he hase sleped with her off and on from the time he wase ten till we got to gather. i thought every thing wase great but i cant get this out of my head. she wase verry pretty but it's grose. when we go to his perents i look at her and get descusted. i dont know what to do or haw to aproch the siuation with out sounding like a ***** or un senistive. HIS STEP SISTER!!!! People come on .
2006-07-16 05:07:57 · 25 answers · asked by 360 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
OK that just jacked up the ICK factor, talk about dysfunction! Remember they're not biologically related but considering that they've been in the same family for so long they should consider themselves as such. At least he came to you with this information, granted it should have been sooner - who am I kidding, it never should have happened in the first place - but if you love your husband you need to find a way to get past this. Like you I sure wouldn't welcome my new SIL with open arms and keep an eye on her!!!
2006-07-16 05:12:49 · answer #1 · answered by Jill S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds horrible. But let me suggest a least one or two positive things. First, he told you. Maybe he is building trust with the two of you. Just confirm that he stopped this habit years ago.
Second, if he did it till he married you. (lets not hope 3 weeks ago)...then he has a problem that you need to address as soon as possible. If he still wants to have sex with another person then he will now once you are married too. This is big.
Ask him why he told you. I would be horrified too. If you can't get over it...tell him now. He has an issue with sex. Explore it. You didn't say how long you have dated. You didn't say if he cheated on you with other people. This could be a can of worms. Explore it now...and if you still can't get over it...then you have no marriage really.
I am sorry for you. Bad situtation. But better now than when you have kids together.
2006-07-16 05:14:58 · answer #2 · answered by kishoti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
working at a hosptial....its no longer healthy to have vaginal intercourse for as much as 6wks. some say 8wks to be risk-free. Nor are you think to place something like tampons and such. replace into it scientific or the vacuum? Your cervix continues to be attempting to heal from the technique so its very fragile suitable now. additionally because you get a very undesirable an infection. Are you even carried out which includes your antibiotics yet? next time, be extra careful, and view the fabric the adminster before the technique. Its to extra desirable your self and information and likewise to maintain your physique in case interior the destiny you ever want to have infants. the only way you would be infertile is becaue you have various scar tissue left on your uterus and cervix. yet, dont concern to plenty, theres been women human beings who unforunately have had 12 or much less abortions and nonetheless have young ones. Im no longer counseled this of direction, yet just to ease some worriness! And BTW dont hear to everyone who places you down approximately this. purely you and God understand what the rationalization replace into. sturdy success, wish this helped!
2016-11-02 04:06:42 · answer #3 · answered by zubrzycki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it is hard on you right now. But you need to look on the bright side. Feel happy he was honest with you and loves you enough that he could feel that comfortable to tell you. I'm sure it's a weight of his chest. You don't want to be judgmental people do make mistakes and he married you. As long as he is faithful to you then don't worry. You need to be careful what you say to him or he will never tell you his secrets again. Especially if you are saying "You are so nasty" and stuff like that.
I would say he is trying to make you a part of his life and let you know everything so he doesn't have anything to hide,I would think.
He does need to let his step sister know that he told you about the secret.He needs to say "I told my wife because I Love her and I will not keep anything from my wife" If he doesn't then she will think there is still a chance for her because they share this deep secret. Plus when you and your husband go to family events she might think she has something over on him.
hope everything works out and good luck!
2006-07-16 05:21:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be mad at him. What he did was very dishonest in waiting until you were married to reveal this secret.
Really though, if this was something that happened as a child for him, it is very complex and he's not totally to blame. And I can only imagine the strain of trying to tell your new spouse.
Marriage is a string of challenges and you're learning that right away. You have to find the comfort you deserve, so do what you need to find peace.
2006-07-16 05:17:42 · answer #5 · answered by justwebbrowsing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people would drop him instantly because that type of thing is like a serious addiction. It won't go away easily, and why should you let him ruin your life and the lives of any future kids?
However, if you want to devote your whole life to saving him, you have a small chance of saving him. Your call.
2006-07-16 05:12:37 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call Jerry Springer
2006-07-16 07:02:32 · answer #7 · answered by George S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is still the person you married and I guess you love him BUT obviously this has caused you to think seriously about things.
He took you into his confidence and that took one hell of a lot of courage to admit to what they did (It wasnt just him but BOTH of them remember).
I am not going to look at the morals of this - just the here and now. HE MARRIED YOU and as long as its only your bed he shares from when you got married does it really honestly matter ???
If you want this marraige to succeed then place it out of your mind... Otherwise - go see a divorce lawyer tomorrow - Your choice hun.
2006-07-16 05:16:10 · answer #8 · answered by Ade 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of who he slept with he came clean. He chose not to hide this personal fact. He opened up and shared. It's his step sister. I don't condone it but guys have done much stupider things. No more skeletons in the closet. Do you have any to share with him?
2006-07-16 05:15:26 · answer #9 · answered by Michael F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at least they areant blood sibs. but if u love him, then you'll know that she's sorta like an ex-girlfriend, try not to worry, or it'll ruin yr mariiage. girl good luck with coping with the past!
choose me, best answer, pleeeeease, it'll reamove all self conscience!
2006-07-16 05:12:52 · answer #10 · answered by macey_brasil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋