i announced my wedding 5 months ago my fiancee and i decided that we would set the date for sept 16th my cousin announced last week that she was getting married and her date was sept 16th we have had that day planned for ever she is always competing with me my fiancee and i decided not to go in debt for rings mine was around 1500.00 and his is just a simple band then she tells me that her and her fiancee spent ten thousand on her ring (they financed it) thats worth more than their cars and they live in a run down trailer house should i tell her that your wedding ring is not supposed to be worth more than your house in my oppinion i dont need a loan to prove im marriedam i rite what should i do
2006-07-16 03:23:08 · 8 answers · asked by j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Why should you need to do anything. I don't see why you are concerened about the cost of your cousins ring or how they live. You can't do anything about the date of your wedding . I agree it was wrong of your cousin to plan her wedding on the same day as yours if she knew but all you can do is enjoy your day and don't get hung up her.
2006-07-16 03:32:44 · answer #1 · answered by shelly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I feel sorry for your cousin that she feels she has to compete with a loved one. That is sad. But I am totally happy for you. I would not let it bother you. You two sound like you are truly in love and those flashy things can come later in life anyway. My ring is nothing to scream about but I love it because he tried and succeeded to make it so romantic. However, let's just remember...you can kill a person with kindness. SO.....suppose you haven't already set the date in stone or put down a deposit yet. Just move the date but don't tell her. Tell everyone but her 6 mths prior to the wedding and call those that mean the most to you and make sure they are coming. If you can not change the date, remember that most people treat these things as "first come first served". If you get your invitations out first then they will come to yours. Just play nice and make your wedding something that people will talk about for years. The important things that really matter in a wedding (this is my opinion) are enjoyable weather, cool but not cold, soft breezes, fragrant flowers if held outdoors, and most importantly, laughter, good food, and dancing. I'm having mine start right before sunset so that the mood will transform to an evening with hopefully cool air and lots of twinkle lights. To save some money, do like me. Start buying little items that might help to decorate things a little further as soon as you can. Register at your stores early, so if people need to purchase gifts for both girls they have time to stretch money between paychecks and hopefully send her gift and BRING you yours. Lots of luck!! Also, have a nice wedding, but spend less and spend more on the honeymoon. Everyone tells me that. But through all that advice remember what means more to you be it a memorable wedding or a memorable honeymoon. It's a hard decision I know. View the source I sent you, just scroll down to view more answers that I found for you.
2006-07-16 11:18:00 · answer #2 · answered by puppylove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What should you do about what? It's not your problem that she's an idiot and spent enough on a ring to buy a car. What should you about the date? I guess your wedding is going to be smaller since some of the family will be attending her wedding. Your food budget just got smaller. Good luck and don't worry about jerk cousins, we all have them.
2006-07-16 15:14:39 · answer #3 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, because i can be a snot sometimes, i would change my date to August 15th and not tell her until after she prints her invitations. Dont say anything about the rings. It has nothing to do with costs. A ring is just a symbol of commitment. A simple gold band means as much and sometimes more than a band of diamonds. They want to go into debt? Let them
2006-07-16 10:59:01 · answer #4 · answered by Crazymomo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her and go on with your plans to marry on Sept. 16th. If she insists on being so petty and competitive, then she's not worth the trouble of you worrying about her insecurities. She needs to grown up and get her priorities straight and eventually this poor sap that she's engaged to will see her for who she really is and then it will be off to the courthouse . . . for a divorce!
Good luck!
2006-07-16 10:34:39 · answer #5 · answered by Angie P. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with shelly.don't say anything and also don't get hung up on you're cousin.i think that its treble that she has to compete with you in every thing you do.I hope you have a wonderful wedding and don't worry about ur cousin.
2006-07-16 10:38:36 · answer #6 · answered by Angel sent from heaven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
enjoy your wedding including all the planning..your cousin sounds very immature. its not about ring cost.. mind your own business and dont let her ruin your day.
2006-07-16 10:51:38 · answer #7 · answered by turtles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet she got a quartz rock on her hand.
2006-07-16 15:40:15 · answer #8 · answered by mrsdebra1966 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋