need info on homeschool?

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can someone please give me some info on homeschooling?my sister homeschools and i'm not against it but the kids have no life.they ride around in the car all day with her while she does her stuff and they arent allowed to have friends or do anything like boys club activities..she said it defeats the purpose of taking them out of school..they cant even play with there cousins..please give me some info..this sounds like child abuse to me...also,i think she is using a.c.e cirriculum....thanks

Answer 1

Homeschooling can be a wonderful thing, however it sounds as if your sister is taking things too far. I doubt it qualifies as child abuse, she has the to decide how she raises her kids. I would try to find a experienced homeschooler, someone your sister respects to try and talk to her about getting the kids involved in outside activities.

Answer 2

I'll say what I said on another borred. I am very annoyed at how people think homeschoolers live in a plastic bubble. If you are not ready to homeschool, then DON'T!


That's wrong. I'm homeschooled and I know kids better than most public or private school kids. When your homeschooled, there are many more options, more clubs to join, you can set up your own schedule so you have more time for other things. I take science class with others and have art, that's about 20 kids. Believe me, homeschoolers know how to socilaize with other kids. That's the main reason why parents are ifey about homeschooling. But it's not true that we don't socilize. For from that
But it depends on where you live, and how much time you have on your side.

As far as I know, I have never met any homeschool "failures" all of the homeschoolers I know, who are my frineds, Just to say I have


9 frineds, 4 are from public school, 2 bestfriends homeschoolers and 2 other homeschoolers, well, anyways, all of them are B-A+ students.

Homeschoolers aren't in a plastic bubble, I go to youth group I know who to hang out with other kids.


Did you know homeschoolers even also have proms? Everythning a normal highschooler could have, and more. (Well some of the time.)

Just to get it straight, I wasn't homeschooled until half through six grade.

I was a b student, since Im homeschooled I am an A+ student.




"Homeschooling should be illegal. Some homeschool teachers/moms are educated and give thier children a decent education and even put the kids in sports or music activities... HOWEVER, SOME homeschool teachers/moms don't teach kids ANYTHING except that GOD is WATCHING their EVERY MOVE and they SHELTER the poor un-educated souls so much that they'll eventually become serial killers killing their parents first. The eliminate the possiblitiy of the second scenario from happening, I belive homeschooling should NOT BE PERMITTED... period. If a parent does not want to send a child to public school, they can pay for private school. NO CHILD SHOULD BE SHELTERED FROM THE WORLD in the way that homsechooled children are sheltered. You're right. It's is Wrong... just like keeping a bird in a cage is wrong."



And, no ofence, that was one of the most ridicoulas things I ever read! My mother is somewhat "educated" she didn't finish college, she doesn't have a degree (I don't want to sound stuck up, but) How did I get good grades? Most homeschool moms are "uneducated" and their kids still get good grades. Ok not all homeschoolers get good grade, but a lot do.




Here is something I wrote on another post which maybe some help...I know I probably wrote to much.





Homeschooling..


1. Most Important: Do it for the right reason

2. Reasearch it

3. Pick the best books out, because you (should) know how the kids learn.

4. Sign up for a lot of activites (or enough that the kids can be social.)

5. Take lots of field trips.

6. Get lots of advice

7. If it's not working out, find out what you should do. Did you take the kid out because of the schooll (is it bad, are the kids being bullied, or some really stupid reason.) Did you do it just because you want to spend more time wit hthe kids? Sheltering them for a bad reason (and sometimes good.) Was your kid not getting good grades, and still isn't getting good grades? Etc...

8. If there was no reason (or a dum reason that you took them out) Put them back in

There are many more steps, but those are the most vital.

If you aren't social in your life, It can be just the way the kid is, but It is mainly the relatives fault, because when you are homeschooled, you should have more opurtoinities to go places and there are more things to join, I start school at 6:30-11:00 and learn 9 subjects.

It's the parents fault because they don't take the time to realize the kid needs friends and shouldn't be shelterd from social interactions.

Homeschoolers have absoulty the same things Highschoolers have, Proms, and all that junk. I think there are actually almost no downsides to homeschooling.

The only thing is if you go out of public/private school, you MAY loose your friends and you may not.


Homeschooling won't work for everyone, but everyone should re-search it. Espesially the people who say it's wrong (and never tried it), because I am sure they know nothing about it.


And I love being homeschooled, I have a lot more free time..And I actually enjoy studying, because my mother picked out the best books, she knows what I like, so it can actually be fun.


Homeschoolers don't live in a plastic bubble (hopefully) so we can cope with the "Harsh realties of Life" At least some can make something of it if they take homeschooling seriously.

Answer 3

Okay every parent is different, I had my daughter attend home
school from 8th - 12th grade. As long as she did her work she
was able to socialize with her freinds after 2:30pm, no butts!!
She did well, she had bad grades when she was attending regular school and not because she didn't know what to do,
there was just to mush distraction. As soon as she was home schooled her grades changed the next week, because she was
concentrating on her school work. Therefore she was able to spend a lots of time with her firends. She graduated with
pride. She is now 21 and has two beautyful children, even
though she got pregnant at an early age that didn't stop her
from getting a deploma. Anyone can attend school and pay
attention to their school work and have a life. If the parents are too strict then I feel sorry for your sister. Cause as long as she is doing her work then there is no reason why they should stop
her from socializing with anyone, weather it's with family or Friends. I'm not your parent, but they should ease up, get real.

Answer 4

For some kids, home schooling is a good option. There are lots of reasons parents home school. Not all do it because they are religious fundamentalists (though many are). It is crucial that home schooled children understand everyone in the world is not like them. Parents are doing their children no favors by isolating them. It can be a good thing--for some kids. Others do better in a classroom setting. I have known many kids who were home schooled. Most blew the top off standardized tests. And their parents were not certified teachers( Education classes do not a teacher make). And they are happy and well-adjusted people. Others have no social skills and have a hard time functioning in the real world. Home schooling only works if parents make sure their kids are socialized and not taught to be arrogant. And this is America--parents have the right, and should have the right to make decisions about how their children are educated. We may not approve, but it is their right.

Answer 5

Homeschooling should be illegal. Some homeschool teachers/moms are educated and give thier children a decent education and even put the kids in sports or music activities... HOWEVER, SOME homeschool teachers/moms don't teach kids ANYTHING except that GOD is WATCHING their EVERY MOVE and they SHELTER the poor un-educated souls so much that they'll eventually become serial killers killing their parents first. The eliminate the possiblitiy of the second scenario from happening, I belive homeschooling should NOT BE PERMITTED... period. If a parent does not want to send a child to public school, they can pay for private school. NO CHILD SHOULD BE SHELTERED FROM THE WORLD in the way that homsechooled children are sheltered. You're right. It's is Wrong... just like keeping a bird in a cage is wrong.

Answer 6

Sounds like you have some legitimate concerns about your homeschooling sister, but I think you have more questions to ask her. Perhaps she is in a church or homeschooling group that believes in isolationism. This is NOT standard homeschool thought, although assuming ALL children, even in good groups like Boy Scouts, etc., are fit companions is equally bad-parenting. Keeping them from their cousins, unless they pose a very bad influence (please carefully consider this painful thought) seems cruel and cult-like. Rest assured - there are plenty of homeschool activities for all sorts of social encounters --field trips, roller-skating, group classes. Ask your sister about those, casually, not like an inquisition, which is difficult when you are concerned. Perhaps your sister doesn't want her choices questioned --like why her kids go to Bible study daily, "boxed" curriculum, or she doesn't seek schooled-kids to hang out with. Our family had neighbors, relatives and church folk who were not homeschooled and we kept in touch, but attitudes do come through, so try to be sensitive and interested rather than concerned. Relatives will often assume their own choices must not seem "good enough" to the homeschooled family, which causes even more distrust and friction, which would happen even if the kids went to a private school.

Perhaps your sister doesn't understand the rules of her state - most have very good guidelines for homeschooling, not just running errands. Please be aware that everyone in public, including the cashier at the store, questions why the kids aren't in school. Sometimes the answer is "because we have errands to do" and sometimes the answer is "because school is over for the moment." We don't (and shouldn't) question recess or lunch or art class or nature hikes at school. Schedules should vary to each family's schedule - for example, my husband traveled extensively and I am not a morning person, so we might be studying until 8 pm or chuck our books in the fire for the day to go skiing with him.

I homeschooled my kids for 8 years in Ohio & Michigan, and each state has different rules and outlooks on homeschooling. Ohio had developed guidelines which delineate what subjects need to be addressed and expected parents to have thought out curriculum. Michigan used to consider homeschooling "illegal", so many people went underground or used prepared structured curriculum. I homeschooled for excellence, and most homeschoolers do the same, although I have heard more complaints of "slackers" lately.

I have found homeschooled kids fall in one of 2 camps: either they are well-adjusted socially or they never would have been well-adjusted even in school due to learning disability, family beliefs separate from norm, etc. If your mom won't let you date till you are 18 or wear black clothes and tattoos, how cool is that? I believe parents should band together and not let their kids experiment with everything at any age. Homeschoolers tend to think much of societies ails fall on bad parenting and peer pressure, not bad teachers. With a BA in sociology, I'd have to agree.

Please try to have good dialogues with your sister about two separate subjects: socialization (and what you both think that is!) and education. A.C.E. has a good reputation, although I prefer tailoring curriculum to the child's level and interests. I missed my sisters feeling comfortable enough to ask my kids, "How did school go today?" or "What did you learn or read?" or "What was the most fun you had this week?" Like most kids, the answer will probably be "I don't know", but the asking will get the conversation and love flowing. Your nephews (?) need you whether homeschooled or not.

Answer 7

First, you need to understand that it is not necessary for kids to 'school' for 6-8 hours a day. That schedule was designed to get the kids out of the parents' hair. It only takes 2-3 hours for the work, then the rest of the day is theirs. It's no different then working parents of public/private school kids running errands with their kids all weekend, I used to hate that! Second, as it was addressed in one of the other answers, not all states require set times, curriculum ,recordkeeping or testing, so the parents are free to teach what they want, and the kids usually learn much faster this way, because they learn at their own pace. Third, if a child doesn't want to do things like boy scouts, they shouldn't be forced. Maybe her kids aren't interested in the extra-curricular activities. I know I never was interested in joining things in school or out. Fourth, did you ask her if she has reasons why they don't get to play with their cousins? She might have some specific reasons, some that she might not want to tell anyone for fear of offending them. I have people in my family that my kids would not be permitted to play with, under any circumstance. With all that said, find out the answers to your concerns, she might have some very good reasons for her decisions. This isn't child abuse, a lot of parents are selective over their choices for their kids, waiting until they feel they are mature enough to handle certain things, BUT, if she is in fact just a lazy homeschooler, she is doing her kids a disservice. I don't mean she should turn them over to society to raise, but she needs to rethink her methods of teaching and make those kids her focus, then do her errands after schooling. If she's doing that, then there's no harm done. I think it's a very responsible parent who doesn't let their kids play with just anyone for the sake of 'socializing'. That's how they get in with the wrong crowds in the first place. I could respond to some of the really stupid answers you've received, but I won't. I can understand your concern, and you might be right in regards to her motives, but without talking to her about it, you won't know for sure. Give her the benefit of explaining her reasons to you. You don't have to agree with her, but at least you'll know where she's coming from. Good luck to you!

Answer 8

From personal experience, I think homeschooled kids have stunted social skills. I know most pro-homeschool moms have some quip ready, I challenge them to find any person not associated with homeschooling to say that homeschooling prepares children equally on a social level as regular school. I'm not saying that homeschool kids are anti-social, they're just not trained to some of the norms of our society. If they enter college or most jobs, they will have a person unrelated to them in a position of authority over them and they will be at an equal level with other colleagues competing with them. This isn't a foreign concept to normal school kids, but it certainly is to homeschooled kids.

In terms of quality of education, it can be a very mixed bag. There have been numerous success stories of homeschooled kids, usually with parents who have a strong education themselves and have done their homework on the multi-faceted developmental needs of chlidren. Certainly the one-on-one, tailor made coursework can be highly effective from an educational standpoint. However, a parent who does not have the proper background can do their children severe academic harm. My mother is a middle school special education teacher, and every year she has at least one child who was homeschooled in elementary school (usually to "guard" them from sex education) and then enters normal middle school. These kids were not properly educated, and need remedial help, so they're put in classes with learning disabled kids; in most cases, they're 7th graders who read at a 2nd or 3rd grade level.

Then there's the secular vs. religious education argument. I think that one of the biggest advantages of a regular school is having such a diversified education; after graduating a typical student has probably been taught by 30+ educators. This gives them different perspectives on life, and helps them to become individuals, not be molded into their parent's "ideal person". I often question what kind of message homeschooled parents are sending their children when they keep their kids out of regular school for religious reasons. Is their religion that unbelievable that they fear their children will disown it by hearing someone with a different point of view? I supposed that's a different argument altogether, but either way it seems to stifle the questioning nature which is so instrumental to the educative process, as does homeschool.

Throughout my college career, I've only met one homeschooled student who was able to adapt. He's very intelligent and has a very outgoing personality, which has helped him overcome all the new challenges, but even he said it was difficult. Others I have met have dropped out because it was too much. I know a lot of them continue to community colleges to live with their parents and become a headache of community college professors.

Answer 9

I used to homeschool in long island... it is slightly greater stringent than different states, there is greater to it than basically notification. you may report a letter of purpose to homeschool, then you definitely could create an IHIP (Individualized abode preparation application) in the mandatory concern aspects showing what you ought to teach for the 365 days. it relatively is not as problematic because it variety of feels, you would be very typical-- you could certainly basically %. up the textual content textile e book you ought to apply and basically write down the financial ruin headings in the table of contents. you in addition to would could deliver in quarterly comments in long island-- certainly those would be grades you maintain in numerous concern aspects, or they are able to be your guy or woman written precis on how your toddler has been progressing and what he's (she's) been doing. In long island you may log hours spent training and rfile attendance-- this would be a stupid theory for homeschoolers, relatively, yet they require it. I basically used to jot down down approximate time spent doing activities in an afternoon planner. do no longer forget that field journeys and different activities (cooking, gardening, tasks, activity communities or dance instructions, etc., additionally count selection in the direction of this log). There are like 900 required hours in step with 365 days. ultimately your toddler will could take the standardized try each 2 yrs. it is a sprint bit a soreness, yet relatively no longer as problematic because it variety of feels... terrific wager is to get right into a homeschool team on the cyber web or in individual of long island homeschoolers which will assist you study the ropes.

Answer 10

I have homeschooled and have many friends who have or do home school. The children are very social and well rounded. Here where I live we have a strong home school community... We do gym days, science fairs, mother meetings etc.... We hsve fought with the local schools to allow our children to particpate in sports and extra cirricular activities.... We encourage our children to join girl/boy scouts, sports teams, community groups... We have more flexiblity in our schedule because school doen't have to start at 8 am... We are night birds and we sleep in the am and do school work late in the day... We also make our weekends when we want making vacations easier to schedule... We also can take school work with us... I believe that your sister is doing her children an injustice by not socializing them. But it is her choice. I hope she is making informed choices for her children. I know she is trying to do her best for them... It is not up to you to change her mind but you can discuss her choices and reasons with her without critizing her... YOu may learn something aobut her or she may about you....