what does it mean when ur thinking of someone 24/7 for months and months and u still feel something and its really really strong and u cant get rid of it and its just to painful to bear anymore? is it love or crush or a phase a woman of 22 would go through?
2006-07-15 23:48:22 · 20 answers · asked by allgiggles1984 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it depends on what type of relationship u have w/ this person... is it someone u know very well? or is it someone u can't get over? is it a stranger and ur feelings are based on how he looks??
if feelings are one sided, and based on more thought than action, u have to be careful. because you don't know how the other person is feeling w/o communicating w/ them! let's say u have all these thoughts and daydreams and wonderful, amazing things that MIGHT happen in ur mind.. u end up putting this person onto a pedestal and of course focusing on the positive (no one daydreams that their future boyfriend is a jerk!)... u have to do something about it and find out if he is even WORTH thinking about. get to know him, go for what you want...even if he ends up already being in a relationship or he's not into you, at least u'll know and be able to go on to someone else. but the NOT KNOWING is what is keeping u infatuated continuously.. cuz there's a 50/50 chance that things could happen..but there's also just as good a chance of it being bad. get to the bottom of things and u'll be able to feel more clear about urself and the situation.
2006-07-16 00:04:19 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's not necessarily love. Think about these questions and answer honestly to them:
1. How long and how well do you know the person?
You need to know someone quite well to be able to be in love with them. Love is knowing the worst about the other and still accepting them as they are.
2. When you think of the other person, are thinking how good they made you feel, or how good you made them feel?
Love is always thinking of the other person's best. If you're thinking how good it all makes you feel, then it's not love but something entirely different. Real love ALWAYS cares for other people more than for yourself.
Also, I would consider if it's realistic and likely that you two will end up together? If not, then no matter what your feelings are, it's best to stop them on their tracks. And yes, it is possible to stop thinking about someone. You need to make a firm, honest decision to let go of this person on the emotional level and stick to it. Make up a declaration you say out loud every time the feelings try to take hold of you. Declare to yourself that you're not with that person and your feelings are under YOUR control, not the other way around. And DON'T give the thoughts any room in your brain! Do things that will take your mind off the other person; read a book, call a friend, start cooking, whatever!
Good luck!
RachelK
2006-07-16 00:03:00 · answer #2 · answered by RachelK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well whatever you call it, I guess it's perfectly normal to have such great and contiuous feelings for someone. And exciting too I guess! I was a late starter too and even at 22 I guess that feelings more common with teenage years can still be highly prevalent ... nothing wrong with that but you just need to give yourself permission to deal with the situation properly otherwise it may well make you ill. I have no doubt that you have such a high for this person but you need to talk to yourself and be realistic about it all ...... is this person available? Do they know how you feel? Is the feeling two way? If this person is available then you really need to let them know how you feel and see what comes back ...... but remember, you are still young at 22, loads more time to hit on the right one ...... and like everything in life, you have to make mistakes to get it right. That's a simple law of nature for us all . Go on, be bold .... see if you can take it further. If it fizzles out, be hard on yourself , deal with it and move onto another new relationship. You will feel those feelings again, I guarantee it. Good luck eh .......
2006-07-16 00:10:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a man of 25 so I know what you mean. Just by what you've said, I'd say Crush. But I have a dependent personalty, so I have a bad habit of becoming very attached to a person that shows any interest in me. Then I can't stop thinking of them and so on. So I have to step back all the time when I meet a new woman and try to figure out what is real and what is not.
2006-07-16 00:01:47 · answer #4 · answered by Charlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you have to ask yourself is, even if you find yourself hating this person does it feel the same, because they say love is the same as hate if you are not careful, If this is the case, then it is love.
If you do not have the above then you have a crush.
I woudl suggest telling the person how you feel and you may be pleasantl surprised??
Best of luck a Friend
2006-07-16 02:13:36 · answer #5 · answered by REAPER_ENTERPRISES 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to me it sounds like a crush but it might be love at 22
2006-07-16 02:26:01 · answer #6 · answered by donielle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
You're in love!!
Hope the feelings last!!
Cheers,
All The Best!!
2006-07-15 23:53:02 · answer #7 · answered by East Bay Punk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can only be two things: either unrequited love, the best thing is to get on with your life, or, total madness, though I suspect it is the first!
2006-07-15 23:54:31 · answer #8 · answered by Raymo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like love to me... also sounds like you have them on a pedestal. There is a real risk that if you do get it together with them, that they could never match up to this level of idealisation!
Then again, if you don't try you'll never know...
Why live in regret?
Best of luck...!
2006-07-15 23:55:52 · answer #9 · answered by Aidy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds more like an infatuation than love
2006-07-15 23:52:57 · answer #10 · answered by Matthew H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋