For 5 years, I was in a relationship with a crystal meth addict. I watched him go on a downward spiral. He lost everything because of drugs. About 2 years ago, I got so fed up, I severed all ties with him except the occaisional phone call just to see how he is doing. I called him last week, just to talk for a few minutes, and he sounds horrible. Last time I saw him in person, around October of '05, he looked very sick and skinny and just aweful. His family is close to worthless and I don't think he has any friends left. I can't help but worry about him. If he doesn't stop using, I am afraid he will die. I have very limited knowledge about meth. I never got into using with him and I really don't know what he is going through, but if there is a way I could help him, I would like to try.
2006-07-16 04:16:35 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Other - Diseases
You may be his only friend. Sadly, though, there isn't a lot you can do for him unless he wants to get better.
If you can get together with a couple of his family members, perhaps you, along with a drug counselor, can stage an intervention.
2006-07-16 04:23:33 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2006-07-16 11:25:15 · answer #2 · answered by dogsx11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meth is a very powerful drug, and once the monkey is on your back there is not much anyone can do..
It is truly sad to see someone in this condition, but you MUST UNDERSTAND that you can do nothing for him, HE MUST DO IT HIMSELF IF HE IS TO SURVIVE.
You did the right thing walking away, for if you had not you could be right next to him right now. All he will do, is provide you with what you want to hear, what you want to see and whatever he can deceive you with he will do. He doesn't want you, your friendship, your help, he wants your money, or any other valuable he can get to supply the 'MONKEY".
You said it yourself, "he lost everything because of drugs". You don't want to lose everything along with him, do you? When he is ready, and NOT A MINUTE BEFORE, he will come to you and ask you for help. When and IF that happens then fine, but do yourself a favor, let this go...
Personally, I applaud you for your concern and compassion, it is rare in today's "me" world. However, somethings are just to big and hard to fight and this is one of them. You can liken this to attempting to fight Osma bi Laden with all his people and money, by yourself with only a rock as a weapon, you will not win..
You also confirmed what I am saying and I use your words.. "I watched him go on a downward spiral in 5yrs" Could you help him then before the "monkey" was complete control? Now, 5+yrs later I assure you that the "monkey" is probably as big as King Kong, but honey this is not the movies and you are not "Faye Ray".
Please, I don't want to offend you, for pure hearts are a wonderful thing indeed, but it would be a real TRAGEDY for you to get sucked up, yet again by this deadly foe.. YOUR FRIEND is no longer the person you once knew, he is in there someplace, but until HE is ready to comeback and to resume life, let it go...
As a option, contact a local drug rehab facility in his area and discuss this with them. They may be able to direct you to a place that will be better equiped to deal with him and really help him get off the meth. If not, well, something will happen that will kill him, put him in jail, which may save his life, or he will realize that his worth is much more than some drug he needs to have to simply exsist. I have no doubt that they will commend you as well, and equally will warn you of these same things.
2006-07-16 20:20:44 · answer #3 · answered by jv1104 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try an intervention, but without the help of others who care about him, that might not be an option.
Unfortunately Meth Addiction are usually lethal. Meth addicts the brain just about immediately after only one hit.
It's dangerous and deadly. There's not much you can do unless he wants the help.
2006-07-16 11:21:42 · answer #4 · answered by DEATH 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are a very compassionate and caring person. HOORAY for you!! You can attempt to get your friend into treatment, but if he is as far gone as you describe, he probably won't go and even if he does, it's probably too late. He has destroyed his body as well as his mind with meth, and that is a shame. The next step for you is to continue to show that you care, but don't expect a lot of response. Prayer might help.
2006-07-16 13:40:53 · answer #5 · answered by stephen p 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't save the world Lisa. He's gone and it's not your fault.
2006-07-16 11:21:42 · answer #6 · answered by killmylandlord 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋