You know when you've been round the block a few times you start to see patterns emerging. Well one of mine seems to be that I always fall for women who are the sort of woman who is going to be - shall we say - high risk; the sort of woman who is likely to play games with my heart.
I'm not conciously selecting women like that but I do seem to end up with women that do that kind of thing. When I go out with 'nice girls' I find I get bored very quickly and want out.
I've had alot of suggestions from people but somehow none of them seem to ring true so I thought I'd see what you guys have to say.
2006-07-15 20:26:20 · 20 answers · asked by tuthutop 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It could be as simple as the fact that you like a challenge. You don't want a woman to be too easy to get, so you go after women who play games and don't ever let you know where you stand. It's also the concept of supply and demand. When you're with a woman who's readily available (or worse - clingy and demanding), you find yourself less interested, whereas if a woman seems aloof or distant, you find yourself more attracted. The further away a woman pushes you, the harder you fight to get close.
What you need is a woman who's assertive. A woman who genuinely cares for you and has your best interests at heart, but who can also keep things interesting. An assertive woman is hard to find, unfortunately, but you'll recognize her by the fact that she treats you incredibly well and demands the same treatment from you.
2006-07-15 20:37:15 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah 2 · 8⤊ 3⤋
sounds like you need a woman who is a little wild, enjoys a few games, interesting.... yet one that respects your feelings and will not play games with them.
as for why you are always attracted to the "wrong kind"... probably for the same reason we (girls) all sigh for the bad biker dude, or guys for the playboy bunny... even the same reason we walk up to the lion's cage. because it gets the adrenaline moving, it's never boring, even if it may be dangerous. deep in some corner of our subconscious we get a rush from thinking we could handle it, exert some kind of power over this dangerous creature, tame it. or at least survive it.
adrenaline can be as addictive as any drug.
2006-07-16 03:35:24 · answer #2 · answered by gwenwifar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are actually attracted to drama. If you don't have drama you are bored. I used to be the same way until one day I realized drama sucks the energy out of everything and it isn't so great as be respected and having harmony with someone. Drama is not good company. Drama isn't reliable. Drama doesn't give you a sense of calm and belonging. One day after my boyfriend didn't pick me up for our dinner date because he "got hung up in a poker game", I realized I deserved and wanted better. I met my husband 5 weeks later and I have been happy for 25 years! Hopefully you won't miss the real thing for the excitement of the moment. Good Luck!
2006-07-16 04:42:52 · answer #3 · answered by angelicsanto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just be more careful with who you decide to fall for. I had a close friend when I was younger who was one of those girls that would get a guy to fall for her and she would break their hearts and wouldn't even care....main reason she did it was because she was on and off with one guy, I still thought she was awful for doing it. I know girls always say that guys are the way that you see girls, but the truth is that girls are the same too. We're all just confuse people trying to find that perfect person to be with us, like we want them to be for us. Just keep going with it, and keep in mind that she is out there and you are thinking of that perfect girl, but she is also thinking of you as that perfect guy.
2006-07-16 03:35:27 · answer #4 · answered by Cool Chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually seem to have the same problem with woman. Let me know if you find out a cure. I would be interested in "getting" over this same problem that I have with woman. I think it is like this though. You are attracted to a woman that you see in your mind and trick yourself into thinking this woman you have met is the same way as you are looking for!! Maybe. Anyways good luck with you problem pal!
2006-07-16 03:33:50 · answer #5 · answered by Dream Police 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its out of habit u are allowing urself to be attracted to the women who are a challenge to u,ok,fine,but what after that?u feel left out and depressed and search for another one to fulfill the challenge game.
Think over.Nice girls and wrong women definitions are all stereotypical.
Love and honesty,communications and listening skills work well to sustain the relationship.
2006-07-16 03:37:19 · answer #6 · answered by aquarian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, oh man. The age-old question. I've been saying for years that to be a happy man you've got to remove your testicles. We're all attracted to the "wrong sort" of woman. I sure as hell wish it was nice to have a wife and to go out lookin', too. In fact, I may just do that. I'm married, she loves me, I'm secure, and I don't want to f___ her. Damnit.
2006-07-16 03:35:20 · answer #7 · answered by Johnny P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take a girl break. Work on finding out what qualities are really important to you then join the hunt like the rest of us.
2006-07-16 03:31:26 · answer #8 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps subconsciously you just enjoy the challenges that are presented when going out with 'the wrong sort of women' and the resulting dramas that follow????
2006-07-16 11:47:47 · answer #9 · answered by Blah blah blah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People tend to gravitate to what they know. Maybe you had one or more "types" of women like that in your life growing up and that's why you keep going towards them. Try finding other styles/types of places to go to to meet women.
Good Luck Honey and know that not all women are trouble!!
Joyous Blessings and Peace!!
2006-07-16 03:32:15 · answer #10 · answered by katatpeace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋