I am so hurt over my break up with my boyfriend of five years that i physically hurt in my chest and heart. Is this shock or panic attack feeling. It just happened and I do not know how to deal with it. How do you calm yourself and get a grip so i can move on with my life? How do u stop thinking about him and always wondering every night where he is and what he is doing. I heard he allready is talking to a new girl. I need help!
2006-07-16 04:02:55 · 9 answers · asked by jaide333 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I understand how you are feeling to a T....I've been going through it on and off for 5 yrs. with the same man.....now he only considers me a "friend" ....all I can say is that it takes time...what I did was go to counseling finally because it was affecting my work and home life....I also started meditating and concentrating on me.....slowing my breath and trying to clear my mind...it does help to a certain point, but you have to keep at it. Try to keep yourself busy (I know that's easier said than done though) I spent a lot of time by myself and trying to get into different hobbies, I took up a Bellydance class to make me feel better about myself (which it did) I volunteered and met a lot of nice people, I also scoured Barnes & Noble and picked up a lot of self help books to help me undertand what I was going through, that reallly helped immensely.....it's never an easy thing to go through and what your probably experiencing besides depression is panic attacks...I actually got on meds for that because it was driving me crazy....see your doctor if you just can't cope by yourself anymore and you think that you may need additional help.
I honestly feel for you, it's a terrible feeling and I wouldn't wish it upon my worst enemy...
Good Luck and YOU can do it, just take it day by day!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-16 04:14:38 · answer #1 · answered by Blue_Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel your pain. Totally. really, i DO. it's been 3 weeks for me now, and i feel like running to the mountains and never come back. you can't explain the feeling inside. your heart is in pain and there is no healing for that, no medication, no nothing! and even though you tell someone, you feel better for a while. but your head is running miles and miles every hour, every minute and every second. the best advise from my side is: try not to be alone at times. be with friends and try a new hobby or just do something you never done before. Yeah, everyone is saying that time will heal, but how long will it take. i really don't know either. Just the thought that he is so quickly moving on with his life, makes you even more gross. it feels like your heart can't handle of of these things. but you will grow and this makes you even more stronger. when you meet someone new, you will feel better and you can look back and you became a stronger woman and that you can handle the situation much better. all you need right now, is love from family and friends, their support. and please, do not rush into another relationship, as you must sort your heart out. and GOOD LUCK and be strong. every day will be another challenge. :-)
2006-07-16 11:28:28 · answer #2 · answered by blommekie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a panic attack. You need to go see a counselor or therapist. You might be suffered from severe depression and medication can help with that. When my husbnd and I were dating, we split up for awhile and both of us married someone else. I divorced mine, but he stayed married for three years. My heart hurt everyday. I thought about him all day and all night and I cried for three years. They divorced and he and I got back together and have been married for many years.
2006-07-16 11:08:37 · answer #3 · answered by pamela_d_99 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To move on.. guess try as much as possible to get busy.
Go out or hangout with your friends.
If you think of him, the more you will get hurt. Don't hurt your own self. Think that maybe its not meant to be. Enjoy.
2006-07-16 11:14:39 · answer #4 · answered by Amani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are mentally unstable and have an unhealthy fixation on this man.
You need to accept he is no longer in your life and you need to enjoy the freedom it brings.
Seek professional psychological help. Take medication when prescribed.
2006-07-16 11:28:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u shld stay more with ur friends,do outting with them and when u dont hv any work go on to chatting and just think tht he is not worth of hving u.join clubs and enjoy ur life,love will come back ur way someday and u every experience is learning experience so just dont worry abt anything.
2006-07-16 11:09:08 · answer #6 · answered by tanya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is only one answer to this question and it is TIME.
Time will go by - you will meet other people and start having fun again. Just get "out" as soon as possible and try to have fun. I'm sorry you're going through this.
2006-07-16 11:07:22 · answer #7 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
common sense just change the boyfriend ... never stop and go ahhead make a better boyfriend and do not worry but be happy
2006-07-16 11:13:11 · answer #8 · answered by mikit555 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ether forget him and find someone else or go get laied
2006-07-16 11:09:27 · answer #9 · answered by trigunesq 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋