My boyfriend is having some doubts about our relationship. I'm not sure why because he says i've been a great and understanding girlfriend. I know he's been feeling unsure about a lot of things..his school, his friends, his major, etc. He's not really sure what he should be doing with his life or if he's happy with how things are right now. I dont understand how any of that has to do with our relationship..i mean when you love someone you should try not to let those other things affect your relationship with that person. Anywho, i've talked to a few people and some have said to dump him because i shouldnt have to put up with the drama...and others say that he's just going through a rough time and that i should be there for him and that nothing bad will happen to us. Well, i asked him today over the phone if we were going to break up..and he said he didnt know..that he doesnt know about a lot of things. should I end the relationship or stick with him through all of this?
2006-07-15 20:42:20 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i would stick with him even if it is just as friends at the moment. u should really let him know that u are there for him especially if u care for him so much. it sounds as though he is in a pivotal time in his life where he know has to choose his future and plan wisely. sometimes when that happens other things get cloudy, such as ur relationship and he may wonder if he is good enough for u since he does not have his life sorted out. he probably wants to be more stable and then in a relationship so he can provide more for u ( i dont meant monetarily, i mean like mentally and physically) instead of worrying about his position in life. i would just stick with him and not pressure him to make a decision on ur relationship right now. if u push him too hard he will break up with u. if u just leave it alone and instead comfort him and help him through these tough times he will value u more as a friend and realize what a great girlfriend u are!
good luck and take care!
2006-07-15 20:46:43 · answer #1 · answered by mayami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ewww, tough question. I am not present when you two speak, therefore I can not see how the responses affect you both. From what you say, I would keep being optimistic, and never mention the B word again. Everyone goes through doubts and questions their life. Giving up is the easy thing to do, which is why the divorce rate is so high. If you work through it, the relationship will be stronger. That is the best I can say with what I know. Good Luck.
2006-07-15 20:50:20 · answer #2 · answered by Joseph L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really care about him, stick with him. Don't let what he's going through be the deciding factor - let your feelings be the deciding factor on whether or not to dump him. He's obviously going through a rough time right now, and if you want to stay with him, just let him know that you want to stay with him, that you care about him a lot, and that you will be there for him if he needs you. Another good idea is to maybe back off a bit if you find you're always the one calling him, etc. Give him some space - but not so much space that he thinks you're not interested.
2006-07-15 20:47:38 · answer #3 · answered by sarahjaniepoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should stick with it... everyone has their ups and downs in life and that's the way life is! the good thing to do is to stick with someone when they're going through those hard times so they know that you will always be there with them, through thick and thin! just keep it up with him... maybe with everything bugging him right now, he may just be a bit stressed out, so all you should do is be there for him, but later, when everything settles down and priorities are straightened out, then you can continue the relationship... right now, he may not be thinking straight so just give it time... and maybe give him some time to himself (to think)
2006-07-15 20:51:44 · answer #4 · answered by baby bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a fine line between being supportive and being a pushover. Since he seems to be sort of lost in all aspects of his life, he might benefit from seeing a professional counselor. I think if he seems willing to at least try to sort things out, you should stick by him a bit longer. If it reaches a point where his negativity is seriously affecting your life, you might need to cut him loose.
2006-07-15 20:47:42 · answer #5 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Weird, my boyfriend is the exact same way right now...ever since the 4th of july...things with us aren't great, but they aren't that bad, hope it gets better for you and your boyfriend...i didn't dump my boyfriend cause i wanted to give him some space to sort things out on his own, but he knows i'm always there for him, i love him and i'm sure it will pass, and hopefully it will be the same for you both...
2006-07-15 20:49:16 · answer #6 · answered by pshh =] 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen sweety
droping is not the solution of anyone's problem.be with him and asure him that u will always be there whenever he needs a true frd.this will impress him.make him to understand how much u luv him and tell him that what others say is not going to effect ur relation.and also tell him that if he want to leave u he can but whenever he will turn back for a moment he would going to see ur face......
2006-07-15 20:51:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him his space. I felt trapped when I was dating my wife and told her I needed a break. Well, the break lasted just one week and I knew then that I wanted to be with her forever. That was over 25 years ago. Good luck.
2006-07-15 20:49:09 · answer #8 · answered by gentlemanfarmer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say stick with him because its sounds like hes going through a rough time. and if you break up with that would just make things worse for him.
2006-07-15 20:48:44 · answer #9 · answered by nice guy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love someone, set them free. If they come back to you, they're yours, if they don't, they never were. Don't be afraid. Life has a way of working things out. Sometimes what we want isn't what's best. Sometimes, unanswered prayers are the biggest blessing of all...
2006-07-15 20:52:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋