i'm having trouble trusting my boyfriend after being hurt by my last boyfriend. i feel like i'm just waiting for him to screw up. it's hard to enjoy the time we spend together because i feel like hes just going to go behind my back anyways. he's a great guy and everyone is assuring me that he wouldn't do that.. but i didn't think that my last boyfriend would either. it's driving me insane, i'm at the point where i might just break up with him to prevent from feeling like this. i really dont want to, i like him so much and truly care about him.
2006-07-15 19:40:56 · 14 answers · asked by sara901 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i have a feeling that i won't be able to trust any guy.. its not him. its me and my dumb problem.
2006-07-15 19:43:20 · update #1
well should assume this one is like the other that is very wrong because not everyone is the same. Trust is a big thing in a relationship and will always be doomed if trust isnt there. If you do not think you can trust him then you need to end it. because if you allow the relationship to last it will only get harder later.
2006-07-15 19:44:12 · answer #1 · answered by Savage 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing that you are like 17 or 16. If you don't trust someone, then don't date him. This guy is obviously a different person from your last bf though. You can't enjoy a relationship if you don't trust the other person. This guy hasn't done anything to get you to not trust him..am I right? Just get over the last guy and try to be happy NOW.
2006-07-16 02:43:35 · answer #2 · answered by Ryan H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We'll mate I can't blame you for feeling that way, you're going to continue to feel like that for a long time, your carrying issues from your last relationship into your new one, I reckon your need to get some counseling for you to be able to have any good relationship. Your boyfriend your with now is going to cop alot of flack because of your previous boyfriend, just explain to your new boyfriend the reasons your like this, and then go and get help, you could have a good healthy relationship with this guy.
2006-07-16 02:49:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're not over your last boyfriend yet. Maybe you should let your current boyfriend know you're just not ready to trust anyone yet. You might need some space and some extra time to heal.
2006-07-16 02:51:01 · answer #4 · answered by klunk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's really unfair to him, sara. you have "baggage" that you need to deal with before you mess up your relationship.
he's DIFFERENT than your last guy, right? Start ASSUMING his best intentions until you have PROOF that he's being UNTRUSTWORTHY more than once. you are having self-esteem issues and need to sort them out in your head. you haven't "resolved and learned" from the last break-up.
Try to figure out what YOU missed last time. What SIGNS you ignored.
Then TRUST him...the way you would want to be trusted.
2006-07-16 02:49:52 · answer #5 · answered by R J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to keep reminding yourself that he is not your ex boyfriend. You have to stop comparing them, it is not fair on your boyfriend or you.
Why don't you go and see someone like a councellor you can talk to, to feel this bad there must be some underlying problems.
2006-07-16 02:44:35 · answer #6 · answered by having_a_blonde_day_lol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Treat him the way you want to be treated. Are you trustworthy? Then treat him like he is. You may get hurt, but that's just part of life. Don't worry about what you don't know. Jump in and have the time of your life. If this is meant to be it will be. Good luck.
2006-07-16 02:44:53 · answer #7 · answered by Amy S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who live in History never achieve anything in their life. Forget your past and try to trust this new guy. Be very Frank and open with him.
Don't keep anything in your heart, tell him about you past to him, take him into confidence and you will be confident henceforth.
2006-07-16 02:45:54 · answer #8 · answered by Bolan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust to me is very important for me I would never believe that someone would cheat on me unless I seen it for myself. Maybe some talking would help you two.
2006-07-16 02:45:10 · answer #9 · answered by fettucinialvarado1392 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry about it... just remember that this isnt your exboyfriend and he can be trusted! he isnt the same person and you should trust him unless he has gven you some reason to doubt him!
2006-07-16 02:44:34 · answer #10 · answered by baby bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋