My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year and we live together. We have an age difference of 8 yrs. He's younger. I feel like our relationship doesn't really have a chance because of the maturity difference. I think I may be better off by myself than to feel like I am wasting "our" time. I pick at him all the time over little things and I don't know why. We don't really connect on an emotional level. Is there any hope?
2006-07-15 19:16:34 · 18 answers · asked by bcooper1975 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Seeing that you feel this way, I would say maybe yall should take a break. But You have to get over the age difference and treat him like a man and not a child. I know men have a tendency to be a lil childish and not think things through all the way, but us women don't need to always critique them on their faults or lack of a less maturity level then us at times. We don't like it when our boyfriends tell us something we did was stupid, we would be ready to kick his a@#.
Just sit back and not pick at him so much, if you feel that you can't stop or get over some of the things he is doing, then it is best for you two to split.
Good Luck.
2006-07-15 19:23:40 · answer #1 · answered by Tarabeara 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is hope if you really love this man and are willing to try to sit down and talk about your problems, and if he is also willing to talk about what is wrong between you. The main thing is for both to listen to what the other person is saying, not just to talk about what is bothering you. If the two of you can start an open, honest communication, you could possibly build a long lasting loving relationship. Without communication, it seems any feelings you have for each other will just fade away as time goes on.
2006-07-16 02:23:49 · answer #2 · answered by 420Linda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. Think back to the reason that you thought at first--when you first fell in love with him. Then think of what you later found out about him that bothers you and how he treats you. Think about how you will truly feel when he is gone. Will you be OK and if so, then you need to just tell him and work a plan out to live alone. First though--you may want to have a heart to heart talk with him and really listen to what he has to say. Find out how he feels about you and the idea of being with out you. Take turns talking--do not interrupt. Make him tell you what he would like to happen and what things he does not like about you and what he does like. Then take your turn. Be calm and if he starts to talk loud or get mad, then just say sorry--we will have to talk later when you are willing to be respectful and take this relationship seriously. Then walk away and try again. If you see that he is being impossible--tell him you want out of the relationship--if you are sure that is what you want and see how he reacts. If you and your instincts tell you to move on--then that is a sure sign that you should. You may be wasting your time and his.
2006-07-16 02:24:47 · answer #3 · answered by just julie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not a B. There is hope, but it is going to take a lot of communication. He may be looking for a mommy figure to take care of him, You are not his mommy!! It needs to be a partnership.
If you get up every morning and ask yourself what in the world you are doing and your overall thoughts about him are negative then get out.
Picture your life, and goals 5 years from now . If he did not play a significant role in those goals then it is time to stop wasting your time.
Look into your heart and be honest with yourself and you will know the answer.
I wish you the best
2006-07-16 02:27:35 · answer #4 · answered by Fishermans Wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We'll mate, no your not a b, that age factor will always play a big part in your relationship, I have a relation like yours, and through hard work, and perseverance, I've managed to hold onto my relationship now going on 18 years. If your prepared to do the hard yards continue, but if your not, quit while your ahead.
2006-07-16 02:23:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when I was with someone and I didnt like them anymore. I did the same things that you are doing now. You just dont want to dump him outright because you feel guilt about your change of heart. I dont think that there is no hope. Girl you are turned off by him now. You should move on...but its important to tell him how you feel okay...good luck.
2006-07-16 02:22:10 · answer #6 · answered by skyblu513 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you both still like each other then there is definitely hope..but if not it's better to go in our own separate ways...or try out something like, living separately for a little time..it'll either bring you closer or show you that you guys are better of on your own.
Take care.
2006-07-16 02:25:02 · answer #7 · answered by 4eva-pink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my humble opinion, girls are always four years more mature than guys already-so to me you are working with a 12 year gap. Four years seems like the perfect diff. It'll be fun til you find something real, though.
2006-07-16 02:20:43 · answer #8 · answered by I-Eat-Paint-Chips 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres hope if you want to work it out. If you both love eachother then you need to work on communicating and building up your emotional bond to one another. The fact he is younger than you isn't a deal breaker. You have to learn to love him for who he is and enjoy his personality - not try to change it.
2006-07-16 02:20:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're about 40 the age issue should begin to dissipate. If you are in your 20's...whoa. Lots of problems to work through.
2006-07-16 02:21:22 · answer #10 · answered by r0cky74 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋