Well my mums boyfriend is a violent man when comes to drinking.My mum has had a kid with him and still stays with him. I know it hurts her when he is like that. But i know she doesnt lose him.I love my mother but he is hurting my family. I dont know what to do. I want my mum to be happy, but i cant just take my brother off her. Although i am thinking of taking him away from her if her boyfriend touches my brother or me again. But what can i do to save my brother and i without hurting my mother. Please someone help me?
2006-07-16 02:29:26 · 30 answers · asked by Island Girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Call the cops and report child abuse towards your mother's boyfriend.
2006-07-16 02:32:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeahhhh, leave. Now. You could call child/social services. If your mother can't see that she may be endangering your life and your brother's, as well as her own, then you need to take some action. People with responsibilities and children should not be acting in such a violent manner, and it's apparent he's dangerous. If he does something that bad again, call the cops. If he's had previous offenses, he could be arrested, but that shows where he should be anyway. It may hurt the three of you to have him leave, but you would do much better alive and struggling, than dead.
2006-07-16 09:36:49 · answer #2 · answered by Luminara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is he drinking ?
Why can't he handle your mother ?
Cut the poor smuck some slack.
By you understanding how demanding you all are.
He probably knows he should leave since your mother does not understand him, or supports him in the responsibilities as a head of household, or really loves him.
For his sake tell him to hit the road.
Your mother and you kids will be fine.
2006-07-16 09:40:33 · answer #3 · answered by r_e_a_l_miles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all i dont know how old you are ,but i lived in a abusive home.1st talk to your mom, then if that doesnt work go to child protective service or tell police .sure your mom will be upset for awhile, but it could get worse if you stay there, and if she really loves you ,she will be alright in time. and i mean it might take a few years for the situation to work out with your mom.but the main thing is to get out for you and your brother.
2006-07-16 09:40:32 · answer #4 · answered by wilkatie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy way to answer this question. What I can say is this, consider the possibilities. Would you rather your mother be mad at you for intervening, or would you rather have to visit her grave? Domestic violence is not a joke, especially when alcohol is involved. Contact a domestic violence center is your area and ask them what the best approach is. However, if he harms you or your family, contact the authorities. You don't want to take risks.
2006-07-16 09:37:02 · answer #5 · answered by ucyimadiva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on how old you and your brother are. If your older enough to leave DO IT. If your brother is over the age of 13 he can choose to come with you? But, how would you support yourself and him? I'd leave no matter what. If you have family TELL them what is going on, if you don't TELL the police. Have him arrested if you must but, STOP the cycle one way or the other ALL LEGALLY of course.
2006-07-16 09:34:13 · answer #6 · answered by pearl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you shoul take action now. Talk to ur mother in private. I have had a granddaughter murdered in that situation. Dont let this happen to someone you love you will never forgive yourself. Your mother can find someone that can love and appreciate her without the drama It will never get better action needs to be taken
2006-07-16 09:48:57 · answer #7 · answered by cobra420 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can go live with your dad if you can't talk to someone at school tell them and have a conference with mother you and principle or Talk to a cop talk to your friends parents they will help have you told your mom has she seen this if yes it isn't right I would die for my child I would protect you form everything and put you and your brother first before any man.
2006-07-16 09:37:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your mother loves yall very much than she would do anything to protect her family and so will you. just because she has a baby with guy doesn't mean that she needs to stay with him. if he drinks and gets violent than you better tell your mom to think about her life and her kids lives. if someone bads happens and no one is around to help call the police. yall need to get out of there. please becarful and take care.
2006-07-16 09:43:47 · answer #9 · answered by Annette A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk with your mother and ask her if she would like to leave and if she dose organise with her to leave your home and go live with some other family for a while until your on ur feet and ur mum can find a job it a long process but if u really want to leave talk it over with your mum and get her opinion if u don't like it answer to live other family anything to get away from him and it would hurt ur mum heap if u ran away cos she most likely really loves u and would want to protect u alot
2006-07-16 09:57:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I KNOW you love your Mother, BUT - SHE - is hurting you and not caring about you and your brother by letting her boyfriend stay. You HAVE to REPORT this, to the cops, to welfare, to someone - before someone gets killed. How HAPPY will your Mom be if that happens?
2006-07-16 09:48:57 · answer #11 · answered by arvecar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋