Y do women make such bad relationship decisions early in life and then...?

Question

And then when they are older, have kid(s) and baggage from a series of bad relationship do they then want a good man, a nice man, but didn't want him earlier in life? Why do women think a good man would want them now that they have all this baggage?

Answer 1

First Question:
Some women become Hardheaded,they don't want to listen to their family and friends advice about how the guy they are dating is so wrong for them,cause they are so foolishly in love.

By the time they find out that everyone was right it's a little too late.
Now they have to learn from their mistakes.
This could of easily been avoided if they would of just Listen,but then again some people learn from other people's mistakes while others don't.

Second Question:
Maybe they weren't thinking at the time and over analyzed the nice/good guy.

Third Question:
Because nice guys finish last.
No wait it's because they regret on how they passed up a good man so blindly without even thinking about it,and now that they realized it,they want a nice/good man and hope that the nice/good man would understand them and what they went through.

Answer 2

Well, first, I think it is not just women who make the bad decisions early in life and have "baggage"--men suffer from this sydrome also.

I seems to me that younger people in our society do not have a high value on long-term commitment. When the going gets tough, often the choice is to leave the relationship instead of working through the issues. It seems to me the happiness of each of the individuals is the higher value than of the value of the "us" in the marriage or long-term relationship. Divorce is the easy or convenient option--easier than forgiveness or tolerance. It's easier to believe that the "grass is greener on the other side" then to do the maintenance and work for the grass already under one's feet.

Don't get me wrong, I believe that certainly there are situations where divorce or separation is the best option and outcome.

So, the two move on, many times from one unhappy relationship and then another. At some point in the journey, though, reflection --prompted by maturity--happens. There is the nagging feeling that what was and "what might have been" in the good old days was pretty good after all. The trouble is, the yard that both left for the "greener grass" if it can be found at all, is overgrown and plagued by accumulated trash -- a lot more than what was there before. A lot of clearing must be done by the two who want to get back together. Together, both must identify the junk, lug it to the dumpster or the compost pile and not drag it back again.

And while this is going on, other people, who have little or no investment in maintaining this space for the relationship--have access to it. This makes upkeep tasks that are absolutely necessary-- even more challenging and complicated! One has to work around these people!

Why would a good man want a woman he had a relationship with in the past? Because in his heart he knows--and she knows, too--there were long-ago promises or vows to be kept. Because both are wiser now. Both are committed to do their parts-- to roll up the sleeves and work to get their special place back into shape. Both are willing to be examples for the kids. Both willing to use the power tools of forgiveness, trust and tolerance to make this space, this relationship, a beautiful place. Why? Because life, truly, is too short...

Answer 3

XXXXXXXXXXXX so, who'd they have the bad relationship with another woman. No, a man. Than I have to ask the same question. Men come with baggage too. Don't we all, if not from another relationship but from life in general. How many people enter a relationship with a clean slate? the older you are, the more experience you have, the dirtier your slate is. The bible says, the person without sin should throw the first stone. How many sins have you? How many stones have you. XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

Answer 4

One word: experience. Young women don't often really know what kind of man will make them truly happy. Also, people continue to grow and change throughout life, and discover things they want that they didn't realize before. Everybody has "baggage"-- it's what you learn from it that counts.

Answer 5

The problem with the women are - they mature bodily than mentally early in life. The entire planet looks colourful to them when they start dating for sex.
Next, they start searching for a good man, when they understand the reality of life.
Their search for a good man never ends, because it will be too late for them to understand, there is no perfect human being on this earth.

Answer 6

I already have made plenty of mistakes....but speaking from experience you think the guy is good...but then he turns out to be a jerk. If it keeps happening then thats where the baggage comes in. I dont have no kids but I'm thinking about stepping from the dating game for a while, personally speaking.. I dont think anyone is out there for me. I dont know if I answered your question...maybe I'm venting.

Answer 7

today i found at my 19 year old sister is five months pregnant. she has no car, no health insurance, no money, and the baby's dad wants nothing to do with her or the baby. Right now she's living with her friend. So that makes me an aunt at 13, my brother an uncle at 10, and my mom a grandma at 38. i don't know why my sister is so stupid, i don't know why other girls do stupid stuff like that either. Doesn't it make more sense to go to college, get an education, get a house, then get married??

Answer 8

Early in life its just physical attraction but when we get older, we find that it's a good heart not a good face that makes life sweet. Too late! We are stuck with this drunkard, gambler and womanizer....

Answer 9

Because,its a part of life...taking chances!We feel it is better to learn from previous mistakes to make future relationships better...Everybody has to meet a few wrongs before they meet a right,so that when they meet the right person,they can learn to appreciate them to their full potential

Answer 10

women are confused. the truth is, women don't like nice guys, they like bay boys. Then when they realize they got a bad boy, and have to pay the price, they realize that nice guys are better.