how can i get my man back after putting him in jail and making enemies with his family and friends.i want him?

Question

We were together for 4 yers lived together was engaged and I want him back, we broke up after I called the cops after he smothered me with a pillow..this was an isolated event, now i have not been more miserable since we broke up..i am enemies with his family him and I speak like once a week but he and I both say oh we will never get back yet he wants to make love to me..so what do i do to win him back and start charming him again. Someone help me and give me advice the violence has come to an end.

We were together for 4 yers lived together was engaged and I want him back, we broke up after I called the cops after he smothered me with a pillow..this was an isolated event, now i have not been more miserable since we broke up..i am enemies with his family him and I speak like once a week but he and I both say oh we will never get back yet he wants to make love to me..so what do i do to win him back and start charming him again. Someone help me and give me advice the violence has come to an end.

Answer 1

If this is actually a serious request, good god get some freaking counseling! This is incredibly self-destructive. I gather from your question that the pillow incident was not an isolated event. Unless he's had some major counseling, etc. he could hurt you again. He's not a decent guy, he has already made it clear he just sees you as a booty call. Get some professional help and RUN.

Answer 2

Wait u said he smothered u with a pillow, but Ur MORE miserable since u broke up?

Are u just glutton for punishment or just another one of those women who stupid who will stay with a man who beaten her?

And the fact that his family and friends are mad at u for sending him to jail for doing this should tell u that it's a dead end relationship ( they're mad at u for calling the police and having him put in jail for tryng to smother u)

How about Ur family and friends how do they feel about him?

U want advice, leave him and get yourself together b 4 u step into another relationship, because him trying to smother u means he was trying to kill u and the next time( since u call the police and had him put in jail) he may succeed.

Why would u want to charm and win back the person who may be the one who will end ur life?

Answer 3

Okay, to be honest you have issues (I mean this in the most respectful way)!

First of all, this guy smothered you with a pillow!!!! Listen, once a guy put his hands on you (including smothering) he'll do it again and again, and he knows that if you take him back again, that he got you mentally, and you'll do anything...girl, you did the one thing that females are never supposed to do...you gave him your power! Never ever give away your power!

Just move on and forget about him, I wouldn't advise you to find somebody else, you need to find, love, and respect yourself first, then once you've done that, then you should let your true love find you...and don't fall for the sweet words, cause anybody can come up with a few lines...you need to raise the bar most of all and learn to love and appreciate your self more than anything!

Now on to him...some more, he will never forgive you for sending him to jail...once you did that, you basically stripped him of the little dignity he did have...don't get me wrong, HE DESERVED to go to JAIL, but it wouldn't be so bad if you weren't trying to get back in a relationship with the man who (1) Smothered you, and (2) You sent to jail...girl it's not worth your life, learn the first time, because you may not get a second time!!!

Peace,

Bonnie

Answer 4

"A man shall leave his mother and father to become one with his mate". You are not engaged to his parents. He needs to separate from them and take your side, if he has any feelings for you at all. You will never know the depth of those true feelings if you continue to let him just come by and have sex. You've heard the saying about, "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free". You may win him back by being honest, celebate, grown up, being yourself. If his friends and family are the kind of judgemental people, then you need to stay away from all of them. Find another guy, yes, he is out there somewhere, you just need to look in another direction. Don't go find another one like the last one. Look how easy it is for him to be away from you, that's not love. A man that truly loves you will forgive and forget and want to be with you regardless of the family or friends.

Answer 5

I think you need to just move on with your life. This is not a situation that you want to go back to. It is hard, but there are much better men out there. Smothering you with a pillow is not an acceptable "isolated" incident.

Answer 6

An enemy or foe is a relativist term for an entity that is seen as forcefully adverse or threatening. The term "enemy" serves the social function of designating a particular entity as a threat.

The term is usually used within the greater context of war, to denote an opposing group and the individuals within as threats to one's own national, ethic, or political group. To individuals within the threatened group, the "enemy" concept is an amorphous personification of both a threat to one's collective social group, as well as a personal threat to oneself.

The general ideological mechanism by which particular threats are determined is called marginalization. The characterization of an individual or group as an enemy is called demonization. The propagation of demonization is a major aspect of propaganda.

An "enemy" may also be conceptual; used to describe impersonal phenomena such disease, and a host of other things. Throughout religious theology, "the Enemy" is typically reserved to represent the human tendency to do evil, often personified as a malicious deity, such as the devil or a demon.

Answer 7

You both need to move one b/c while that may have been an isolated incidence, there are probably more waiting to happen down the line. It will be hard right now b/c I am thinking that this was a recent event(?) and in time your wounds will heal and you will find a great guy who will treat you the way that you need and deserve to be treated. Please move on before he hurts you worse next time.

Answer 8

move on and get started again but if u seriously want him back
feel sorry and tell him that ur life is miserable without him
and if also want to be with u then u can take a step forward and making his family toward ur side by winning their heart
but if he dont feel the same about u then u should also leave his thoughts from ur mind and move on in ur life
okay
take care

Answer 9

If you really believe you are strong enough & smart enough to continue what could potentially be an abusive relationship, then I would think you would have enough smarts how to get back w/him.

If you don't have the knowledge already, then take it as ignorance is bliss. And I hope no body else walks you through to a situation that could be bad for you.

Go out on a few dates, and discover that you are good enough for someone else!!!!

Answer 10

Are you friggin nuts? Boy, love makes people do strange things. It may have been an isolated incident, but more are sure to come. Protect yourself from future heartaches, and most likely incidents increasing in violence, by moving on to something more healthy.