I just started a new job and was humilated because I do not have the right shoes or clothing.?

Question

I started a job with a health foundation it took 4 weeks to get in after testing and backgroundcheck, 3 additional weeks before my first paycheck. Total of 7 weeks with no money. A employee talked about my shoes to the supervisor I had slip on's but they covered my feet. She took it to the manager who the day before critisized my jeans they are newer jeans with flower embroidered on one side. The best of my clothes. He started telling me that there was a dress code. I was in orientation for two days they told us no sandles. I was embarrased and told them why couldnt they wait until I received my first paycheck to start critizing my clothes I told them that I was poor. And i also said that I did not need this **** put the badge on the desk on walked out. This job was only until dec and no benefits. But I took it anyways to make money and hopefully get a good reference. Were they right in making me feel humiliated? both dress very nice and have money well they work full time.

Answer 1

You most definately over reacted, but what they did was wrong. If I were in your shoes at this point, I would make an appointment with the Human Resource Manager and discuss the possibiltiy of returning to a different position. Calmly explain that you were deeply embarrassed by how things were handled. They invested a lot of $ on your testing and training. So be cool, try to get to some seconds store, get basic black pants, and blouses and stay cool. Good Luck

Answer 2

I think you overreacted. There are very few jobs where there is no dress code and if you want to have a good job you have to follow the company's standards. You did right when you told them that you're poor and had to wait for the first paycheck. But you crossed the line when you said that you did not need this ****.

Answer 3

If they have a dress code they have a dress code and you still have to go by that. They told you no sandals because that is probably the most important part of the dress code for safety reasons. There is probably a whole crap load of information they gave you that you had to read on your own.

If you were taken aside I don't understand how you could be embarrased. I'm also not sure how you could feel it was appropriate to wear jeans in a professional setting.

It's not the business's fault you are short on cash.

Answer 4

You should consider a harassment complaint, if there was not a full breifing on a dress code that specifically banned what you were wearing. What you wore in orientation should have been addressed in that setting, before putting ou at your desk, IF there had been a problem.

Sounds like petty unprofessionals--no great loss in not working there. But you need to make sure you protect yourself in the future, so your resume doesn't suffer.

Answer 5

They treated you unfairly and should have taken you aside and discussed the dress code in a polite manner where you would have felt comfortable to explain your situation. I hate to say this but by the way you handled it , it didn't help your situation. In those cases you have to try to be the better person and not let them have the power over you. It is a hard thing to do. I have lived and learned I was in a similar situation when I was a single mother I just bit the bullet and wouldn't let them run me off. Learn from this and move on.

Answer 6

Try a 2nd-hand clothes place, like Goodwill, Salvation Army, or other place like that. Often times you can find clothes that are in good shape, for a very low cost. When I started my last job, it required that I wear a suit everyday. I had 1 suit, and like you, no money to go out and spend hundreds of dollars on new clothes. So I went to a place like that, and got 3 additional suits for less than $20. That got me through a couple of pay periods, until I could afford to upgrade a bit.

Answer 7

No one can make you feel anything. Your feelings are based on your thoughts. If you had thought, “Hey, they are providing me with some useful information that I can use to be successful in my new job.” Then you would not have felt humiliated, you would have felt grateful instead. I’m guessing you felt humiliated because you were unable to comply with the request due to a lack of money. If you think your value as a human is based on your ability to buy things then having it pointed out that you are poor could result in feelings of humiliation.

So who controls your thoughts? If I tell you to think about chocolate chip cookies, you can think about peanut butter cookies instead, or about puppies, or cruse ships or whatever you want. You control your own thoughts. You can choose to like yourself and be happy and see the glass half full if you want.

You asked, so I’m going to tell you honestly, you may have harmed yourself financially because you have low self esteem. To leave a job when you have no money and no other job prospects because you’re embarrassed is unwise. If you loved yourself more you could simply have explained the situation to them and tried to work out a resolution with or without their help, reminding yourself that you are valuable and worthy regardless of the amount of money you have.

Answer 8

i think that if you ever see this co-worker on the street that you need to cuss her out..nosey freakin bag. I would have told the management about your money situation. They were not right to make you feel humilitated. As I said I hope that you see this nosey b*tch and tell her off..it wont get you a good reference or another job but it would make you feel a whole lot better.

Answer 9

those are not very business enterprise casual, they're more suitable nightclub or beachy. you won't be able to in all likelihood positioned on nylons with those besides, they're open toe and also you would look like an fool. you're going to finally end up looking like the workplace hooker in those. I advise you do your self a favor and ditch em. discover yet another more suitable proper pair of boots (apartments... Pumps w. closed toe)

Answer 10

I think most people would of understood if you had given them a chance. Dress codes are a part of life. How were they to know you were broke? I doubt anyone wanted to make you feel humiliated.