My hatred for my sister is making me insane, what can I do?

Question

I have many reasons to hate my older sister, I'll just give you one. In 2004 received a warrant for my arrest because she had been caught stealing and used my name. I had to file a police report, go to court and spend approximately 1,500 to get this all cleared up and off my record. Over the years my sister has hurt me so many times. She never says sorry. She never tries to make amends, she never shows any sign that she has a clue how much she's affected my life. she doesn't care, I know she doesn't care. I think she is a sociopath. She makes me so angry, and she isn't someone I can talk to. She's the worst liar I've ever known. The real stressor for me is, I find myself wishing she would die...I'm serious, and I know it's sick, but I hate her that much. The resentment and hate is consuming me, what can I do?

Answer 1

i have a sister who does the same things to me, and i always take the wrap or have to clean after her eg: unpaid bills that she would open under my name.. the abuse is really unhealthy. i put a lot of distance between us and have not spoken to her for 5 years. it has now helped with the thought of killing her or wishing her dead - i no longer feel this way as i removed myself from being the subject of abuse. She might love you, but she is too consumed in her way of things to realize the damage that she has caused you. The worst thing with my sister is that we even look the same. so cheer up, you not the only one who has a mental sibling. my advise - stop talking to her, seeing her etc. you do not need her in your life. good luck

Answer 2

The brotherly affection should never be allowed to be mis-construed as a 'weakness' ! Each individual has to undergo the consequences of his/her own actions. There should be no conflict within , if you decide to share the consequences .. But taking a larger share of consequences of another person always tends to induce the other person to take advantages ! The hatred is due to mis-match between 'expectation' and actual situation. At least acceptance of the situation should be there to avoid this 'additional'(of hatred) price being paid . Let not the consequence get 'compounded' !

Answer 3

Stay away from her and let her know that you will always love her because she is your sister, but that you do not like the person she has become and you don't want to be around her. You don't owe her anything else. Cut your family ties with her now and get on with your life.

Answer 4

Maybe the hatred will drive you insane. Stop hating her. I would put as much distance between you and her as possible. Adopt a new sister. There are cetainly women/girls out there who would love to have someone as a friend. Dont let it consume you. You could turn out as bad as your sister. She probably needs therapy.

Answer 5

im sorry for ur sister cause she s mentally sick. try to get away from her maybe she can change ,give her time if she didnt change just treat her like a stratngers.ask about her every now and then but dont deal with her for any reason.bless ur heart u must went through alot cause of her. i would ignore her for time been. good luck

Answer 6

I understand where your coming from..... you have to love her cuz she is your sister, thats what people say.... but no one is in your spot....you dont have to love her, hate is very close to love they are just the opposite......my advice to you is to stop all communication with that person! You should eliminate everything that causes you stress....AND SHE IS ONE OF THOSE THINGS.......FORGET BOUT WHAT OTHER PEOPLE HAVE TO SAY, ITS YOUR LIFE AND NO ONE ELSE IS LIVING IT FOR YOU........good luck, u deserve better than that.......she will see that one day!

Answer 7

stay away from her avoid her as much as you can
but let her know that you will be there for her
if she really wanted to change