I met my ex-girlfriend four years ago on a holiday, fell in love and then she left me for someone else. I finally got over her after six months and then she called to apologise. We maintained contact and I realised I was still in love with her. She broke up with her boyfriend who had a drug problem and was psychologically abusive. I would travelled several times to see her hoping to re-kindle the relationship. She never promised that we would get back together she eventually snapped and said she does not know if we would get back together again and she wanted time by herself. So I left and ignored her but now she wants to get together and wants to move to my country to live with me and be my girlfriend. This would have made me extremely happy three months ago but after she snapped I had accepted it may never happen, but now I find myself non-chalent. I still love her but I am not crazy in love as before. I feel that she should win me over now. Am I right to feel this way?
2006-07-15 18:56:07 · 10 answers · asked by burnedtwice 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I feel for you mate it's a hard one i think you should make it clear that you mean business and she should be sure about what she wants i my experience i wouldn't just take her back make her work for it don't just take her back! as for your love for her it only feels like it faded because shes not spending time with you all the time once you see her again every day you will know if your love is still there
2006-07-15 19:10:41 · answer #1 · answered by Mr KENNEDY 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You are right to feel this way. She needs to show you first that she is capable of loving you before she even thinks about moving to be with you. She may just be running away from her problems and you are just there to provide the meal ticket. If she really does love you she would let you know how much and show you. Your instincts are probably correct so I would at least talk to her and say you do not want to rush into anything at the moment before you decide anything. Good luck!
2006-07-15 19:34:12 · answer #2 · answered by Gar 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definately don't think you should take her back. You should ignore her and let yourself get over her. Give your heart some time to heal. I definately wouldn't let her move in with you as you may hate each other after a week. I'm sure you'll meet someone else and be very happy one day but remember. Good things come to those who wait.
2006-07-15 19:06:11 · answer #3 · answered by hayleybootes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think completely acceptable you feel this way....it wouldn't be fair if you had to try to win her over, and she gets you for free....the only thing i'd worry about though is that she might try, then give up, then you might want her more, then it would be like a never ending cycyle...also you can't be sure if she's the type that would fight for what she wants till the end....i love my boyfriend with all my heart, but if he left i probably wouldn't fight for him, because i'd figure its what HE wanted....so if she thinks you don't want her, she might not bother because she might just want you to be happy...so yes, its okay that you feel that way, you have every right to, just decide if you're willing to risk not having her by making her wait, and decide what type of person she is
2006-07-15 19:02:05 · answer #4 · answered by just_like_a_dandelion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, b/c she doesnt feel the same as u do. She is using u as a cruch. How do u know she wont do it again. THink bout when she left u for this guy. Who says that he dont clean up and come back for her and she falls for it and goes back. She sounds like she is using u. lose her before u get hurt again.
2006-07-15 19:03:49 · answer #5 · answered by Tina d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are absolutely free to feel the way you do. in fact, you seem to have tolerance for this situation. she seems to want you when you're not wanting her, and when you want her she's pulling away. not a healthy relationship for you....you can still love her, and be friends. as far as her winning you over, she did four years ago, and do you remember she left you.
2006-07-15 19:15:14 · answer #6 · answered by gurrrly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're absolutely right. Note the pattern. You show interest, she pulls away. You give up, she wants to get closer. You're dealing with classic, irrational female behavior here. Do NOT trust her. She does not yet know who she IS or what she WANTS.
2006-07-15 19:00:23 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. O'Clock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes - you have a right to feel any way you want. Sit down and weigh up the pros and cons. whatever you decide stick by it and don't feel you have done wrong - no matter what people say.
2006-07-15 19:01:37 · answer #8 · answered by kaliri2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just follow your heart
2006-07-15 19:01:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"when a woman fed, there is nothing u can do abt it"......"even if u get her back, it will never be da same".....R. Kelly's Song
2006-07-15 19:08:06 · answer #10 · answered by Q'bie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋