i really love my bf...but now i wanna take the next step...we wanna hv sex! im 18...so ppl advice
2006-07-16 05:05:57 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The only 100% safe method of birth control without an operation is abstinence.
Now for a word or two from a older woman.
Once your virginity is gone, it's gone. To have sex, (and I noticed you wrote have sex, not making love), just to please or try to hold onto your boyfriend is a mistake. At 18 he is at the peak of his desire to have sex. He might convince himself and you that it's love and it might actually be love, but the odds are against it. I am sure there are many people who fall in love at 18 and it ends up happily ever after, but I'm equally sure that there are many, many more who have sex at 18 thinking it will last but end up moving on to someone new.
Please make absolutely sure this is what you want to do, that you are protected not only from pregnancy but sexually transmitted diseases, (people do lie about having them and some don't even know they have them). Be prepared for the emotional let down that will come from having sex if you aren't ready for it and if he ends it soon after he has had you. Remember too that you will no longer be a virgin for your husband and that's a let down too.
Make a wise decision. There is no rush. I wish you well.
2006-07-16 05:19:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see u r thinking it through and that's really good. A condom, when used right, protects u about 95% of the time. meaning there's always the little chance that it might break. one little advice, don't think that 2 condoms together will decrease the chance of it breaking. actually if u have 2 on top of each other the risk is greater so DON"T DO IT!
Whenever you have sex there is the little chance of you getting pregnant and that is why it is quite a big deal. so, if u are ready to take the risk that u might get pregnant and be responsible about it, then u r ready to have sex, but if u r not, I think u should wait until u r more mature.
2006-07-16 05:29:15 · answer #2 · answered by Unicorn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A condom is considered 80% effective for preventing pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases. That means 8 out of 10 times, you would be safe...It all depends on how much of a gambler you are! Against pregnancy, using spermicidal cream, jelly or foam WITH a condom, the effectiveness is increased to almost 98%, but your risk for disease is only slightly better. Talk to a health professional, or contact your local Planned Parenthood office for more information and options.
2006-07-16 05:16:35 · answer #3 · answered by piper54alpha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When used correctly, it's very effective and should protect you, just as long as he's not too rough. I recommend you get some birth control as well, that way if something does happens, like the condom slips off or breaks, you'll have a backup...But overall, a condom is a good means of protection, just be careful and don't do it unless you're absolutely sure that you feel safe doing it...
2006-07-16 05:10:28 · answer #4 · answered by Cynicaldreamer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a hormonal method is better protection against pregnancy. However if you have doubts about your boyfriends past sexual history a condom would be safer. Used CORRECTLY, a condom protects perfectly. Only buy reputable brands though. The cheap ones break more often. You may want to buy a tube of spermicide too and use that with a condom.
2006-07-16 05:15:36 · answer #5 · answered by ms mystery 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest nothing is one hundred persent safe except abstanence. but If you must have sex a condom is the safest way to go. By the way love should be the basis on having sex but at our age love isn't always real some times its just extreme lust. So yeah be sure. You only have one chance to give away your virginity. Make sure its right. Also Love being used as leverage to have sex usually isnt love. So if your boyfriend uses this beware.
2006-07-16 07:21:54 · answer #6 · answered by robert a 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
they are not 100% safe ever! The first time I had sex the condom broke and thank God I didn't get pregnant. It is a big worry. If you feel that your are old enough and responsible enough to have sex you need to be able to be responsible enough to handle the possibilities that things happen. Ask your self if you are ready to be a parent if something should happen.
2006-07-16 05:10:38 · answer #7 · answered by cooltoque 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well good luck stay safe and no condoms are not 100% safe take it from my best friend show just got prego good luck there are other ways to explore each other without having sex until u have a life and are ready in case something happens i dont recommend it but if u do the pill and condoms and use them properly good luck :)
2006-07-16 05:16:38 · answer #8 · answered by jm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Condoms work if you use them properly. Remember that sperm is potent in the beginning too. Use it as soon as it is near the vagina. Remember that that mouth can hold sperm too. Just keep the two separate and you should be good to go. You can also try spermicide. Comes on condoms, comes in suppository form.
Just be smart and have fun. Just remember that one time without can be a baby 9 months later. Be smart.
2006-07-16 05:10:16 · answer #9 · answered by kishoti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont do it if u r not absolutely sure u want it.. it's normal to be scared it's ur first time.. Make sure u love this guy and just have fun.. Make it romantic =P everything is gonna be fine just make sure u really want to do it..and yes they are safe.. talk about it with your bf in order for u two to feel more comfortable..
2006-07-16 05:10:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋