me and this guy were in love a while ago, but we never actually became bf and gf because he is shy like that. i started getting tired of waiting so i decided i wouldnt let myself love him and i started being kind of rude to him. now, a year later, we are worst enemies. i think i like him again. help me fix this!!!
2006-07-15 20:32:38 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
me and this guy were in love a while ago, but we never actually became bf and gf because he is shy like that. i started getting tired of waiting so i decided i wouldnt let myself love him and i started being kind of rude to him. now, a year later, we are worst enemies. i think i like him again. help me fix this!!! ps we told each other later that we used to like each other and also he told my friend that he used to like me
2006-07-15 20:47:22 · update #1
i'd say, first of all, say you're sorry for being rude to him.... and start being nice. he'll probably stay mad at you for a while and continue to be rude, but every time that happens, just say that you realize it's mostly your fault and you're sorry. be nice....
hopefully, after a few encounters, he'll realize you mean it and he'll be nice to you again. then, ask him out. make it clear you're talking about a date, not just hanging out with a friend. while on this date, tell him that a year ago, you thought he liked you and was just too shy... maybe even hint that you would have liked to be his gf... see how he responds... if he responds like he's interested, but doesn't ask you - YOU tell him how you feel and YOU ask HIM.
i'm looking at the best case scenario here, but it all will depend on how he responds to you. it may be that he's just not interested any more, or maybe even never was in the first place. if this is the case, be polite and civil to him, but respect his choice and back off.
2006-07-15 20:44:36 · answer #1 · answered by gwenwifar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i actually do not think that he really loved you.. even shy people get over this .. and if you were close at all he would of quit being shy with you.. you could ask him how he feels so you would know... tell him you are sorry for being rude to him but you really do have feelings for him...and if that does not work then move on... i think if your are worst enemies now just say you are sorry for the way you treated him and that you find now you really care for him...it is worth a shot anyway...
2006-07-16 03:41:01 · answer #2 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I think you're fooling yourself. You say he loved you, but was never your bf because he's shy? No. If you were supposed to be together, you would be. Now you just remember the good things about him and are forgetting the bad. Time to cut your losses and move on.
2006-07-16 03:36:10 · answer #3 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should tell him how you feel and see what happens... tell him why you started acting so rude to him last year! but NEXT TIME, if you like a guy and he likes you, but he is too shy to make a move, why dont you make the first move and ask him out instead??? there is nothing wrong with that!!
2006-07-16 03:37:04 · answer #4 · answered by baby bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you are really in a fixed. As a guy, I generally can tell you that some guys will not accept the ladies after they have become enemies whereI dunno about your case.
In any case you have to apologised to him and be brave, tell him you like him. Whether he is willing to accept you as his gf really depends on his decision. I won't be able to help you on this aspect. All the best to you
2006-07-16 03:40:51 · answer #5 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well might be too late for there to be "lovers riding off in the sunset" sceniro, but you should talk to him (face to face, don't instant message or text message him) and basically tell him all you felt and feel now. if he ever was your friend he'll understand, as well as you're ready to understand at how you shouldn't have been rude to him just because he didn't ask you out
2006-07-16 03:38:48 · answer #6 · answered by jake p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people just don't know what they have got untill it is gone. you are one of those. now that you are apart, u like him though you say that you are worst enemies.. try to reconcile and tell him how you feel. see how he would respond to that
2006-07-16 03:37:26 · answer #7 · answered by messy_missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as stated before the only way is to talk and bear the feelings you hold... if it is not meant to be then you have to face facts that he is not the one and move on... but for saying he was shy???? i think not but playing you and just getting what he wanted....
2006-07-16 03:39:31 · answer #8 · answered by mr_magoo797 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's a little silly to act like that.
anyway, if you like him again then start being nice to him and then eventually let him know that you like him again.
2006-07-16 03:37:21 · answer #9 · answered by lee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need to tell him how you felt and maybe you can go out
2006-07-16 03:34:38 · answer #10 · answered by *~Rachel~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋