON as they start to act up, with the hitting, biting, and such, react to their behavior.
Soon they will start to do something terrible and wait to see if you will react. Let them know you are always watching.
After such an incident, tell them in a firm voice that that is NOT acceptable and they will get a 'spanking' each and every time they do it.
Verbalizing it will give you the same control if they try to act up out in public. If they do, take them to the nearest restroom and pop them. Then the future outbursts can be stopped with the simple question, "do you want to go to the restroom and deal with this?"
If people don't agree with your methods, then just smile and tell them to byte it.
This is what's wrong with kids these days, parents are too afraid to disipline the kids. It really only takes a swat or two to get them in line.
2006-07-16 14:12:05 · answer #2 · answered by Just Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you describe is much more than just the "terrible twos". It sounds like your daughter may have a serious behavior problem that, if left unchecked, will cause you a lifetime of problems. Call your pediatrician and discuss these issues concerning your daughter with him. I worry that the less aggressive twin will suffer the most by developing a pattern of submissive behavior. At a later age, she may seek out people that will be mean to her.
Until then, you must be forceful with your aggressive daughter. While time outs are working, you may need to consider spanking to get her attention.
2006-07-16 13:23:03 · answer #3 · answered by Chainsawmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be consistent in making sure they know this behavior is unexceptable. Immediately remove them when doing something bad such as biting and put them in the corner until they can be nice or take away something they like when they behave this way, they get it back when they can be nice
2006-07-16 13:23:51 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah yes, more breeders adding to an overpopulated world. Another reason stupid people shouldn't breed. While I take vacations and spend my money on whatever I want and pick up and go anyplace when I want I say you made your choice and now you'll have to live with all that goes with breeding.
2006-07-16 13:28:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a big person on whoppings... but it sounds as if they may need an old fashioned butt whooping. Have you talked to their doctor about the behavioral problems? Also, you may need to be more firm with them. discipline will go a long way.
2006-07-16 13:22:12 · answer #6 · answered by southern-belle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a good firm voice and rules and discipline,and stick to it.don't give in.
2006-07-16 19:21:49 · answer #7 · answered by rosie w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one word discipline
2006-07-16 13:21:43 · answer #8 · answered by wnruger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are a proud mom.
2006-07-16 13:20:25 · answer #9 · answered by spocklogical1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
daycare or something.
2006-07-16 14:34:10 · answer #10 · answered by Das randoM chikk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋