Having said that, consider this in a religion context. E.g. If there are infidels in your community, would you help him through or would you not care about him?
2006-07-15 18:00:11 · 14 answers · asked by Kurniawan A 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Good question!
Neither... If I had a son or daughter that was doing wrong, I would not accept it as that would be condoning it, which is wrong. I wouldn't disown them either. I would love them, help them anyway I could to go down the right path, and even if they didn't, I would still love them.
It's the same thing in our communities. I do volunteer work downtown with prostitutes and we try to let them know that we still care about them, that they are still loved, regardless of what they have chosen to do. We emphasize that we care about the person, the 'work' we do not agree with and will do what is needed to help them off the street, but we make sure they know they are cared about as people first, their work (prostitution) is an action not WHO they are.
Love the sinner, hate the sin - and it's not always easy to actually put this into practice, trust me on this one.
Through love and caring you will reach more people and help more people than by any form of violence.
2006-07-15 18:11:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would definitely depend on the level of respect. It would take a lot for me to disown a child of mine, I really can't even comprehend it because I've never experienced anyone disrespect me to that extent.
As for the religion context, it's like that old saying "love the sinner, hate the sin" - I think I would try to help the person. If it comes to the point where I have to choose between helping a person out or saving my own sanity or sense of self-worth, that is when I have to stop but until then I think that it's definitely worthwhile to try to help someone through.
2006-07-16 01:07:30 · answer #2 · answered by ykokorocks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! Would you throw away a dirty clothing or a dirty cup? I bet you don't..right? What you would do will be to wash it and then reuse it again.....I'm sure. Because it is the dirt that you want to discard and not the item. Well.....same to a human being. It is the deed that we should abhor and not the person. However, everyone of us will have to be answerable for our own deeds and actions and at the end of the day, we will be accountable for it therefore, we can only educate and admonish our wayward child, sibling or friend. There's nothing we can do if her/she chooses to become a black sheep but as long as we have done whatever we can to correct him/her, we have done our duties. We cannot change anybody's mindset if he/she doesn't want to make changes. The only way we could do is to live by example and hopefully he/she will come back to senses one day. Just a sharing......
2006-07-16 06:30:27 · answer #3 · answered by lim g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have six children, one is wayward as you might put it.
We do not condone her sin and she knows that how she is living is wrong, but chooses to live this way.
We love her and are sticking to biblical beliefs on this one, and the other five kids are watching and waiting for wavering on this I am sure.
The bible tells us that if we have raised her in the way she should go, she will come back to it when she is older. This is the hope that we hold onto.
It has been a year since we have heard from her, but we do have ways of making sure she is still ok, people who see her, let us know and such. She is always going to be our child and we are always going to be her parents.
Hope that sheds a bit of light on the biblical answer to your question.
2006-07-16 01:26:45 · answer #4 · answered by cindy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't disown a person just because they seem to be different from everyone else, specially if they are part of your family. Being different is what makes everyone special, plus either way it is not up to you or everyone else for that matter to decide who they are and should be and if it is wrong what they are doing....that is left up to god and he will decide what to think of that person. All you need to do is respect them as the person they are, don't worry about their differences and only look at the similarities, then it will make it easier to not see them as an outsider.
2006-07-16 02:31:55 · answer #5 · answered by Cool Chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im the black sheep in my family (the only one non-christian or jewish, dyes her hair funky colors, wears black nail polish, weird peircings, bisexual) and I've been accepted by my family because I am still a loving person who treats each and every person with respect.
2006-07-16 01:02:57 · answer #6 · answered by Wolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brought the child into this world. As such, it should be your responsibility to help him along the way. Of course, unless he refuses your offer.
In religious circle, the leaders should render assistance to their followers under their wing. Especially, when they show remorse for what they have done!
2006-07-16 01:09:42 · answer #7 · answered by ceffast 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love my children no matter what. They are mine and that is what unconditional love is all about. As far as someone needing my help, I would help someone that needed help doing something legal and has asked. I mean if someone fell I would be there to help them up, no need to ask. If my neighbor needed a ride to the store, I would take them. If my neighbor needed a ride to the post office to blow it up, I wouldn't be there for them but the cops would.
2006-07-16 01:10:21 · answer #8 · answered by Mawyemsekhmet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have anolder sister who left the family, faith and became a bisexual...we still love her, but she doesn't seem to listen. I want her to find faith on her own at thispoint. we have done what we can do, and now it is up to her. if we pester her too much, it'll just push her away more.
2006-07-16 01:04:29 · answer #9 · answered by bumble bee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jesus said to love one another. I believe this means everyone, no matter who they are, or what they have done. It sometimes is harder for me to love someone who has done something wrong against me, but I try to make the choice of loving them anyways. <><
2006-07-16 01:20:11 · answer #10 · answered by ichthus607 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋