I can't stop crying and I can't eat or sleep. Please help me. I never hurt so bad in my life.
2006-07-15 18:09:59 · 11 answers · asked by Kimgreeneyes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I had to get over a guy I was with 26 years. The pain is beyond comprehension.
You need to grieve the loss of someone who didn't end up being who they pretended to be.
You feel betrayed, that hurts deep.
I wish I had an easy answer for you.
Just know that you will recover. Make sure you don't blame yourself in this. You loved and trusted- nothing wrong in that.
It is his fault not yours.
Treat yourself well. Give yourself time to get over this.
Find someone else.
Don;t let this guy take away your future. He already took away..four years of your life. Don't let him take anymore.
The best revenge is to be happy.
Don't let him see your emotions. Don't give him the satisfation that you grieve the loss of him.
You definatly will surrive and get over this. You will be a stronger person because of it. You will definatly be wiser when you take in another man in to your life. Don't settle. You are worth a great guy.
2006-07-15 18:28:01 · answer #1 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give your crying a time frame... say you'll over him for a week.. after that take a deep breath..yeah take a bath....clean slate.. start a new life... and be THANKFUL that you came to know that he was an a**hole before you married him!!! And please don't think about all the happy memories the two of you made because it was all a lie..hello?!! he cheated on you. So be happy, be thankful, be pretty.. time for you to take charge of your life. Stop crying, don't let him beat you in the GAME of love.
Oh and if he ask for forgiveness and promise not to do it again.. don't listen, its a trick question...and besides he broke your trust so even if you take him back it just wouldn't be the same...
2006-07-15 18:25:21 · answer #2 · answered by little_devil501 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time girl that is the only thing that will help, You deserve better and he is not it. Look at it as a new beginning instead of a end. I'm going through the same thing right now my wife just left a week ago and yes it hurts but be strong for yourself , it will get better with time. They will get what they deserve, do unto others as you would have them do to you. Their day will come you can bet on that. So stand tall and proud and look to the future better days are just around the corner for you. Good luck and may God bless you and ease your pain. It will get better I promise.
2006-07-15 18:24:52 · answer #3 · answered by Drifter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey I really feel for you. Ive been thru this one too many times myself. Its not going to be easy but It will get better. Try to spend a lot of time with your girlfriends and do things that can help you take your mind off him. Stay busy. Go get some new clothes or a new haircut. Go out out Dancing, go to the beach, start a journal etc.... Whatever you do, dont call him. Eventually that horrible pit in your stomach will go away. And just remember not all men are like that, and you deserve better
2006-07-15 18:28:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kim, I feel bad for you. I went through a similar situation an it was an extremely hard endeavor. The thing that helped me was a vision quest. This helped me refocus on what was important to me and determine what I wanted out of life.
The best way to get over it is to figure it out on your own even though that is the most difficult.
2006-07-15 18:14:59 · answer #5 · answered by Bugs Malone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Leave him now. If you have a family nearby parents or so, you should probably stay with them for a while to clear your mind. Join a gym and exercise. My sister in law got left by her husband for another woman. She has 2 kids, one was 6 months and the other 1 year and a half at the time when her husband left her. She spent a lot of time talking to me on a phone.She moved in with her mom. Her and her mom and the kids moved away in another state, but I remember she spent a lot of time on the treadmill. She kind of concentrated on herself and the kids. He ain't worth your time. Show him you are strong and move on. You deserve better than him and trust me there is a good man out there for you.
2006-07-15 18:21:03 · answer #6 · answered by Donna M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... I think you should go on, life may bring a lot of disappointments, the best think to do is to cope with the truth, rather than living a lie, that in return doesn't mean that you can't have a true relationship in the future, believe in yourself not in someone else.
2006-07-15 18:18:18 · answer #7 · answered by Xebeck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You stop crying and pull yourself together. Dump him immediately and go spend time with friends and family.
Learn to be a better judge of character before getting too close to anybody new.
I've been there. Time heals all wounds.
2006-07-15 18:16:00 · answer #8 · answered by anosey1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a bat to his car or truck, lol That would make me fill better.
2006-07-15 18:13:18 · answer #9 · answered by houtexknights330 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just imagine him sitting on the toilet, constapated, having to take a big dump. that should cheer you up.
2006-07-15 18:14:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋