I can call another girl now and go out with her today. I can find another girl but my heart just doesn't allow me. I'm in a state of imbalance. I'm trying to get over it. Should I just go out with another girl? But I think it is a mean behavior to go out with another girl just to forget the girl that I love.
2006-07-15 23:34:45 · 15 answers · asked by universal 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow i think it's awesome that u realize that it would be "mean behavior" to go out w/ another girl and basically "use" her (rebound) to get over someone else. not many people understand that u could be manipulating another person's feelings for ur own personal gain.
what u need to do is understand that if u've given ur all to someone, ur love, ur time, commitment, and tried all u could to make her happy but it just didn't work, YOU ARE A GREAT PERSON. you deserve someone who truly appreciates what u are, and how u treat them. let's say she was a mean person, and took advantage of u. she's not worth it then, because she doesn't have your interests at heart. let's say she was a nice person, but just didn't think you were the "one". it hurts, but why would u want to stay/be with someone who doesn't think u are good enough? be sure and confident that you are a great person, and that u want someone who can appreciate that. don't settle for anything less...
i experienced that many times... i dated this guy that i really liked, and i treated him really well, went wherever he wanted to go, tried to make him happy always. he ended up treating me so bad, and i was sooo sad for awhile.. then i realized, WTF!!! i am a GREAT person and a GREAT girlfriend and any guy would be lucky to know me, so that guy is just not worth it. and i don't want to have anything to do with someone who treats other people like garbage.. and there's absolutely no point in crying over someone like that. so i just worked on myself, on my confidence in myself, and my appearance (working out, etc), and i felt stronger. u need to work on urself and be confident on ur own, a girlfriend should compliment and enhance you, but not be your only strength.
2006-07-15 23:54:58 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not mean to go out with another girl to forget the one you love. Everything has a beginning and an end. You are ending the chapter with another girl and continuing on with your life. Your life does include dating other girls. Its not like you are using someone, you are only trying to begin another chapter in your life. I know your heart is hurting and slowly day by day it will continue to not hurt as bad. Time heals all wounds. For your mental well being and your social well being, you need to get out and attempt to have some type of fun in your life. Your heart will hurt but not as much as it did after some time has passed. The old saying that I have always tried to live with (difficult sometimes) is "When one door closes..... another one opens". Dont be so caught up into your sadness that you miss an opportunity for another chance to be happy again. You will be ok and it will take some time, but life is like a book of chapters. Consider that girl that you love an end of a beautiful chapter and concentrate on starting another chapter in your life. Good luck and best wishes.
2006-07-15 23:56:58 · answer #2 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard...I know from experience. just take it one day at a time and eventually you will get over it. Sure it is OK to date while you're trying to get over someone else. If you misuse your dates however, that is wrong. A good female platonic friend would be a good move. Use this time to concentrate on taken care of other important matters.
Again...you will get over this! Avoid feeling sorry for yourself and walking around with your head hanging down. Put your efforts in accomplishing something positive each day (anything, no matter how small). That will help a lot. You will be surprised how much it will help in speeding up your recovery.
2006-07-16 00:03:07 · answer #3 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can love some one for the rest of your life. But if they don't love you back it's just a heap of heartache that will never leave you and as time goes on, that person changes, and you are in love with the memory not the person. You will find someone to love that much eventually. Go out with as many girls as you want to get over the hurt and rebound. She will be in your memory for ever. Remember the good times but DO MOVE ON!!!!!!!
2006-07-15 23:46:29 · answer #4 · answered by diablo0470 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is definately not fair to use another girl to get over her but you could be good friends with another girl have some good times go out have fun but nothing pysical
2006-07-15 23:51:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to drown your pain in other women. It's unfair to them. Just come to a realisation that you love this woman and always will no matter how she feels about you; that is true love. When you are ready to give 100% of yourself to another woman ... move on.
2006-07-15 23:37:19 · answer #6 · answered by Keith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should never jump out one car and then get into another... it takes time...discuss ur feelings to that person on how u feel about the breakup. So that u won't bring that same emotion that u r feeling right now, into the next relationship... take time out for ur self... and then venture out to find LOVE again...MWAAA!!!
2006-07-15 23:43:40 · answer #7 · answered by jasmine m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give yourself some time to sort out your feelings...don't go out with the other girl if you are not over the first girl...she could get hurt
2006-07-15 23:38:16 · answer #8 · answered by Kipper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey it will take time but u will get over it so try to relax and give urself a break
2006-07-15 23:40:10 · answer #9 · answered by beauty with brain 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am in the same situation bro,i can have any girl but the one who broke my heart
2006-07-15 23:37:58 · answer #10 · answered by eugen272000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋