She got scared of the scream guy in scary movie and won't go anywhere without taking someone with her. She's constantly saying she thinks he's coming after her. I told her that if she put on some glittery lotion that I had, that it would keep him away. She believed it and isn't scared anymore. Is it bad to do this
2006-07-15 18:49:05 · 21 answers · asked by Sarah 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I know she's not supposed to watch it, but it was on when she came home from her friend's house and she saw it. And I wasn't too worried because I was never afraid of scary movies
2006-07-15 18:56:05 · update #1
its not my fault that it was wrong, my mom and step dad were watching it. And i already tried telling her that he was fake
2006-07-16 17:36:56 · update #2
No, you helped her overcome her fear! It was a very nice thing for you to do, especially because simply telling young children that monsters don't exist doesn't help them! Eventually she will be old enough to where she won't be scared of him anymore (without the lotion) and she'll realize what you did for her and she'll be thankful :o)
2006-07-15 18:56:55 · answer #1 · answered by snpdrgon84 2 · 13⤊ 1⤋
At 5 years old I do not think that this was a bad solution. I think that this is a good way to build courage and Independance. You do not want her to get to dependant on other people at this stage of her life. Yes before anyone else says it I know that at 5 she is dependant on you and your family but I mean as far as going to sleep and using the restroom. She is dependant on you and your family to keep her safe so I think that this is a way to make her feel safe. I did sorta the same thing with my daughter when she was about 4 or 5 by telling her that if she and I said "Go away monster" 3 times before going to bed then nothing could get her. It worked and now that she is 11 there is no problem with monsters and hasnt been since then.
also keep that glittery lotion on hand and in stock otherwise you may have another problem that you have to deal with.
2006-07-16 01:56:23 · answer #2 · answered by lvb524 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please do not listen to the others that have responded. The fast and easy fix is usually wrong. Lying is wrong and destroys trust. Your sister would have been at peace if you had explained that it was a movie with people pretending to be monsters. Rent or Buy the video Veggie Tales. It talks about a child who's afraid after watching a scary movie.
2006-07-17 00:34:30 · answer #3 · answered by educator 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all, a 5 year old shouldn't be watching scary movie or scream at all.
i don't think this is necessarily bad. despite the fact that it's lying, i think all in all, it's just one of those fibs that you give for protection. it's a "bad" act done for noble purposes. just don't make to many weird things like that up.
once she grows old enough, she'll understand why you did it.
2006-07-16 01:54:03 · answer #4 · answered by meestawombat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have taken 3 years of early childhood development. And they never told us that doing thins like that is wrong. As long as you know that guy aint coming after her and we all know hes not then theres no reason why its wrong as long as it makes her feel safe. Thats why we put night lights in childrens room when they think monsters are under there bed and we tell them as long as theres light they wont come out. So i would say theres nothing wrong with it. I would do it to my children.
2006-07-16 01:57:14 · answer #5 · answered by xogoodluckcharm18ox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. That was a great idea. When I was a kid, I was afraid of the dark, my sister told me my blanket was magic and that no one could see me if I hid under it.... Worked for years. I agree w/ the girl who said to make sure you tell your parents so they can understand why she's putting on the glitter & not destroy the story :)
2006-07-16 01:57:07 · answer #6 · answered by melonamc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your just trying to help her, it would be different if you were using the scary man to keep her out of your room or something like that. She will eventually grow out of that, and you both can look back on it later and laugh.
2006-07-16 01:58:47 · answer #7 · answered by Lil's Mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is good to protect and comfort your little sister. But she isn't old enough to watch that movie. Check the movie rating guide next time. She can only watch "G" rated movies.
2006-07-16 17:48:46 · answer #8 · answered by Plasmapuppy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, it's not wrong. as long as she feels safe. next time, don't let her watch scary movies.
even though "scary movie" is not scary to you. lil minds are very sensitive to images. and anything out of the ordinary will be scary.
2006-07-16 01:55:28 · answer #9 · answered by Pearlz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You go girl Rock on! you did the right thing
A++ Go to the head of the class
2006-07-16 01:56:57 · answer #10 · answered by Paul G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋