Hey y'all, I have a question. I am pretty shy around guys, unless I know them pretty well. I have always been known as the nice, quiet girl. My guy friends tell me I am beautiful and gorgeous, which I know I'm not, but it seems like only very older men (I am 19) seem to ask me out, and psychos (threatening to stalk me and such...)! long story lol..or I'll get a group of guys ask me out in disrepsectful ways at my job..but not just a nice, genuine, "hi would you like to go see a movie sometime?!" What is wrong with me?! :)
2006-07-15 19:19:05 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because you are beautiful and gorgeous (guys don't generally tend to say that if it's not true--at least in their eyes. These friends of yours are presumably not trying to get with you, so you can believe their assesment of your appearence), most "normal guys" are too scared or shy to appraoch you. Of course, older guys who have more confidence and life experience, and crazy folks who are, well....crazy, will approach you. My suggestion is to be a little more observant: I bet that there have been a nice guy or two who has had an eye on you, but was too shy to speak up. Look out for those, and make yourself approachable (only u know what that means)
2006-07-15 19:24:40 · answer #1 · answered by ddesa 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Confidence Confidence Confidence!!!! If you value yourself, other people will value you too. And if you respect yourself, other people will respect you too. No, really, I mean it. The types of guys that seem to ask you out (much older guys, psychos, and disrespectful bastards) are the types that feed off of people with low self-esteem. It's hard to gain confidence, I know, so this is much easier said than done. But you already think that you deserve better guys than these (and you do), so you just need to really believe it. You say that you're not beautiful, but what would your guy friends have to gain by telling you that if you weren't? Not a lot, really; most of my guy friends are very honest and they wouldn't say something like that to me unless they meant it (even nice guys aren't "just being nice" in that way, usually. They really do mean what they say.). You don't need to change yourself to be more confident about who you are. That is, you say you're quiet and shy, so you don't need to become an outgoing, talkative extrovert. You just need to start believing how important and valuable you are. This is kind of hard to explain, but trust me, I've completely been there. Once your self-esteem improves, you will actually be able to notice a difference in the way people treat you--especially guys.
2006-07-16 02:34:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a guy, but I know exactly what your talking about...I have the same problem trying to find women because I am nice, but shy...if I found someone who I thought I liked they ended up either being self-centered or had some sort of problems...I'll say to you what others have said to me...just keep trying and someone will be out there for you!
2006-07-16 02:31:34 · answer #3 · answered by lavatts 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a reason. Younger men want sex. That's it. Older men see beauty on the inside and outside. They are more mature & are interested in more than just sex....plus they want sex...lol. Hang in there; the right one will come along. Think about this for a minute however - be glad you are recognizing they are psycho's now than later....
2006-07-16 02:28:46 · answer #4 · answered by linus_van_pelt68 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How are you dressing? Where are you hanging out? Step back and look at the big picture. Are you going to places where you can meet nice men? Be yourself.....Guys like it when girls talk to them...It's easier to ask you out.
2006-07-16 02:24:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your beautiful or gorgeous, the 'normal' guys feel that they dont have a chance of going out with you, once in a while there's a normal guy who shoots for the fence and who'll ask you out
2006-07-16 02:30:41 · answer #6 · answered by Kali 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres no such thing as a normal guy...maybe you should lower your standards and develop better self esteem
2006-07-16 02:24:59 · answer #7 · answered by tiffany m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to the library or something
good place to study, and maybe you can meet the normals you refer to
but hopefully you don't mind nerds...although i don't really like calling names i don't know what term to use
2006-07-16 02:29:27 · answer #8 · answered by Rock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry...in time u'll be asked out. best of luck!
2006-07-16 02:23:13 · answer #9 · answered by Fathelbab 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋