my boyfriend is always busy with his job n stuffs...he never has time for me..he is too careless kind too..i know he truly loves me but he is not at all givin me enough attention...is there any tips by which i can get his attention..i mean he can think and love me more...pls help guys...i'm in a very sad situation
2006-07-16 04:35:15 · 10 answers · asked by sam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He spends his time at his job and stuff? What is wrong with that? A man needs a job. There is nothing wrong with a person having interests other than their girlfriend/boyfriend.
What are you doing with your time? Do you have a job? Do you go to school? YOU should have other interests besides your boyfriend!
Of course if you love each other you want to spend time with each other ...
BUT it isn't healthy to expect him to spend 10 hours a day with you and when he isn't with you you shouldn't expect him to call you 20 times a day (nor should you be calling him that many times).
Your self worth, your self esteem, who you are as a person should come from within. Do not make the mistake of identifying who and what you are, solely based on your relationships.
Attention does not equal love. Any guy can give you tons of attention ... and still not love you.
Love is unselfish and trusts.
Are YOU being unselfish or demanding?
Do YOU trust him?
Before you try fixing him, see if your expectations of the relationship are realistic. Maybe you are the one being unreasonable in your demands.
2006-07-19 04:26:46 · answer #1 · answered by Elf Rochelle 3 · 6⤊ 10⤋
My Boyfriend Is Always Busy
2016-11-10 08:05:21 · answer #2 · answered by score 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to evaluate what you want from this (or any) relationship. As far as this guy, this is it. This is what you can expect from this relationship (I'm not saying this in a negative way, I'm simply saying this is where he is happy in this relationship.)
There are things you can do to get more attention SHORT TERM, but the normal state of things (the status quo) is established.
Your honest best step is to discuss it with him and let him know of your needs. If he adjusts, it's fixed. If he can't devote more time to you, decide if this is acceptable for your life and decide where to go from there.
Good luck!
2006-07-16 04:41:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you say your man "truly loves you" but I am sure alot of people would agree with me that when someone loves you. They give you their undivided attention. Trust me food and sleep becomes secondary. So maybe you should really assess your situation and find out if he truly loves you as you claim. My ex when he was two timing me.......he was always busy until I found out he was having a baby with someone else. Wake up and smell the coffee girl.
2006-07-16 04:41:09 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Mandeville 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
boyfriend busy
2016-01-27 06:51:45 · answer #5 · answered by Carolynn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are boyfriend girlfriend and not living together I think you should stop going "steady" and date other people. If you are having sex then stop an dmove out when you can..its not sounding like you have something that meets your needs as a person.
2006-07-16 04:41:00 · answer #6 · answered by ssunfish 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think he is busy or worried over few things
Give him time
Hope everything will turn up good
2006-07-16 04:38:25 · answer #7 · answered by CoolestnHotest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Why does he work so much, do you need the money?,Is he in a position of authority or management/
2) Could he be avoiding something by working so much?
3) There could be something on his mind that he feels he can't talk to you about, maybe he is bi
2006-07-16 04:41:40 · answer #8 · answered by Finally home 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he say's he's busy, dont call him. When he calls you, make him think he's in jeapordy of losing you. Make up some story about another guy being intersted. Tell him the guy call you all the time and makes time for you. You'll have him back in no time. There's a saying "You never know what you have until you're about to lose it" IT'S TRUE! Let him realize that he's still lucky to have you.
2006-07-16 04:42:10 · answer #9 · answered by Javon 2 · 12⤊ 0⤋
He tells you he loves you to keep you from nagging him and to keep you around when HE wants you. Please move on before you find yourself fifty and wondering why it took you so long to see the real him. Good luck.
2006-07-16 04:40:26 · answer #10 · answered by wondering 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋