My boyfriend of five years broke up with me and says i need to deal with it and leave him alone. i cant get over it and move on. how do you just up and change your life after being with somebody for a long time. How can I pick up the pieces and move on?
2006-07-16 03:37:32 · 15 answers · asked by jaide333 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, you need to stop INDULGING yourself in the misery of thinking about him constantly. I would advise you to get busy, try your local church, try giving your time to the local shelter, mission, feeding the hungry, something in service. Fill your time up with giving to others. Its rewarding, hard to think of your own pain when seeing others in need, and you can learn more about yourself, and your own choices that brought you to this. A relationship that lasted for 5 years, and he just ups and leaves with no reason, no troubles, doesn't sound realistic, but could happen I suppose. Work on yourself by helping others. Go to church, pray for guidance, for serenity, for wisdom, so the next man in your life is a Godly man who won't do this to you and you abecome a person that someone will seek out as a partner and wife. Get involved in something that keeps you busy, and DO NOT sit around phoning him, waiting for him, or begging him to reconsider, pick up your dignity and make this a learning experience. Use your time wisely my dear, things have a way of snowballing when we wallow too long in our own troubles. Try to not give in too much to that. We can't change others, but we can change ourselves, so work on you, making a better, more desirable, more understanding person, who can be strong in crisis, be brave in turmoil, and can stand the challenges that life throws our way. I wish you well and pray you will find some comfort in helping others! Good luck my dear!
2006-07-16 03:58:27 · answer #1 · answered by rita ribs 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well since your life is already changed and you have no choice but to move on , find some new friends to hang out with so you don't come into constant contact with him. As for picking up the pieces, just be yourself and continue to get out and do things you find enjoyable. Try distractions like a girls night out or something of that sort. There is no use in moping around about something you can't change really. Don't spend time rehashing how things may have been, move on and immerse your self in other activities, you'll find another , just don't fret so much about it because it will only bring you down. Be responsible for your own happiness don't relie on someone else to provide it for you.
2006-07-16 10:50:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best advice I got was from my mother. She said that for two people to be able to survive together they first need to be able to survive on their own. When I was younger I couldn't survive on my own because I wasn't putting God first. I relied on whoever I was dating to make me happy. Once I put God first I gained confidence in who I was and who I wanted to be with.
Pick up the pieces and move with confidence that you'll be fine without him and that you will find your true love. If you don't know Christ make that your first priority and he will bring to you the true desires of your heart.
2006-07-16 10:46:59 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to give it time. Don't go jumping into another relationship. Take time for yourself and find out who you are. It will get better. I went through a divorce, and 7 months later met a wonderful man, we were married yesterday.
2006-07-16 10:43:13 · answer #4 · answered by Right Wing Extremist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the worst thing is to sit at home and think about him. go out with your friends for the night and do anything but think about him. just try to have fun! it hurts being broken up with, but you'll eventually get over it. just try doing some stuff that you like to do like play a sport to keep him off your mind. guys are assholes but we girls have to learn that the hard way. good luck :)
2006-07-16 10:40:57 · answer #5 · answered by nikoxki16 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus on ur job till you feel no more love for him. Then go out there and find some1 that won't be a jerk and dump u after 5 years!!!
2006-07-16 10:40:44 · answer #6 · answered by cowpie1994 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find someone else.. thats the best solution.. if not.. travel.. see places.. where do you live? want to talk to me? give me a chance to cheer you up.. :D incogn2@yahoo.com message me..
2006-07-16 10:40:25 · answer #7 · answered by deadmeat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time
2006-07-16 10:39:53 · answer #8 · answered by USuck79 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop thinking about him and move on
2006-07-16 10:40:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly GET IT ALL OUT-cry, scream and feel sorry for yourself. wallowing self-pity.
2006-07-16 10:44:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋