Should I flirt with this guy but I don't want him to know i like him yet?

Question

This is at work, by the way. I like this guy and whenever we pass by each other, we exchange a smile and a hello. The way he smiles at me and the way he smiles to other people are different. When he smiles at me, he tends to look at me significantly longer than other girls and it just seems kind of familiar. It's hard to explain. We never actually talked before, we only exchanged a few words, and we don't even know each other's names, but for some reason, we smile at each other like we already know each other. The first time we saw each other from a distance, it seemed like our eyes locked in and I cracked a little smile and so did he. Sometimes when I sense someone looking at me and I turn around and catch him looking at me, he looks the other way. When he sees me coming to work in the same area he's working in, his face kind of lights up and smiles and says hello in a nice soft way. I think that he may be interested in me, but I'm not too sure.

I want to flirt with him, but if I do, it will be obvious that I like him. I don't want him to know that I like him until I know for sure that he likes me first.

Shall I wait until he flirts first or should I do it first? How can I know for sure that he likes me? And if we do flirt, should I make the first move first? He seems like an insecure and shy guy who wouldn't flirt with a girl, when he doesn't even know she's interested in him yet.

Only answer if you're not against the dating a co worker thing, please. I'm planning to quit my job in late August so I'm not worried about it. I don't want lectures.

Of course I say "hi" back to him. I'm not a mute. And I'm a shy person as well, that's exactly why I hesistate to flirt with him first before I know that he likes me or not and that's exactly why I'm posting this question.

Answer 1

what are u thinking lol jk. hey why do u have to flirt he is ur co worker right. all u need to do is go up to him and talk. so hes shy so he cant but what about u. if ur not then go up to him and just say hi no smile and walk by stuff. call him by his name when u walk by and if u have time to talk or break or whatever just talk to him. flirting is just for like hookups. still fliriting does require communications. u like the guy then u can wait for him to make a gesture or u can just go and say hi and start convo. have u ever even been introduced. u want advice here it goes. when u go to work the next time u pass by him speak. say his name whatever it is. say hi ????? whats up. he will not diss u. more like be in shock but speak girl. i guarantee u once u guys stop smiling and staring and actually start talking it will be all good. so dont let the guy ur all into him just say hi and see what happens. listen to me i know what im talking bout i done this many times. start the communications girl the sooner the better. what if another girls decides to do it before u. so go to work and do what i said. ok good luck

Answer 2

flirt away but if you want him to make a movea nd he's shy you will have to be pretty bold lol my friend is the same way and he is hella dounce he litterallly can not tell when a girl is flirting with him unless she comes up to him and tells him exactly how it is.

Answer 3

i really think ya should go 4 it maybe some other girl will come ND make a move before ya so go 4 it gorgeous lol

Answer 4

Go for it, he might be thinking the same ringht now.You never know untill you try. Dont have regrets in your life or should haves. Good luck

Answer 5

You can probably flirt with him much more than he flirts with you. Most guys are slower to catch it than women.

Answer 6

why not

Answer 7

...........k,then.