My boyfriend is white, and we’ve been together for almost 5 years now. The thing is we have to fight almost 10 times harder than I’ve ever fought before to keep our relationship working. My parents won’t accept him, so we spend holidays with his. We’ve had a lot of trouble with friends and family members and strangers especially. We are stared down ANYWHERE we go, and out in clubs we’ve gotten into countless altercations. He’s someone I can see myself spending the rest of my life with, but if it’s going to be this hard forever…..we can’t go on like this. It’s wearing us both down.
2006-07-15 19:28:26 · 20 answers · asked by Ambere 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its a real shame people still have a problem with this. if I were you I be looking around for places that this is more common and not frowned upon. But then being me and knowing my friends and family they would all accept it only because they respect my choice no matter who i was with but the sad thing is not many families are like mine. best of luck though.
2006-07-15 19:33:45 · answer #1 · answered by Savage 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I really can't say what the problem is. I think were you are raised and who you are brought up around has a basis on who you date. If you grew up hearing, "If so and so ever brought a man in here that wasn't black( you being black) I would disown them ", or You have heard your family talk bad about black women being with men of didn't races, then you would try not to see different races attractive. On the inside you may want to be with a white man or a Mexican man or whatever race, but because you have heard family and friends talk bad about dating outside your race, then you would stick with your own race for the sake of not disappointing anyone. Which is wrong. Be with who you want, you gotta live for your happiness in life not no one else.
I'm black and I don't have a problem with dating outside my race. If your a man and are cute and have a great personality, then I may find you attractive.
My parents just taught me to accept all and I've even asked my parents, before I started dating, if I brought someone home of a different race how would you feel, and my parents' just said it is my choice and that they didn't care. He just better be respectful and is good to me.
2006-07-15 19:42:00 · answer #2 · answered by Tarabeara 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Where do you live mate. In Australia it doesn't really seem to be a problem. Sure people here still judge each other, but not usually based on race or colour. If you guys have been with each other 5 years, then I say good luck and all the best to both of you. Sorry I haven't got any magical solutions for you.
2006-07-15 19:37:24 · answer #3 · answered by Ozzie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make a list of the good that will come out of you staying with your man and the bad and I'm sure the good will be more then the bad and decide if you want to be happy with the man you love and who loves you or please people. they don't pay your bills or hold you when you need them or make passionate love to you so f*%#'em. your family love you so when they see you to are committed to each other they will come around, and ignore ignorant people don't even give the people the satisfaction of an altercation when they try to start stuff just walk away they don't know about your love and they are jealous of your happiness.go to mixed clubs and enjoy his familybecause they accept you and tell yours if they love you they will want you happy no matter what the color your man is. and ask them if they were in your shoes would they want you to treat them and their man that way? Pray and be strong and enjoy your love for each other.but if it's to hard then let it go before it gets to hard to let it go god bless you both
2006-07-15 19:44:41 · answer #4 · answered by spagetti7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding me? We don't care if you care or not. Why do most of you black men think us black girls care when you guys date outside the race?
2016-03-16 00:26:33 · answer #5 · answered by Pamela 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not contact me, I'm Latino and I love black women. I'ts like that sometimes 4 some reason or another and I don't know why.
2006-07-15 19:32:16 · answer #6 · answered by Hornylias 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have an answer. Inter-racial relationships are H_A_R_D, you both just have to decide if all the garbage the world throws at you is worth it, because no matter how much you love one another, you wont change the way others think. Like any relationship, if you want to get married, that means making it work at any cost to other relationships.
2006-07-15 19:33:49 · answer #7 · answered by Jessi B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for some races is still taboo, for most people dateing outside ones race is looked upon as wrong by some people.my children are asiain and when i go somwhere with my kids they look and say oh are they asian, and if they are white they wouldent ask that ? for sure. people are scared of what they dont know, and thats a shame to be sure. as long as you are both happy dont sweet what others think, you go girl....
2006-07-15 19:48:56 · answer #8 · answered by sincity usa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me 1st tell u that i don't have alot of knowlege about the races stuff but i don't think people still think that way i Mean HELLO it's 2006 & Black people r hot right Now
And everytime i see black celebrities dating i alwas think that they hate dating white people coz i think that they don't think white people r sexy
i'm White By the way
2006-07-15 19:35:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to move to another town. Yours sounds azz backwards. I mean I still it think it is too much trouble for me to date a white chick seriously but I will casually. Dating outsie your own culture (more important than race) is fine, but you have to be prepared to accept that it will be viewed by starngers as having rejected your own culture.
2006-07-15 19:34:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋