If I adobt a 13 year old girl, what are some of the biggest problems I'll face? I have no other children. Will she hate me or accept me as her new parent?
2006-07-16 04:44:31 · 7 answers · asked by spain_105 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
most teens in the System have just about given up on getting adopted and are waiting to age out. Talk to her she what she wants some are very resentful of the system and can be a hand full. but that is not the norm
2006-07-16 04:58:37 · answer #1 · answered by Joe 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Could go either way, but I'm sure she'll be very grateful to have and be a part of a family. So I think the risk is worth it. Adopted children go through many emotions at different times in their lives, this is quite normal. I don't think your problems will be any worse than any other parent of a 13 year old. That is a difficult time for any teen. Good Luck and I'm sure not only her life will be blessed for having you, but Your life will be equally if not more blessed. It will be an advantage that you don't have other children, for all your love and attention can be put on her. I think it will work out great. There are many services also if a problem should arrise. Good Luck / God Bless
2006-07-16 04:52:11 · answer #2 · answered by Havahekuvaday 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I give you a lot of credit in wanting to adopt an older child.I think that really depends on what she has gone through for what your problems will be. Was she abused in any manner? Show her love and respect and a lot of it. It may be something that she has never had. Remember all teenagers don't like their parents here and there. I am sure that she will love you and appreciate all that you are doing for her. If not now then in life she will realize that you gave her a family.
Good luck to you and congratulations on your new child, I am sure that she will bring you a lifetime of happiness.
2006-07-16 04:53:43 · answer #3 · answered by rranderson1968 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depending on how she was raised before she got adopted u might have different problems. if she was in orphanages and moved from one family to another a lot, she will most probably have huge attachment issues. u might encounter the "u're not my real mother, u can't tell me what to do" and so on attitude when she gets angry.
if she had known u for a long time and u know that she likes and is willing to make it work, i think u should have less problems.
I think a good strategy will be to have her evaluated by a psychologist for emotional distress, so that u can identify problem areas and concentrate on working on those.
or u might not encounter any significant emotional or behavioral problems. after all it all depends on the individual.
good luck and congratulations for making this decision! :)
2006-07-16 05:38:10 · answer #4 · answered by Unicorn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, teenage years are the years when you never know what to expect. she probably will love her for bringing her into your family, but may hate you for talking her out a different "family" (the place she lived before adoption). some teens hate starting new during these years, take it from someones who knows..
2006-07-16 04:49:19 · answer #5 · answered by chicita! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it would really depend on the situation, if she lost her parents recently, she might still feel resentful, but she should be willing to accept you soon. it's a really sweet thing to do, and you can make sure she dosen't miss out on those great teenage years.
2006-07-16 04:49:11 · answer #6 · answered by NY Lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Treat her well and she will accept you
2006-07-16 04:47:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋