ok so i have been with this guy for 2 yrs now and in the beginning he was really sweet and attentive, now sometimes it feels like he doesn't care and whne i ask him he gets mad, he doesn't take me out on dates anymore which i miss and i don't know whats wrong, i think he treats me unfairly because in the beginning he was really amazing and now is kind of mean and always gets mad for no reason, i cant leave him because im in love with who we were together and i want that back, were now talking about moving in together but it scares me i dont want to spend my life with someone who is always down, and angry. i love going out and always want to do stuff and always buy him gifs and i feel like i deserve better like he used to treat me, we talked about it he tells me he loves me more than anything its just that there is so much stress in his life and trust me there is i jsut dont know what to do anymore i want him to be who he was loving outgoing sweet what could be wrong???
2006-07-16 05:39:08 · 4 answers · asked by jm 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's won you so now he thinks he doesn't have to do all of the stuff he needed to do to win you over in the first place. He's too comfortable with you and knows that you'll stay with him no matter what. He probably does love you but you need to tell him how you feel. You can't change a person but hopefully he'll be more understanding to your needs and make sacrifices or at least compromises. If you hold all of this in then you will be more miserable. Don't criticize him but just tell him by starting out "I really love it when we....or you do....." don't say we never do this anymore...it'll only agitiate him. You 2 need to have a little talk though. Good luck!
2006-07-16 05:59:14 · answer #1 · answered by kago 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess u should not expect now too much from him. It happens always that when u ask for something in relation u dont get that. dont ask too much from him if u will keep on asking for the things it willmake the matter more worse. Keep one thing in ur mind that Mens are like Rubberbands the more u will involve the more they will run leave him on his own for sometime wait n be patient . Let himmake plans for u when u will leave he will start planning. Give some distance They have more work to do. Mens do not think about Love al the Time.
2006-07-16 12:53:17 · answer #2 · answered by dips 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That may be because now it's old to him to be nice and take u out. In the beiginning it was nice and cute because he was trying to get and keep u.
So now it's no big deal because he's got ya
Now what U need to do is stop waiting 4 him to take u out and say anything nice to you, u need to go out with ur friends to have a good time and if he says anything then tell him ur tried to wait for him but he just didn't want to go out together anymore and u was not gonna sit around and wait for him to go out with
Take controll over what u want don't wait on him
2006-07-16 12:48:10 · answer #3 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's not the one for you. If he's like this now after only 2 years, it's only going to get worse. But you sound like a weak insecure person, I'm sure you probably won't dump him. You'll end up shacking up with him getting pregnant and after a couple of years, you'll finally have enough and leave him. Then your poor kid will join the rest of the growing population of broken homes and grow up and repeat the mistakes you've made.
2006-07-16 12:57:16 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋