9 months and having tamtrums HELP!!?

Question

My nine and a half month old little girl is a happy little soul, she rarely cries, sleeps for a good 12 hours at night and naps for 3 hours during the day. BUT, in the last two to three weeks she has been having tantrums, not crying but actually getting really angry, so much so that she clentches her fists and goes red and screams at you, if your close enough to her she hits you too!

I have two older children who both had the usual terrible twos but none that started this early.

any suggestions?

Sarah

Answer 1

This is a tough age because their verbal skills are not developed enough to communicate what they need but their brains are developed enough to know what they want! I would guess she is frustrated by the inability to effectively communicate. I was fortunate to have an early talker but my sister had this problem and found huge success with sign language. Her daughter quickly learned a handful of basic signs (hungry, all done, more, etc) and the anger fits stopped within a few weeks.

Answer 2

Try doing more physical activities with her and/or cutting back on her naps by 30min/hour.

Find out when the tantrums start - is she bored? Often kids get into problems when they lack activities, regardless of age.

If she hits you when she is angry, exaggerate your emotions so she can tell that it hurts when she hits you and speak to her verbally. She might not be able to talk back but she will start to understand your facial expressions.

"Ouch, it hurts when you hit me".

If she tends to have the tantrums right before nap or right after, plan activities for those times to occupy her.

Hope this helps!

*** ADD ON***

Whatever you do, do NOT ignore the situation! Never NEVER ignore children or their behaviour. It's just a cop out and the child gets hurt in the end - regardless of age.

Answer 3

I'd go with 'cookedermott' on this, her behaviour is unusual and out of character. Has anything happened recently that might have caused a reaction? Food, etc? try to find an outside cause before you assume she's just 'being difficult'. Check the web in case someone else has seen the same symptoms. Ask your doctor too. Best wishes.

Answer 4

It's the terrible twos just early she cannot speak or do what she wants so she is getting frustrated just "enjoy" a longer terrible twos than usual

Answer 5

when she dose this remove her from the situation then ignore her after telling her not to do it keep the other children away from it as well. it's trial and error, dont reward bad behaviour by giving her attention she will soon use it as a tool....good luck

Answer 6

is she teething? my 9month old has been the same and i've just noticed her top tooth poking through, she hits us and screams nearly 24/7 when again shes always been a happy content baby!

Answer 7

She is not getting her way. That is how i was. My parents were strict and whenever i cried i would have a time out. You just need to sit her down and have a talk who is boss. she won't like it but you need to talk to her. Good luck!

Answer 8

her tantrum is an expression of frustration on her part. she cant tell u what she wants as u know and is just angry she will get over it if u show her its not effective

Answer 9

I don't think diet could solve your problem but it could certainly help. Try giving her more fresh fruit and veg, and cut right down on sugary treats and food with additives, e numbers, preservatives and caffeine. : )

Answer 10

hi Sarah my daughter is like this to. what i tend to do is leave her to it and once she has got it out of her system shes fine again