Has anyone ever ended a relationship, later missed their ex so much, asked them back and they'd moved on?

Question

I ended a nearly 2 year relationship with my ex in November of last year as I didn't feel that she was right for me. I loved her as a friend but had never felt a strong sexual or emotional attraction to her. She saw me for a while as a friend afterwards but then stopped visiting. I began to miss her terribly and felt that I'd made a mistake. When I asked her back to me 5 months later, she had met someone else and didn't want to know. I have felt devasted with loss and confusion ever since, my heart has been aching for her, its the worst emotional pain I've known.

Answer 1

no never happened, but i feel bad for you. i can relate to the feeling, you must be so mad. this is proof of why you need to cover everything before you decide to make a desicion like that. you need to think what will i miss, what do i like about her, is it worht it. it sounds like you really liked her, you have to go and tell her how you feel and how much you think of her, tell hjer your devastated you left and ytou want her back. she will come back hopefully. good luck to you.

Answer 2

I think you already know the answer to that question. I think you know that it's probably for the absolute best that she leaves your life and lets you move on, but the reason you hesitate is because of all the strong memories and the love that used to be there. If the love you two had (or still have, who am I to judge) was as strong as you say, I can see why it would be hard to decide, but regardless, I think the best thing for you is to forget her. There's one thing missing between you two that will never come back, and that's trust. When she ditched you for the concert you payed for, when she kept secrets about the guy, and when she slept with you even though she was going out with someone else, she has proven that she cannot be trusted. If she sincerely cares about you, then she may be bipolar, and have these swings, hell I don't know much about your life or her. The only thing I can really suggest, and you probably won't take anyones advice here, because it's your life lol, well the only thing I can suggest is do what feels right. My advice on what the right thing is, plain and simple, is to tell her: "Listen, I want to be your friend and nothing more. If you don't want that, or are going to make my life difficult, I'm leaving and cutting all contact with you." You're in college, you have so many more people to meet. Good Luck ^_^

Answer 3

it may be difficult, but i'm just giving my take here. approach her sincerely, talk to her and tell her how u feel, it's the only way u can salvage your relationship. most importantly, explain to her the difference in the way u felt before and now, from her perspective, she may have been to hurt by your previous statement/break-up to accept u again. a broken heart is hard to heal, but it's not impossible u are willing to give your entire heart and love for her. if it doesn't work, i guess, it's just another of those things in life that happen, and u regret, but that too shall pass, with time. =) take courage, try your best and if it fails, cry and then move on. good luck! happiness is within your reach if u fight for it.

Answer 4

I have been on both sides of this situation. When i was in exactly your situation it was soo hard, i went several years in love with the same girl. Then we started becoming friends again, then one night we ended up making out, i had dreamed about it for years, and it wasn't magical at all. it was a huge disapointment. I had been so in love with the memory that i hadn't let myself move on, and even when they work out, generally memories are not good lovers. I would say date other people as much as you can and do everything you can to not forget her, but convince yourself you only care for her as a friend. Good luck man.

Answer 5

Same thing happen to me. my relationship with my ex ended at last year November, same as you. After five months, he asked me back. yes, i did go back to him. but last month, i caught him in bed with someone else. and for the last three years, he been doing this all the time. when he bored with me, he go for another women.

Well, i finished with him now. I don't hate him, is just he still young and still like to play around.

I understand your feeling. Feel like nothing is interesting anymore. But hey, look around, maybe you owe yourself a chance to see the world and people around you.

Anyway, good luck to both of us. Hope you can find someone you love and love u soon.....

Answer 6

yeah life's a ***** ain't it! my story is a bit different my ex cheated i ended didn't feel right so try ed talking to him but he didn't want to know, so i got on with my life wasn't with anyone else but he then decided that he missed me and wanted to make a go of things but by this point i had just come to terms with us being over so wasn't going to risk it all going wrong again. some times its just best to cut your loses and get on with your life as best as u can it will hurt for a while but it gets better i promise u. just try not to think about what shes doing and who with go out live your life if its meant to be it will if not you'll find someone else sooner or later.
be strong,chin up and big smiles please!
i know its hard but u gotta get yourself outta this! phone some mates go out for a drink get pissed u never know might even get layed! that does help 2!

Answer 7

No Im sorry I have never done that. The pain will fade but you need time to heal the pain. Good Luck and you will find some one else.

Answer 8

yes and within time the pain does fade the girl befor was right.be strong mate.its built into every human to deal with heartache.xxxxx

Answer 9

yeah i finished a reltionship and regretted it. I asked again and got no response and then later on he asked me and now we are dating again. Rejection is hard but if you ended it, now you have both had to feel that emotion, and it isnt nice.

Answer 10

yes and it is the best reaction i received.