A year ago my fiance and I split up. We had a disagreement between the two of us about religion. It wasn't anything we could not get married over we both said. We both knew our religion before hand in the prior three years were engaged. Our wedding was planned and everything was in place as we were a month away from our wedding. However, I got a sick feeling in the pit of my stomach that something was wrong. I wanted to marry him because I truly loved him, however he decided that he didn't want to marry me because of religious difference (one practices the other doesn't but does believe in God). He claimed he didn't want to raise our children with us disagreeing and he left. Some time later he told me that he could have done it, but he didn't want the children thinking one of us would go to hell (which wasn't the case). Then months later lafter that he tells me that he doesn't ever want to have children. Did he just have cold feet? Others seem to think he used it as an out.
2006-07-16 06:12:09 · 8 answers · asked by royal_crown78 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Foget him.. he is not the man GOD made for you..
If he were.. GOD would not have ever come in between.. and become the reason for separation of 2 hearts.. GOD will never do that... Believe in him.. and go on..GOD has made better plans for you :)
2006-07-16 07:10:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
My fiance' and don't see exactly eye to eye on the topic of religion, but we both believe in God. We've learned to respect each others views and we had already decided that we didn't want children, but not because of religion. Trust your first instinct. Trust God to show you where you should be. Everything happens for a reason. I hope that everything works out for the best in your situation.
Jai :)
2006-07-16 13:20:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that does seem like a pretty quick and extreme change of heart. My guess (and this is just my opinion) is that there was more to it than that. If he says,"I don't want the children thinking one of us is going to hell." and then " I don't ever want children." Then what is the problem? I think that you should count your blessings that it never turned into a marriage. It's better to find this out now than deal with someone changing their minds half way in. Good Luck with everything and the best to you!!
2006-07-16 13:22:01 · answer #3 · answered by nenasknight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the two of you want different things and didn't realize it soon enough. He doesn't want kids and you do. You're religious he isn't. He did use the issue as an out, but that's how it works. Did he just have cold feet? No, it wasn't cold feet, it was I don't want to marry you feet.
2006-07-16 15:07:53 · answer #4 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Those cold feet got stuck in ice! You're better off to find a man who'll really you and all that you are religion or not.
2006-07-16 13:26:03 · answer #5 · answered by Frank R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only he knows the answer to that. If you two arent together, why not just move on and be done with it? Rehashing it all in your head won't help anything. Time to move on.
2006-07-16 18:25:19 · answer #6 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it sounds to me that he used it as a way out so he didnt have to get married guys like that arent worth it
2006-07-16 13:32:13 · answer #7 · answered by lovehappie03 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
better to have loved and lost thatn to be in a miserable marriage
2006-07-16 14:08:52 · answer #8 · answered by -------- 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋